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6 September 2010: Good evening, Dear Cupid community: In my experience, there comes a question that men often ask: What do women want? The reason I post this question, is because some of these questions I see here in the community stem from this. There seems to b...
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Is it natural for men to openly stare at every attractive woman they see?
Q. hi hope someone can help me with this question I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years we have a 7 month old son together. my problem is he is always staring at other women for example if we are sat on the sofa at home the blinds are open a w...
A. 13 July 2015: The way I look at it, is that he is just admiring beauty/attraction. I wouldn't expect my girlfriend to not look at other men. It's not like we would both either act on it. I wouldn't expect her to view me as the most attractive person in the world. ... (read in full...)
She was amazing and beautiful and was the kind of girl I always dreamed about being with and it kills me that I let it go.
Q. To anyone My ex and I broke up after two and a half years almost a year ago. It was somewhat mutual. I went away for the summer to work in another country and while we said we were on a break we talked everyday and acted like everything was normal. ...
A. 16 May 2015: Hi Kevin,
It is not selfish to want to be happy. However, you need to get over her. Yes, she has helped you with your depression, but she has moved on, and has made that clear by seeing another person. Speaking from experience, if you can't re... (read in full...)
How do I get my lazy bf to clean up after him self?? Bitching hasn't helped.
Q. I've been dating my.boyfriend for over 2 years and we live together I'm 21 and he's 22. We used to have fun together, do stuff together, go everywhere together. But now all he does is sit at home stay in side and play his stupid video games. He don'...
A. 15 May 2015: If he has been doing this for as long as you've been together, then I doubt he is going to change. If he just wants to play video games all day, this isn't the man who you got romantically involved with, and the onus is not on you to change him. I ... (read in full...)
My fiance lied to me and now I don't trust him. How do I move on?
Q. Me and my fiancé have been together over 4 years. Sometime around a year ago, we were in an LDR, and his friend was having a bachelor party. I talked to him about it constantly, and we agreed that if there were going to be strip clubs that he ...
A. 8 August 2014: He seemed to be adamant against going. But at the same time, not having a close, personal friend at your bachelor party would give off feelings that he doesn't care about him. Put yourself in his shoes. I would ask him if he did anything. However, ... (read in full...)
I need some dating advice to help me approach women
Q. Hey all, bit of a weird question, I'm a 23 year old male, who has had 1 girlfriend, and I am a virgin. Great introduction! But, I'm starting to realize that my view on dating is perhaps 50 years out of date. I think that two people should be...
A. 26 June 2014: I thought about dating sites. However, they seem... Lazy? desperate? I agree with your logic, and that you increase your chances. I don't know, something about them has me wary. Also, you often have to pay for them, doesn't appeal to me. ... (read in full...)
I need some dating advice to help me approach women
Q. Hey all, bit of a weird question, I'm a 23 year old male, who has had 1 girlfriend, and I am a virgin. Great introduction! But, I'm starting to realize that my view on dating is perhaps 50 years out of date. I think that two people should be...
A. 26 June 2014: Thanks everyone for the feedback! ... (read in full...)
I need some dating advice to help me approach women
Q. Hey all, bit of a weird question, I'm a 23 year old male, who has had 1 girlfriend, and I am a virgin. Great introduction! But, I'm starting to realize that my view on dating is perhaps 50 years out of date. I think that two people should be...
A. 25 June 2014: Interesting perspective. I think I am going to as you say have to get outside of my comfort zone. Trial and error and go from there. Thanks! ... (read in full...)
Should I date this older woman?
Q. Dear all, I am really torn about this and need some objective advice (besides I am too ashamed to ask any of my friends). I will start with a quick summary about myself: I am 30 years old and had only had one relationship in my whole life. I...
A. 17 September 2013: It sounds like you want more than just a play toy, as you said you were never for one night stands. Also, it sounds like you are tired of this dry spell and want to give into something you are not. If you truly want to have this NSA, then ask her. ... (read in full...)
I'm a 22 year old virgin, trying to understand and deal with it!
Q. Hi all, I'm 22 and I'm still a virgin. To be honest, it doesn't bother me. It is what it is. I don't believe in sleeping around or getting to know someone for the purpose of sex like most people my age seem to do. I mean, sure there are people w...
A. 29 August 2013: Thank you everyone for the advice and input. I get this thought from time to time. Ultimately, I guess I have to accept this and just keep moving forward. @LoveinQuanta, the problem with taking the "high road" is that it gets lonely to the point ... (read in full...)
Why do people always say its good to be a virgin? what's so great about it?
