My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 1 June 2007: Five months have passed now, you really need to ask yourself, how much time do you want to waste being unhappy? You won't live forever you know, you could be taken out with a brain tumour & then all this suffering was for what?
We are so lucky to... (read in full...)
I get a thrill from cheating on my husband, but feel guilty afterwards! What do you think?
Q. i am happily married woman...yet i cheat on my husband...i always feel bad afterwards...but i get a kind of high thinking about it and doing it..till its over..what do you think?...
A. 30 May 2007: It's obvious to me that this woman is too identified with her wants & needs & not anyone elses.
Also, it's easy to say that monogamy is living a lie, but how many people out there could cope with their partner shagging around? I know I couldn't... (read in full...)
I feel like I should have been a more "dominant" male instead of treating her as an equal...
Q. I've screwed up I guess, I should have taken charge early on. I should have tried to take her in hand so to speak. I guess that I'm a bit naieve to be honest in that respect. I lost my father when I was 7yrs old, so didn't have a father figure. M...
A. 5 March 2007: Thankyou, you've given me hope that there are decent women out there :)... (read in full...)
Why can I not get a date? I'm told I'm pretty but I won't "put it about!"
Q. Hi! I have boy troubles! Well I don't want to sound concieted but I at least get told I'm pretty or beautiful by strangers everyday. I was nominated for most beautiful in high school and I won miss personality plus. I was in the 10% of my class n I ...
A. 28 February 2007: Could it not be that you're putting out this superior aloof image? I know my girlfriend used to do that when she was young. In some ways, she still does! I also used to do the same because I was different to other boys and I used to look at them lik... (read in full...)
I feel like I should have been a more "dominant" male instead of treating her as an equal...
Q. I've screwed up I guess, I should have taken charge early on. I should have tried to take her in hand so to speak. I guess that I'm a bit naieve to be honest in that respect. I lost my father when I was 7yrs old, so didn't have a father figure. M...
A. 28 February 2007: I don't think I've been a doormat as such. I've had a string of bad relationships though. To be honest, I only feel happy taking control in a relationship if I feel secure myself. This relationship didn't start brilliantly to be honest, I got ... (read in full...)
She wants the 'wow' in a relationship so she obviously isn't finding that with me! What should I do?
Q. My girlfriend looks at other men and says that she looking for this 'wow' in a relationship. I said 'well you obviously aren't getting that with me then' and she didn't deny it, instead she said that she didn't trust me because my best friend is a ...
A. 26 February 2007: I've been feeling insecure recently because of all this, so I probably haven't been as happy and jolly. There's been times when I've been with her and I've felt quite angry and upset. I've probably gone quieter than usual due to this sometimes. ... (read in full...)
we love each other but my gf feel the spark is gone. How do we get that back?
Q. I have been with my girlfriend just over a year and we are very much in love. Recently she has said that she is not as attracted to me now as she first was but maintains that she still loves me just as much and that we ought to try to make it work. ...
A. 19 February 2007: Very good advice from someone there, get yourself out with your mates more. Make yourself less available. Have lots of girls talking to you and flirting for you. It works a treat ;)
I do find it sad that one has to do this however, but I guess ev... (read in full...)
My girlfriend told me that she can't remember what I look like when I'm not around. Am I just being sensitive?
Q. My girlfriend told me that she can't remember what I look like when I'm not around. She obviously recognises me when she sees me of course. Yet she says that she can remember what my brothers look like! Does this mean anything? or am I just bei...
A. 19 February 2007: I do wonder if she's trying to make me insecure sometimes. I don't know why though. She's always trying to wind me up. I wind her up too though, but it's always obvious.
I do see her quite a lot, usually mid week and then all weekend, most wee... (read in full...)
Time has not healed how I feel about him - even though he is in love with his GF!
Q. Recently this year I was involved with a guy who had a long-term girlfriend. He was my perfect guy and I was convinced throughout that they were going to break up and he was going to want me to be his girlfriend. Of course, I was fooling myself - ...
A. 16 February 2007: I do think this is an egotistical thing. I mean, the guy is obviously a complete arsehole. How would you feel if he was your partner & he was sleeping with someone else? Because if you won him over and he did go out with you, that's exactly what he ... (read in full...)
When my gf and I are together, she calls her male friend to join us. And when he's around, she pays more attention to him than me!
Q. I'm dating a lovely girl but I fear she could be hung up on someone else! I've been dating a girl for 2 months and everything seemed to be going great. When I'm with her she's thoughtful, very affectionate in and out of the bedroom. for the...
A. 16 February 2007: Well, I've been invited to my girlfriends mates 40th birthday. To be honest, I really don't want to go for fear of the same situation arising again. I guess that I have to face it though so that if the same does happen, I can mention it. I... (read in full...)
My gf's behaviours have me confused! Does she see me just as a play thing?
Q. I'm confused by my girlfriend. She's very affectionate, cuddles me all night long, kisses me and stuff. Cooks me meals. She talks about us doing stuff in the future too like going away to places. Then when I ever say that I missed her or anything ...
