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writes: Hey, I've been dating this girl I really love for about 4-5 months now. We had a few problems about her hanging out with other guys because I really don't feel comfortable about it. We really love each other but I just don't feel comfortable with other guys around her. It's not exactly jealousy, but I dont know. Anyway, she's meeting up another guy next week. It's not in a group and she's just meeting him up 1 on 1, which makes me feel even more uncomfortable. What should I do? I didn't tell her how I feel about her meeting him up yet, but I still feel so uncomfortable. Should I tell her not to meet him? What do I do?
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reader, tallbloke +, writes (3 January 2007):
A question for the person who wrote the reply, what would you do if you saw the two together and felt that your partner fancied the bloke? even if they are supposedly just friends.
How would you tackle that one? Reason I ask is because that is my current situation & don't know how best to tackle it. I'm afraid that I might have it wrong and so look a pillock! Her male friend is a good friend, so she says, so it could cause problems!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2007): Why exactly are you uncomfortable about her meeting another guy alone? Are you worried she will like him more than she likes you?
If you believe that she loves you, then you have no reason to be worried. If not, then the two of you should sit down and talk about how you really feel about each other.
Maybe she's just the kind of person who has an easier time relating to guys than girls? Personally I find women and their fashion and interior decorations discussions dreadfully boring and would rather talk about programming any time of the day.
You can't really tell her not to go. That would be and very controlling and will probably make her pissed off with you.
However, you can tell her that it makes you uncomfortable. If she chooses to go anyway, it's her decision (but if she starts seeing him 3 times a week alone, I would be worried too...).
Maybe she can arrange for the three of you to meet. You probably would find out by then if there's anything to worry about.
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