Q. Im an 18yr old guy, just out of school, and I'm still a virgin...I don't understand why it's so hard...why I dislike it so much...I feel like I'm missing out...like everyone else is in on something that I'm not a part of. Then people say its a good ...
A. 6 September 2012: What's wrong with you is your attitude. You make your own happiness. STOP relying on others to make you happy. Find things you like to do, and do THEM I'm 21, and I'm still a virgin. I used to have your mindset and I do from time to time. But I ... (read in full...)
Why do I still like this girl and how can I let go of her?
Q. Good evening. I will keep this short. I liked this girl for a long time. She was dating someone then broke up. I transferred to a different university, but told her I liked her before I left (this would have been 4 months after she separate...
A. 17 June 2012: I feel kind of silly because I haven't seen her in person for over a year. It's kind of like "Oh... you STILL like me?". Idk. Oh well. Thanks for the support. ... (read in full...)
Why do I still like this girl and how can I let go of her?
Q. Good evening. I will keep this short. I liked this girl for a long time. She was dating someone then broke up. I transferred to a different university, but told her I liked her before I left (this would have been 4 months after she separate...
A. 16 June 2012: I do a bit of both. A friend of mine said I should tell her how I feel because I got a "not looking right now". Maybe a "no" would give me closure? ... (read in full...)
Unaware of feelings and career/girl
Q. Hello! I have two questions and I will try to keep them brief: 1. Most people who fall in love seem to be unaware they have feelings for the other person. However, with me, I over analyze things to death. Is there a way to stop thinking all the...
A. 7 December 2011: Thank you for your response. I agree, I overthink. But idk how to stop it.
I kind of want to go back and see her. But then she will know I just came back to see her, even if I don't tell her. Plus, I don't think I can do because next year would be... (read in full...)
Virginity, sex and relationships
Q. Good evening, I have thought of something that rather disturbs me and has for quite sometime. I'm currently 22 years old and I'm a virgin. I know I shouldn't feel embarrassed by it, but it seems that virginity is lost in highschool to th...
A. 16 September 2011: anonymous: "But modern sexual rules respect people with casual sex habits more than people who live by more chaste habits." -I don't want to believe that every girl I meet has had a vast sexual life. I don't think casual sex is right. There has ... (read in full...)
Virginity, sex and relationships
Q. Good evening, I have thought of something that rather disturbs me and has for quite sometime. I'm currently 22 years old and I'm a virgin. I know I shouldn't feel embarrassed by it, but it seems that virginity is lost in highschool to th...
A. 16 September 2011: I should specify. If that history is in healthy relationships, then that's fine. Will she ever tell me the truth though?... (read in full...)
Virginity, sex and relationships
Q. Good evening, I have thought of something that rather disturbs me and has for quite sometime. I'm currently 22 years old and I'm a virgin. I know I shouldn't feel embarrassed by it, but it seems that virginity is lost in highschool to th...
A. 16 September 2011: So I guess I have to conform to the notion that mostly everyone has casual sex. And that I need to be okay with this. I don't think I can. I think I would rather remain alone, than constantly wonder if my partner is cheating on me, due to her vast ... (read in full...)
I like a girl who's taken!
Q. Hello. I like this person for a few years now, despite she's been taken before I met her. I would feel bad if I made someone I like realize that her current relationship may be wrong. At the same time, it's kind of helping as if it would be say 5 ye...
A. 5 March 2011: Thank you for your response. I don't want to be the rebound. Or for her to view me as "filling in" for what was lost. I don't think these two will break up as they have been going out for two years. Idk. I kind of wish I never met her tbh. Like, sh... (read in full...)
Should he have discussed his plans with me first?
Q. Hi. I'm 18 and my boyfriend is 19. We've been together for 3 years.(He's a year older, so I skipped my senior year of HS, graduated a year early, just so we could go away to college together.) As far as our future goes, we've always had a reasonably ...
A. 5 December 2010: Hello there.
You are not in the wrong. He is being an idiot and it's not fair. You sacrificed a year of high school to be with him. You guys made a decision from the beginning in what you intended to do. I'm sure there was some type of rein... (read in full...)
I'm beyond lonely.
Q. Hit the half way mark of my 20s and am still single. Not bad right? Everyone falls into this category periodically. Except for the fact that I've been in this same boat all my life. I've never had a girlfriend or even been kissed for that matter. ...
A. 5 December 2010: Hello there.
I am the same the way as you. Except I am 19, and I have had one relationship that failed. I will spare you the cheap advice that everybody (including my friends) that give me. Of course I appreciate their concern. As to the "lit... (read in full...)
I am in love with him but not sure if I should tell him.
