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writes:I am very deseperate about not having a boyfriend still-I am very behind in the romance/boyfriend deparment (not having one's VERY FIRST date or the imporant kiss-both are suppose to happen during one teenage years). Also I don't like blood and guts-so do all guys out there like that stuff? My parents wouldn't let me go into the local city myself-sure I know HOW to use the GO train and subways-but I am a bit afraid of losing directon underneath the city. My parents will only let me go to a Pangea thing at the college in the next town-but advises me not to go to a pub event thing (which is were the most exicting stuff happens is at this pub)-since they claim that the people there are mostly there to drink(alcoholics) but there are other drinks for then non-drinkers to drink. There really isn't any place for me to find singles in my town-since online sites aren't for me and the only single I am aware of is a complete jerk.My friends and peers all have boyfriends/married/ etc so I feel like I am being pressured about it.So what do I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, atruenut  +, writes (13 September 2010):
Relax. I didn't have my first boyfriend till I was 20 years old! There's no rule saying you have to a have a boyfriend at a certain age. There are so many things going on in a young person's life: studying, school, family, building a career, discovering who you are. Having a boyfriend can be great, but as i am learning it is an emotional roller coaster that really distracts from all the other important things in life and requires serious emotional commitment. Take your time. Wait till you have more independence. There's no point in having a boyfriend if your parents won't even let you go out with him! Just relax!
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reader, Alwayswondering +, writes (2 September 2010):
Hey!
I'm in the same age range of you, and I had one significant other, who turned to be psycho... Let's not get into that. I completely understand you. All of my friends have significant others, and some are living together, and it really sucks. You want to experience that. You seem like a good person. Your parents are similar to my parent. Kind of over protective. However, as you get older, your parents will be less strict. Your 19 or 20, and they are going to tell you not to go somewhere? Hmmm... People tell me the same things. It will happen one day... Well, here is what I think. Yes, it will happen. These people will realize what a catch you are. Also, the exciting things happen at pubs and bars. I've been to a few (Although I did not drink, as I don't drink lol), it's really just a lot of people drinking, shouting, playing beer games. I look at it like, if you want to drink, then come over to a friends house in case something happens that you have to stay there. Another good thing is that you are in a controlled environment. Sorry, I digressed.
Another thing you said, first kiss, or first date in the teenage years. I know where your coming from, you see it on t.v. all the time and people around you. But, how I look at it is like, I would rather have a meaningful kiss or date someone who I see as important, or caring. I don't want to do it, to just get it over with, you know? I don't know if you think similar though.
Perhaps try the college you attend? There is a lot of people there who are probably share the same ideals, etc.
I hope I helped you. Good luck! Rate my answer please!! :)
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