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writes:My Best friend has asked out the guy I have loved for over 11 years. She's rubbing it in my face by kissing and hugging him in front of me and she keeps telling me all the details of their nights out. It's making me feel so upset becuase I have loved him so longWhat should I do? Please help me.
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reader, Dearpaula +, writes (23 May 2006):
 HiI dont know how old you are and perhaps its not so important. I remember friends that I had when I was younger doing the same things to me. Does this guy know how you feel about him? I wouldnt bring myself to your so called friends level by coming onto the guy. Maybe he is shy. I dont know but you have to distance yourself from both of them as seeing them together is going to drive you crazy. I know I cant tell you to try and switch your feelings off because right now you are feeling so very hurt I imagine. My only advice to you is that you never know what is around the corner, try and look to the future. Embrace the fact that none of us know what road our life will take. Dont wait any longer for this guy, be strong and move on. Happiness is only around the corner, but you have to set yourself free first. Take Care
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reader, aunty butterfly +, writes (23 May 2006):
 11 yrs? oh my god girl,that must be a world record for holding back for as long as you have.surely this man hasn't been on his own for all this time?he must have had girlfriends before your so called best friend?and as for her?for as long as you are her friend,she'll will continue to talk about their nights out,she's your friend,you're supposed to share this kind of gossip with each other aren't you?if you can't handle it break free from them both...but if it's any constalation to you,wait until their nights out changes to his nights out with his mates down the pub and she's upset(watch that space)..LOL!please direct your love and passion towards someone who deserves it and to someone who'll notice you are the one for them(well at least before they are 100 years old anyway...LOL)Good luck and i wish you well...Aunty B xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2006): I agree with Mr. Anon below me. I was just thinking that when I read the header. Yes, it's painful to see your supposed best friend do that to you. It IS understandable. However, being in love with a guy for 11 years and not making a move? Shit, that's your fault isn't it? Now, you're friend wants to be with him, and all she did was make a move. She didn't wait 11 years to do so. However, I also feel that your friend should not be telling you any details, as you are sensitive to that of course.
There is NO betrayal here. HOWEVER, the least your friend can do is use some tact. You may of course, confront your friend about this. If she doesn't like it, well, you know how to avoid her. If she accepts it, then fine, now it's about you - will you be able to continue your friendship, or you just can't stand the fact that it happened for them so easily?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2006): Well, if you didnt make a move in eleven years its about time someone did. It's hardly your friends fault, and not like you never had a chance. Sorry to sound so brutal but perhaps next time you will bite the bullet and ask someone out before they're taken.
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reader, Angelicc +, writes (22 May 2006):
 Did you friend even know you were interested in this guy?
personally i think if you loved this guy for over 11 years and didn't make a move then you should really learn to move on. i'm sorry but you never took the risk of try to get him so he's not yours.
i believe you need to find the confidences in yourself to be able take a risk such ask a guy out. if you don't you'll only miss out on chance.
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reader, bonym +, writes (22 May 2006):
 Well for starters find yourself another friend. What sort of "best" friend carries on the way your so called mate has. If she knew you liked the guy and she keeps rubbing it in your face, she is no friend, my dear but she is an enemy. I suspect she is jealous of you and wants what ever you want, but my dear, her luck will soon run out. Trust me, it has happened to me and she will soon see the error of her ways. My friend, I can sympathise cos I have been there, you wil be ok, believe me. But you need to keep a distance from your friend, it was hard when I found out my "best" friend humiliated and betrayed me, but I am glad that I saw her true colours. All the best. xXx
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reader, monkey +, writes (22 May 2006):
f**k them both. shes obviously not a great friend. n hes not worth it. u can d better than that. u never know-tommoro someone else could come along and change ur life.
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