Q. When Im at my boyfriends house i usually stay there 5 days a week...he wants to do everything for me, he talks about the future with me in it, hes kind, generous, thoughtful, loving and calls me beautiful all the time. He's mentioned possibly moving ...
A. 21 November 2010: Hello there. I'm only 19, and I dated only one person in my life, and we broke up, but I will try my best to help. I notice at my age range, 19-22, people's minds are not in the relationship. What I mean is, yes they are aware of each other, b... (read in full...)
What do you do to maintain a relationship?
Q. What do you do to maintain a relationship? To make sure the feeling doesn't fade and keep it interesting? What both parties should do? What should I do, on my part? What are the secrets to you relationship? And what if, he's working miles away and ...
A. 29 October 2010: It's psychological. You lose the "lovey-dovey" feeling after about a year. BUT, people do things with one another (i.e. dates, presents, surprises, etc)to make the partner happy. That is to say, it's not ALWAYS material objects. Could be having a ... (read in full...)
Need a little advice on going to the next step, help??
Q. Okay, I have kissed this guy maybe 3 or 4 times.. And i think im ready to go to makeout. I know he wants to because he has told me he wants to before. I have never made out with a guy and im scared i wont do it right. Oh ya, He also has braces. I ...
A. 3 October 2010: Hello. Make out in the moment? Like, don't plan on it? I don't know, in my experience planning this kind of thing in advanced ruins it. With regards to braces, I have not made out with someone who has braces. Just try it and see what happens? I ... (read in full...)
He may want someone he can actually touch
Q. So.. where to begin. I'm a freshman in highschool. I got my first kiss at an overnight camp when I was 11. Not make out or anything. Last year at this same camp me and a boy, Oscar*, started to like eachother. He was my 2nd kiss, I his first. This ...
A. 17 September 2010: No problem. I'm glad I helped :D. ... (read in full...)
How do you get over someone who was so good to you?
Q. I was with my partner for 5 years. We talked about marriage and spending our lives together. However, over the last year we noticed that we wanted different things. I wanted to wait to get married, did not want to rush, I wanted to do a phd, become ...
A. 16 September 2010: Hi, I'm only 19. I have not experienced a break up of your magnitude. But let me propose a few things to you. Is it possible that you could get your P.hD and have kids? I know it's possible as I have heard of people going to school and having kids ... (read in full...)
He may want someone he can actually touch
Q. So.. where to begin. I'm a freshman in highschool. I got my first kiss at an overnight camp when I was 11. Not make out or anything. Last year at this same camp me and a boy, Oscar*, started to like eachother. He was my 2nd kiss, I his first. This ...
A. 16 September 2010: I'm sorry that I haven't responded to you. I haven't been on lately. I misspelled a key word. When I said "That being said, I would look at it like "Well, this is going to be another fail relationship". The would should be WOULDN'T. In my opinion, ... (read in full...)
What do women want in a person?
Q. Good evening, Dear Cupid community: In my experience, there comes a question that men often ask: What do women want? The reason I post this question, is because some of these questions I see here in the community stem from this. There seems to b...
A. 7 September 2010: I am a believer of equality. But I have yet to enter a relationship that reflect this. We will see what happens. Thanks for the discussion guys! ... (read in full...)
What do women want in a person?
Q. Good evening, Dear Cupid community: In my experience, there comes a question that men often ask: What do women want? The reason I post this question, is because some of these questions I see here in the community stem from this. There seems to b...
A. 6 September 2010: I reviewed the link you gave. This article seems rather one sided. The only equality that I see is the statement: "Women aren’t blame-free, but sometimes it is the fellas’ fault". She then goes to talk about how we are "hard-wired". Yes, we are both ... (read in full...)
What do women want in a person?
Q. Good evening, Dear Cupid community: In my experience, there comes a question that men often ask: What do women want? The reason I post this question, is because some of these questions I see here in the community stem from this. There seems to b...
A. 6 September 2010: Thanks for your responses. I'm looking for a discussion. I just want to hear your opinions. ... (read in full...)
I feel uncomfortable dating!
Q. hi, i'm 19, a virgin and never had a bf. i've always had small flings (if even that) that have just never kicked off the ground. i always moan about being the only single one all the time, but the moment any guy ever shows any interest in me, i for ...
A. 3 September 2010: Hello there.
There is nothing wrong with you. If you like him, you like him. If you feel uncomfortable with the idea dating him, then don't date him? However, I would try and see where it goes. Maybe your nervous? What do you have to lose by gett... (read in full...)
Love triangle problem
Q. hi all, I am in love with a girl who has been going out with another guy for 5 years - since high school. she has told me that she loves me more than her current bf. we hold hands when we go out(almost everyday)and she kisses my hand and all. i ...
