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writes:So.. where to begin. I'm a freshman in highschool. I got my first kiss at an overnight camp when I was 11. Not make out or anything. Last year at this same camp me and a boy, Oscar*, started to like eachother. He was my 2nd kiss, I his first. This year at camp was amazing. We made it official that we were together and I really got to know him better and vice versa. We are really open and talked about kissing- wether or not we wantd to try a REAL kiss or not. We obviously both did but were super nervous because we were both prude! But eventually it happened, very briefly and after I was like -internally of course- "was his tongue just in my mouth?!?" But I enjoyed kissing him and him me. We didn't get to often and when we did it was short. I was dying to have a long perfect kiss with him. We are still together, the problem is that he lives in New York and I live in PA. We both love eachother and its not an issue of losing interest and finding someone else, but its a lack of communication. We text and call and video chat sometimes. I'm just worried he'll want someone he can actually touch. I plan on visiting him this year. And we plan to go to another camp together bext summer. I'm worri3ed bc I want his attebtion, I want him to call me first or ask me to vid chat, but I dnt know how without annoying him and making him feel like he has to do it, not that he wants to. I think I've been good about it though. If I ask if he wants to chat later I add that if he can't that id be completely fine with just texting or waitinmg til tomorow. Help. Please.
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reader, Alwayswondering  +, writes (17 September 2010):
No problem. I'm glad I helped :D.
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reader, Newbie31 +, writes (17 September 2010):
Newbie31 is verified as being by the original poster of the question That was a huge uhoh. Its amazing what two missing letters can do to a meaning. I have to admitt that I was uppset at that for a while and thought I was going to start to be negative as well. But better late than never. Thanks for clearing it up I feel much better. :) that is great advice and made a world of a difference to me. We are doing good. We dnt call or vc at all bc school just picked up but we do txt and we have been sending pics to eachother. Thank you again. :)
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reader, Alwayswondering +, writes (16 September 2010):
I'm sorry that I haven't responded to you. I haven't been on lately. I misspelled a key word. When I said "That being said, I would look at it like "Well, this is going to be another fail relationship". The would should be WOULDN'T. In my opinion, if you look at a relationship like this, it will fail because you A) expect, and if something messes up, instead of trying to help fix it, you may say something along the lines of "Well, I always knew this wasn't going to last". I'm in my second year of university. In high school, it seem relationships were for status, or being able to say "I have a boy/girl friend. I have had one relationship, and it was not like that. Or so I thought. Found out, that perhaps she was looking at it as a social status. But that's another story. I think if you like somebody, no matter what age you are, you should do it. Rather know what the outcome would be, then think about a "what could of been". Another thing that I notice around me. A lot of guys are not romantic at this age. I have friends who are, but the majority are not. However, a lot of them try, and I think that is good. At least they are trying. I think the calling should be mutual. My last girlfriend was so put on of me calling her every night at a particular time when it was a convenience her. Where I may have been doing a job around the house, homework or w/e. It seems this person is very much taken with you, and you with him. If he has these feelings for you, he will call or video chat with you. I wouldn't worry about annoying him. if you guys are both aware of the mutual feelings for each other, I don't think it matters if you want to talk/video text with him. I hope I helped. If not, tell me what I'm not helping you with :P.
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reader, Newbie31 +, writes (14 September 2010):
Newbie31 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionPlease more advice!
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reader, Newbie31 +, writes (2 September 2010):
Newbie31 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI'm 14. I've already come to realization that all through my highschool years I'm going to be in failed relationships. They won't last. Just because I know they won't last doesn't mean I won't try them out and try to make the best of it. I think if I go into one thinking "well this is a fail relationship" why bother? Ultimately I know this won't work out forever. But ill know its because it just wasn't meant to be, not because I lacked in effort. And I've come to the fact that when this fails, it won't be bc he lost interest or doesn't like me, it'll be bc we love eachother and couldn't stand not having the other always there. So it'll be a kind of "I still love you but we deserve to have someone to hold all the tine."
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reader, Newbie31 +, writes (2 September 2010):
Newbie31 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThe main problem is that I don't want to seem to clingy or attached by wanting to call or for him to call. The problem isn't about him losing interest or anything I know he won't. How do I get him to initiate video chatting and calling? We both initiate texting fine.
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reader, Alwayswondering +, writes (1 September 2010):
Hello there.
If he likes you a lot, he will not lose interest. Keep in mind, you are 13-15 years old and there may be many guys that come and go. That being said, I would look at it like "Well, this is going to be another fail relationship". I would just see where each relationship takes you kind of thing. But, as I said, if he cares for you, he will not lose interest, and will not cheat on you or anything like that. My advice would be to keep in contact with him, make the most out of your time together, and work things out. I hope I helped. Rate my answer please!!
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