A. 15 February 2007: I spoke to her last night, I told her that if she wasn't that bothered about the relationship or she thought there was no future then she should say now. I said that I was OK with us breaking up. She said that she really liked me and did want us ... (read in full...)
My gf's behaviours have me confused! Does she see me just as a play thing?
Q. I'm confused by my girlfriend. She's very affectionate, cuddles me all night long, kisses me and stuff. Cooks me meals. She talks about us doing stuff in the future too like going away to places. Then when I ever say that I missed her or anything ...
A. 14 February 2007: I sometimes think that she's trying to get a reaction out of me. Perhaps she wants me to get p!ssed off with her or something. Why would she be testing me, to see if I'm insecure or to make me get aggresive perhaps?
I do try to give as good as ... (read in full...)
My gf's behaviours have me confused! Does she see me just as a play thing?
Q. I'm confused by my girlfriend. She's very affectionate, cuddles me all night long, kisses me and stuff. Cooks me meals. She talks about us doing stuff in the future too like going away to places. Then when I ever say that I missed her or anything ...
A. 14 February 2007: She doesn't come accross as being jealous at all, but maybe she's very secure.
I suspect that she doesn't like it when I don't get in touch with her. She went away last weekend & I think she got a bit miffed because I hadn't said that I missed h... (read in full...)
She doesn't pay me much attentions anymore and I don't want to lose her. What should I do?
Q. I have a huge problem ! OK, me and my girlfriend are going on 6 months with each other. in the beginning thing were great. We hung out more we talked more and our love life was good. but recently she has taken things down a few notches and ...
A. 12 February 2007: Just ask her outright if she wants to break it off. If she says yes, it'll hurt but at least you have the truth & you can move on from this. Also it'll make you look cool & you can walk away with your head held high knowing that you had the strength ... (read in full...)
Worried that when he does hurt her, she'll come crawling back to me, and, being a gullible old fool, I'll take her back!
Q. I use an intenet chat service from time to time; I met a girl on there in September(ish) (virtually met) and we both agreed to go out on a date (this was in November). However, she said she couldn't get down (she lives in Yorkshire) because of work ...
A. 12 February 2007: Dear oh dear, you are in a bad way.
I must ask, where you quite happy up until you met this girl? If so then try to think back to then & remember how you felt at that time & you'll realise that it's not such a big thing.
If you weren't happy be... (read in full...)
He still talks about other girls in front of me even though I have asked him to stop because it upsets me!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for just over a year and am quite an insecure person. Whenever he talks about other girls, be they famous or otherwise it really gets me down and i get upset. I have asked him to stop and even broke down crying one day ...
A. 12 February 2007: I'm inclined to agree, if he was going to do something with someone, he wouldn't be telling you about it.
He obviously gets a rise out of telling you this stuff, so you should give as good as you get. He'll probably respect/fancy you more for it! ... (read in full...)
Am I with somebody who cant control their urges??
Q. Hi there folks. I've been seeing a girl now for nearly 4 months and I really like her. She's everything that I want in a girl, very affectionate, funny, attractive, etc. When we go out drinking though, I see her rubbernecking at blokes. Last wee...
A. 7 February 2007: From some of the things she says, it sounds as if she's a closet tart. She won't have sex unless it means something yet she has said that she wishes she could just have sex with men without feeling bad. I feel that part of her does want to have ... (read in full...)
I Know I Need to Move On but HOW????
Q. I've just split up with my boyfriend and i'm finding it so hard to cope with. I know he's moving on now, he's already speaking to a few other girls. He says he's single but there are girls he's texting cos it stops him from being lonely. If i text ...
A. 6 February 2007: You will have great times again, just with someone else instead. You need to hold on to that thought & as you get older you'll come to see that what I said is true. I've had my heart broken on so many occasions & have thought I had lost something ... (read in full...)
Am I with somebody who cant control their urges??
Q. Hi there folks. I've been seeing a girl now for nearly 4 months and I really like her. She's everything that I want in a girl, very affectionate, funny, attractive, etc. When we go out drinking though, I see her rubbernecking at blokes. Last wee...
A. 6 February 2007: The thing that has done my head in is that she's so affectionate, I mean she cuddles up to me all night long, she wants to have sex pretty much every time I see her. When we spend time together we get on great, she does make the effort by doing nice ... (read in full...)
Am I with somebody who cant control their urges??
Q. Hi there folks. I've been seeing a girl now for nearly 4 months and I really like her. She's everything that I want in a girl, very affectionate, funny, attractive, etc. When we go out drinking though, I see her rubbernecking at blokes. Last wee...
A. 6 February 2007: The thing that has made it difficult to walk away is that she's so affectionate, I mean she cuddles up to me all night long, she wants to have sex pretty much every time I see her. When we spend time together we get on great, she does make the ... (read in full...)
Am I with somebody who cant control their urges??
Q. Hi there folks. I've been seeing a girl now for nearly 4 months and I really like her. She's everything that I want in a girl, very affectionate, funny, attractive, etc. When we go out drinking though, I see her rubbernecking at blokes. Last wee...
