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writes: i met a terific girl through an online dating agency not long ago, we got in contact on a messenger service & got along realy well, we met up 3 days after our first phone call to eachother & things went realy well, we spent a whole sunday together talking about everything & anything, i took her & her cousin shopping then to her aunties, we ended the evening at her cousins house for a meal, we got realy close & had a kiss & cuddle on the sofa.the second time we met, i picked her up from her work like we agreed to the day before, i took her home first to let her get ready for a nice drink down the pub, thats kind of where it went wrong, we found it very hard to speak about anything, every comment was strained as though we were too nervous to find a good conversation, after one drink she said its time to go, so we went outside the pub & kissed for about ten minutes, it then got confusing as she wanted to walk home instead of me giving her a lift in my car, she lives an hour away from the pub?she said she would leave me an email, one last kiss and she walked away, she hasnt sent the email yet but we spoke on messenger, she didnt want to talk long though & she said not to phone her tonight, she mentioned not being able to go out with me the next day, now im not sure what i did wrong, i gave her space to sort herself out & i came across friendly too, she seems to think things are going fine for us but i cant see how, i care about her alot but she never shows me how she feels about me, im not sure whether im just being paranoid or hoping things will be alright for us, i realy want to make this work, please help!
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reader, aunty butterfly +, writes (23 December 2005):
 Hi,
It could be possible that this girl has been hurt in the past and now she finds the only way to stop it from happening again is to stop seeing you.Had she just come out of a relationship?It's a high percentage of people that have been hurt and feel lonely that use online dating(ask yourself why you were on it in the first place)and there's also a high percentage of people who don't find what they are looking for.
This girl may be looking but it doesn't mean she can feel what you do.she still could be looking,should she stop?
On the other hand if you feel that she is just playing hard to get or just taking her time with it and doesn't want to sound as eager as you do right now,then i would say send her an email and tell her that you would like to think that your long search online for someone had cometo an end,and then ask her if she thinks that
you should delete your profile from the site you met on...if she says no..then i suggest you don't and carry on browsing.or maybe just give her time.you can't push too much with too many feelings at such an early stage of this type of relationship no matter how loving you feel towards them.You sound like a nice kind of man that would do a lot for people just like you did for her,but don't waste it on someone who doesn't want it,If she does want it and has seen the qualities that you hold,then she'll email you.
please remember that you might never find the right one online there is a lot of dates to read through after all,but if you set out for the fun and friendship side of things you never know you might just click with someone you didn't think you could...goog luck..Aunty B x
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