A. 3 September 2010: Hey.
It comes down to who she wants to be with more. If she wants to be with this person more, then she is going to be with this other person. I understand that you love her, but by doing this it is not fair to the other person who loves her. It w... (read in full...)
What do I do about being desprite for a boyfriend?
Q. I am very deseperate about not having a boyfriend still-I am very behind in the romance/boyfriend deparment (not having one's VERY FIRST date or the imporant kiss-both are suppose to happen during one teenage years). Also I don't like blood and ...
A. 2 September 2010: Hey!
I'm in the same age range of you, and I had one significant other, who turned to be psycho... Let's not get into that. I completely understand you. All of my friends have significant others, and some are living together, and it really suck... (read in full...)
I'm thinking of ending this friendship!
Q. Well i have this guy friend and I told him freshman yr that i liked him and we got in a fight during the summer about he said she said kind of stuff and so we talked and made it better I told him we should hang out or do something together and he ...
A. 2 September 2010: Why would you want to end friendship? May be he has some problems at home or something? If he is being a jerk, then yes, I wouldn't associate with him. I would try to find what is up with this lack of communication. I hope i helped. ... (read in full...)
What are some signs he may like me?
Q. ok i am 13 so i dont know so much ok anyway i like this guy and i dont know if he likes me back and i needed someones helpand i dont feel like talkin to anyone else so i need some help with this i need some signs that he likes me hope u write back ...
A. 1 September 2010: Hey.
Ask him and see? Or wait a while and see if he does? If he doesn't ask you out, it could be you guys are just friends, or he is too shy. ... (read in full...)
Should I ask him to put her in her place?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 3months and knowing each other for 6months. This girl has been texting and calling(asking asking where he at so she can come see him and come to this hotel party.) She's been having this "crush" ever since ...
A. 1 September 2010: Hey.
Maybe they are just friends? Perhaps ask what the content is? It' not really right that you deny him and her of friendship. However it's not acceptable that he is texting someone who wants him in a relationship. If this is the case, then I woul... (read in full...)
How can you make a shy guy horny?
Q. What are some horny things you can say to a shy guy? And how can you make a shy guy horny?...
A. 1 September 2010: Hmmm. I guess it depends on how shy? If he is your significant other, then just say flirtatious things? ... (read in full...)
What do I need to understand about how girls choose a guy?
Q. What do I need to understand about how girls choose a guy? When I'm talking with a girl I like in a sexual way, I'm wondering whether I'm good enough compared to my competition, other guys. Or when I see another guy talking with the same girl an...
A. 1 September 2010: Hello.
I thought of this from time to time. Here is how I look at it. I just do my own thing. If a girl likes me, then she likes me. If she likes another guy, then she does. There is a lot of girls out there. That being said, if you want a rela... (read in full...)
My bi friend told me he loved me.. I may feel the same way
Q. I thought my best friend was gay and he just told me that he is bi and is in love with me. I love him very much and not sure how to handle this. I am married, not happily and he is in the processes of ending a long gay relationship. I think I ...
A. 1 September 2010: Hello.
First off, why would you take on the blame? It's his relationship. There has to be a reason why you married your husband. If things are not working out, try talking the issues with him? Sometimes, it may not work, and people have to go thei... (read in full...)
Feeling very uncomfortable in my own skin!
Q. helo.. Im a 19year old girl. And i have a bf that loves me so much that he stil tells me i look sexy. I have been putting on alot of weight in this year. I was always a nice size. Couldd wear anything i wanted to an it would look nice. Now ...
A. 1 September 2010: Hello.
Go to the local gym? If you are 19, this means you are probably in university or college. The gym fee is apart of my tuition. However, universities/colleges are different. Also, cardiovascular exercises is a good way to reduce fat all over... (read in full...)
He may want someone he can actually touch
Q. So.. where to begin. I'm a freshman in highschool. I got my first kiss at an overnight camp when I was 11. Not make out or anything. Last year at this same camp me and a boy, Oscar*, started to like eachother. He was my 2nd kiss, I his first. This ...
A. 1 September 2010: Hello there.
If he likes you a lot, he will not lose interest. Keep in mind, you are 13-15 years old and there may be many guys that come and go. That being said, I would look at it like "Well, this is going to be another fail relationship". I woul... (read in full...)
Is he flirting or am I being unreasonable?
Q. My boyfriend is wonderful to me and always does everything for me, however he just has one habit that really annoys me, he does seem to be too friendly with shop assistants and often engages in conversations with them while they are serving us. He ...
A. 31 August 2010: Hmmm. He seems he likes conversation. Does he say anything flirtatious to them? ... (read in full...)
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