A. 6 February 2007: The thing that has made it difficult to walk away is that she's so affectionate, I mean she cuddles up to me all night long, she wants to have sex pretty much every time I see her. When we spend time together we get on great, she does make the ... (read in full...)
Am I with somebody who cant control their urges??
Q. Hi there folks. I've been seeing a girl now for nearly 4 months and I really like her. She's everything that I want in a girl, very affectionate, funny, attractive, etc. When we go out drinking though, I see her rubbernecking at blokes. Last wee...
A. 6 February 2007: Thanks everyone for your support, it's much needed and appreciated.
The thing that has made it difficult to walk away is that she's so affectionate, I mean she cuddles up to me all night long, she wants to have sex pretty much every time I see he... (read in full...)
When my gf and I are together, she calls her male friend to join us. And when he's around, she pays more attention to him than me!
Q. I'm dating a lovely girl but I fear she could be hung up on someone else! I've been dating a girl for 2 months and everything seemed to be going great. When I'm with her she's thoughtful, very affectionate in and out of the bedroom. for the...
A. 4 January 2007: Thanks Vina and everyone else too.
It is tricky & some people have been telling me to put distance between me and her. let her make the moves, i.e. wait for her to phone, text or arrange dates, make myself more unobtainable & if it fizzles ... (read in full...)
When my gf and I are together, she calls her male friend to join us. And when he's around, she pays more attention to him than me!
Q. I'm dating a lovely girl but I fear she could be hung up on someone else! I've been dating a girl for 2 months and everything seemed to be going great. When I'm with her she's thoughtful, very affectionate in and out of the bedroom. for the...
A. 4 January 2007: I should have added that she has said in the past she doesn't show her feelings. I guess she's been hurt many times if she has gone for blokes who don't commit or who don't show their feelings & this is probably a coping mechanism. Her affections ... (read in full...)
When my gf and I are together, she calls her male friend to join us. And when he's around, she pays more attention to him than me!
Q. I'm dating a lovely girl but I fear she could be hung up on someone else! I've been dating a girl for 2 months and everything seemed to be going great. When I'm with her she's thoughtful, very affectionate in and out of the bedroom. for the...
A. 4 January 2007: I should have added that she has said in the past she doesn't show her feelings. I guess she's been hurt many times if she has gone for blokes who don't commit or who don't show their feelings & this is probably a coping mechanism.
I did wond... (read in full...)
When my gf and I are together, she calls her male friend to join us. And when he's around, she pays more attention to him than me!
Q. I'm dating a lovely girl but I fear she could be hung up on someone else! I've been dating a girl for 2 months and everything seemed to be going great. When I'm with her she's thoughtful, very affectionate in and out of the bedroom. for the...
A. 4 January 2007: I guess you're right vina, I haven't exactly got much to lose because I can't go on thinking what I'm thinking and still see her, it's eating me up.
I just don't know how to go about it as if he is just a very good friend and somehow I've got it a... (read in full...)
When my gf and I are together, she calls her male friend to join us. And when he's around, she pays more attention to him than me!
Q. I'm dating a lovely girl but I fear she could be hung up on someone else! I've been dating a girl for 2 months and everything seemed to be going great. When I'm with her she's thoughtful, very affectionate in and out of the bedroom. for the...
A. 4 January 2007: Thanks for that.
I feel that I should talk to her about it but I wouldn't know where to start! If I said the wrong thing it would ruin it for sure.
If there's one thing that women seem to run a mile from it's insecure men!!!... (read in full...)
She's meeting another guy 1 to 1. I'm really uncomfortable with this. Should I tell her not to meet him?
Q. Hey, I've been dating this girl I really love for about 4-5 months now. We had a few problems about her hanging out with other guys because I really don't feel comfortable about it. We really love each other but I just don't feel comfortable with ...
A. 3 January 2007: A question for the person who wrote the reply, what would you do if you saw the two together and felt that your partner fancied the bloke? even if they are supposedly just friends.
How would you tackle that one? Reason I ask is because that is ... (read in full...)
Heartsick over her playing around with an old bf..will we ever be able to build the trust again?
Q. I need help. First, the background. I met a girl the end of September, and we really hit it off. The end of October, we both said "I love you". She is mid to late 20's and I am mid 30's, there is 8 years between us. I decided to take her on a qu...
A. 3 January 2007: I have to concur with the other guys here.
Leave her for a few months at least, perhaps it'll teach her a lesson, perhaps not.
Dump her for now, date other women although it'll be tough, it might be the best thing you can do.
The thing... (read in full...)
Girls seem to like me, but then completely cut me off for no reason. Is there something I need to change?
Q. I've just returned from a trip abroad with some friends. On New Year's Eve, while we were in a nightclub, I met a girl who lived locally. Despite not being much of a playboy and not too successful with women, it's not too rare for me, with my ...
A. 3 January 2007: I wouldn't worry about it too much mate. You're only 22-25, you've got plenty of time to find your confidence with women & you'll probably realise what it is if anything that might be putting ladies off.
Perhaps you should talk to some of your ... (read in full...)
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