I wonder if family stress should be blamed for the loss of my cat to kidney disease? Or are there other factors that cause kidney failure ?
Q. Hi Readers, I lost my Cornish Rex Male cat in April of this year. He was like a friend to me and I am still very distressed about it despite having counselling and being on anti depressants. If there are any other cat lovers out there I was just w...
A. 10 November 2011: Speaking as a previous Rex owner, I can fully understand your loss, and offer you hugs and sympathy.
Sadly, kidney failure is very common in cats, and anecdotal evidence (from the show circuit) is that it seems to be more common in rexies. ... (read in full...)
Would women 35-45 be interested in me?
Q. I am 28 right now. Since teenage , I have been really attracted to 34-45 age group girls. I find them extremely hot, polite and mature. I am dying to have girlfriend and wife being coming form this age group. I always compliment them ...
A. 10 November 2011: well... my husband of 9 years is 9 years Younger than me. :)
If youre a caring, genuine guy, sure they will enter into a relationship with you. Just be open and honest :)
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I'm starting to see a red flag -- is it really there?
Q. I wanted your guys or girls opinion on something? I met this realy nice lady, we are about the same age we hit it off great and actually still are, though we have been going out exclusively with eachother for only 6 weeks. Now this woman has neve...
A. 20 October 2011: I can see your point in that something that could have just been mentioned in passing ( i got this bruise, this dude I havent seen for ages text me today) attracted a huge detailed in depth story. And yes, its common for liars to make huge detailed ... (read in full...)
I am very upset that someone else is treating my son in this way - what should I do?
Q. Dear Cupid My son is 8 and lives with my ex-husband and his wife every second weekend. Last weekend, the wife had an argument with my son and my son lay face down on the couch. The wife told him to stay there until he had calmed down. He went t...
A. 20 October 2011: Tread very carefully.
He may be your son, but that doesnt make what he tells you infallible. Maybe he doesnt get on with the new wife? He is only there every 2nd weekend after all.
I would be having a quiet calm talk to his dad first - make sur... (read in full...)
She moved in with me after her divorce, am I being used?
Q. Well I'm at a real loss here About a month ago I moved in this girl I met online like 6 months ago,because she is getting divorced,and was kicked out of her place,along with her 2 kids both under 2,anyways during the course of our short "friends...
A. 20 October 2011: well, she has already told you " I like you as a friend right now,but I feel like we could be something more at a later time,I'm just not ready for a relationship". Are you willing to wait for something that may never happen?
While its good tha... (read in full...)
We both have put on weight and I really don't like my wife's belly fat, should I take the first step in getting fit? Will she follow suit?
Q. Hi guys, i'm here to ask for help about something is bothering me to much. After my 4 years marriage me and my wife got belly fat. We are not fat, lean, but have it. My wife's belly bothers me to much, even if she's too hot and gorgeous. I keep ...
A. 15 October 2011: okay im confused. you said you and her are "not fat,lean" and she is "too hot and gorgeous". Is there actually a problem here? Or are you so indoctrinated by the media idea that to be desirable you must look like a skinny stick insect? By al... (read in full...)
Not sure what the 3:00 a.m. text meant?
Q. I met a guy a few weeks ago and he has called me to meet up several times since then. I had dinner with him last night and he asked me to let him know if I wanted to meet him again this week. I got home, texted him asking about something (in a ...
A. 14 September 2011: it seems like he needed someone to talk to, and thought of you. He texted and got no reply, and had the decency NOT to call at 3am. Then he fell asleep & the urgency passed. :)
He obviously thinks of you as someone he CAN talk to, and I dont thi... (read in full...)
The bible tells me I'll go to hell for liking girls. Should I get help?
Q. The Bible tells me it is wrong to desire women sexually, I feel like I'm going to go to hell for liking girls. What should I do? I have like girls since I was a pre-teen, I'm now 65 yrs old. I have dated men on and off my whole like, even marri...
A. 14 September 2011: apparently the bible also says it is an abomination unto the lord to eat shellfish, and that it is okay to beat your wife with a stick. Do you believe these things too?
If you believe your god is a god of love, than he will accept you for who and ... (read in full...)
Can Nair damage your private area?
Q. dear cupid, what are the risks associated with using nair on your bikini area (and i don't mean just the line...i mean everywhere)??? i've heard that it's pretty painful, but is there anything beyond that??? like, could it actually damage ...
A. 14 September 2011: If you are sensitive, or the skin is thin, it can cause a chemical burn. Depending on how bad the burn is, it can cause scarring. I wouldn't do it again :(... (read in full...)
We don't know how to tell our partners about us!
Q. im 24 and my fiancee is 23 we've been in a relationship for two years now and we're engaged too, but recently i met this other women while i was away on a lads weekend and we hit off straight away. we both had no intentions of finding someone new ...
A. 14 September 2011: Really.
Your fiancee is going to be hurt whatever happens.
You had the opportunity to walk away from this other person, knowing you were already in a committed relationship, and didnt. So either you werent ready to be in a long term relationshi... (read in full...)
His sex drive disappeared, why?
Q. Hi, first of all thanks for taking time to read my problem !! Okay so, I've been with my boyfriend now for just over 2 years. We're both healthy, young adults. He works from 8-5 Monday to Tuesday and i work 9-5 Monday - Saturday. We pra...
A. 14 September 2011: my husband of 9 years has almost no libido, and this has caused some major issues, as I have a pretty good sex drive. I'm talking maybe once every 6 months for the last four years. Yeah its tough, and it makes you feel as if its you, esp if he still ... (read in full...)
How do I confront him about the texts I found on his phone?
Q. please can you help me, i checked my partner of 2 years phone and found a lot of girls numbers and some very sexy texts, which he has replied to, i am heartbroken ,how can cofront him when i had to put his pin number in to get in his phone ,i feel ...
A. 10 September 2011: he feels guilty, is why, and so he should.
That texting /sexting stuff is an emotional betrayal, I have had the same issue believe me :( Best wishes... (read in full...)
My husband insists nothing happened between him and his female friend, but I know he's lying
Q. Sorry for the length, needed to vent. I have been with my partner 9 years. He has a job that means he is away from home at least 1 night a week, but usually more. Late last year I became aware of a woman he had befriended (he felt sorry for her b...
A. 10 September 2011: thanks everyone for your thoughts.
I have already told him about what I know, his response was the expected - to get angry, blame me "your looking for problems that dont exist", and emotional blackmail " if you want us to break up, just tell me,... (read in full...)
An ex contacts you just to jump on you because you seen them and didn't ask how they were?
Q. I have a male best friend and he asked me a question the other day which has me a little stumped. He saw his ex out somewhere while he was with a group of friends. He didn't speak to her at all. A couple of days later she contacted him via email ...
A. 8 September 2011: yeah, I have one of those too :)
She does it because she wants to still be important to him. The fact he didnt care shows she isnt, and she didnt like it!
My husbands ex (of 10 yrs!) still pulls this crap. He calls her "the psyco" to everyone... (read in full...)
She likes, would date me....BUT she still wants to have sex with other people!!!
Q. Ok, this is a WEIRD one. But maybe you guys can help. See, I know this girl who is sort of promiscuous. Yet she's hott. And sweet. And so we been out a bit. Never slept together or anything because believe it or not, I dont think people should do...
A. 8 September 2011: Do you really want other guys laughing at you behind your back? Not to mention the risk of STD's to yourself. You said it yourself- "be LIKE a girlfriend to me." But not really your girlfriend. She seems to have commitment issues at the very lea... (read in full...)
Boyfriends/Girlfriends/Husbands/Wives of international tour guides?
Q. How do you deal with your partner being away from home so often? My gf has just launched her career as an international guide and already her schedule is so full that she is lucky to spend 1 day at home every week. Understandably I'm quite upset ...
A. 28 June 2010: my partner is not in the travel industry, but he is away from home a great deal because of his job. Earlier this year I saw him for only 10 nights out of 30.
I won't lie, I find it very hard. Especially when he gets used to being by himself, doin... (read in full...)
What's the hang-up on swallowing?
Q. It probably has been answered already, but what is the real hang up on women not wanting to swallow a man's ejaculation. Taste? Contents? Etc. Also, if you are going to let them cum in your mouth, what's the difference? Men go down on women and ...
A. 24 June 2010: for some of us, our tummies will accept it, but our intestines do not. Exploding gastric while enjoying sex is not acceptable to the majority of people ;) ... (read in full...)
At 18 his father took them to a prostitute, I can't seem to get over that??
Q. Im not looking so much for an answer as advice from people who have maybe been in a similar situation. My bf and i have been together almost a year now, in that time i found out he had slept with a prostitute, before he was with me. I find this ...
A. 24 June 2010: I'm more concerned that the father thought it was okay, "and they all used prostitutes" - so the father did too?! If the parents are still together it doesn't say much for the way the father has taught his sons about fidelity and trust in a ... (read in full...)
No idea what to do, I'm a mess!
Q. Hi, This isn't entirely to do with a relationship, but as i'm a member i thought that I would post here and see what answers I get anyway. So, as you've seen in the title, I need to know what to do, I think I am depressed. I've been researching...
A. 23 June 2010: I suffer from depression, and can see some similarities with myself. I would definately recommend that you see your gp, who should (if they're half competent) refer you to a psycologist / psychiatrist, and maybe prescribe some low-dose medication ... (read in full...)
Opinions on curved dicks?
Q. Hey, I've seen this question argued before, but what do women think about curved dicks? I mean, I have one.. it starts out straight, then has a gradual curve downward, about 45 degrees. Is that a problem? I guess I can point it up, but the curve ...
A. 10 June 2010: Myself, I think a hard man is good to find ;)
But really, I wouldn't have a problem with it. There are some medical issues that lead to curving, so if your doc has given you the all clear then its not an issue.
its all about HOW you use it, ... (read in full...)
Any advice on going from lovers to friends?
Q. Any advice on going from lovers to friends? We never managed to get together when we were younger so there was a lot of expectation when we did. Neither of us could live up to all those years of expectations and we have finally admitted it hasnt wo...
A. 9 June 2010: I was friends with my ex before we started going out. We were together almost 9 years before we parted. And 8 years after splitting up, he is still my greatest friend. we still meet up for lunch, go fishing sometimes. We dont talk every day or ... (read in full...)
My husband wants to keep both his family and his girlfriend, what should I do?
Q. my husband has an affair my daughter discovered her father's affair through his cell phone. my husband felt guilty but he wanted to keep both his family and his gf. he promised me his gf won't be his mistress and that his family is always his...
A. 4 June 2010: of course YOU can choose! The very fact he won't (not can't) make a choice, and is saying you and your daughter are making it worse, shows he has no interest in how either of you feel. Family is not his priority - HE is his priority.
Hugs ... (read in full...)
How can I make my parents see that even though I'm pregnant I still deserve the wedding of my dreams?
Q. Hello, DearCupid, and thanks for reading. Well, I am 22 years old and my boyfriend and I recently discovered that we are having a baby. We are excited about this idea and plan to stay together and raise our baby together and frankly the ...
A. 4 June 2010: I understand what you are saying - why can they not see that this is a happy event, not something to be ashamed of? A wedding AND a grandchild! Why is their embarassment more important than their emotional support they should be providing for their ... (read in full...)
Still under my mom's apron strings at 27...
Q. I am 27 years old and live at home with my parents. I recently split up with my girlfriend of three years. The relationship had been secret for two out of the three years. The first year my parents were aware of my GF but they did not know that she ...
A. 3 June 2010: Dude, I'm sorry, your mother may indeed be a wonderful woman, but she cannot see that you have grown up and have your own life to live. You are a disappointment because you found someone else to share your life with, and she would not have you to ... (read in full...)
My husband wants to keep both his family and his girlfriend, what should I do?
Q. my husband has an affair my daughter discovered her father's affair through his cell phone. my husband felt guilty but he wanted to keep both his family and his gf. he promised me his gf won't be his mistress and that his family is always his...
A. 3 June 2010: Your husband is not worth your time. His family is obviously NOT his first priority, or we wouldn't be here to start with. He sounds like he wants this woman for access to her money, so really he's being two-faced to her too. He wants to have a ... (read in full...)
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