I want a time line or garuntee that I'm not hanging around for nothing...
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for over 2 years now. Our relationship has had it ups and downs, but I feel that every day we get stronger and have truly grown up together. I only have one problem, I don't see our present changing into a ...
A. 18 August 2008: Anonymous, You make some very good points, and perhaps I focused my question more on the marriage than on the current problem; although the problem is what I had in mind. Right now, he and I are struggling. We are living paycheck to paycheck,... (read in full...)
My future mother-in-law sent 60 invitations and made arrangements for a formal dinner for the wedding but we have no money!??
Q. I am eighteen, have no parents and share a flat with two other girls. I am getting married at the end of the year to an only son whose parents, naturally worship him. His mother thinks I am going to turn him against her, which is the last thing I ...
A. 18 June 2008: Absolutely not! I know this is a huge burden on you as you have to come between the mother and the child, but if she isn't going to pay for what she wants, then she can't have it. You have to talk to her alone, without your fiance there, and explain ... (read in full...)
I need good advice on how to cope alone with 3 kids after my husband left me.
Q. I've been married for 11years and now my husband left me for another woman. we have 3 children. we put in the divorce papers. I haven't worked for like 9 years. I have no income i have no job no one that can baby sit my kids for me to work he works ...
A. 10 June 2008: The pieces of advice below are both excellent. Legally and financially: seek out Legal Aide and WIC which is help for single mothers. A Legal Aide attorney will help you make decisions about your home and your divorce proceedings. If the divorce... (read in full...)
Why is he so distant with me? Is it because he's never had a girlfriend before?
Q. I met this guy a week ago through friends since I just got out a bad relationship. He's 20, I'm 23. He's never been in a relationship, no girlfriend at all. We have seen each other about 4 times in 7 days and 2 times he made plans, and he didn't ...
A. 7 April 2008: I think at 23 and coming from a relationship, you have very different priorities than he does. You are a woman, with a life and a job, and goals... and he is a college kid just breaking in. A three-year difference at this stage of life is too big a ... (read in full...)
Will I ever be more than a friend to people??
Q. hey there, Im a bisexual lad, im 19 and im desperate for a relationship. People comment that think im good looking and cute all the time, but i never seem to meet anyone (nobody finds me attractive or that im not boyfriend material). I do...
A. 3 February 2008: I will tell you one thing from experience: desperation leads to compromising yourself... never good.
You might feel that you just want something to come along, ANYTHING. But if you stoop down for anything, you will give yourself to people t... (read in full...)
Did I ever really get her back?
Q. I have a problem that I created. About three years ago my wife and I was playing and I made her a profile on a dating web site. I wanted to show her she was still desirable and make her feel sexy again. I let her start playing on the site and it ...
A. 3 November 2007: Go to counseling. You have children and a history together... a LIFE. It's not just so easily done as just LEAVE her. There is a family and children's futures to consider. My best advice is to seek counseling. That might have also been a better ... (read in full...)
I think he's addicted to the gym. It bothers me. Am I being selfish???
Q. hi, i have been with my bfriend for 1 year we live toghether and are happy, the thing is he is always at the gym! we both work fulltime, he goes to the gym after work and on saturdays, he finishs work at 5pm and doesnt get home until 8.30ish pm! he ...
A. 30 August 2007: Our situation is similar, I live w/ my boyfriend of over a year and the gym is a DAILY for him also. But he has his reasons for going. Be happy he isn't a guy that goes to a bar everynight and drinks up around a bunch of women. Believe it or not, ... (read in full...)
We never seem to be alone to try to have sex together.
Q. I really want to have sex with my boyfriend and he says he wants to as well but we never have a place to do it because there are people always in my house and his so we can never be alone and also I wouldn't know what would start us off, would it be ...
A. 30 August 2007: you're too young to start thinking about that. Of course he wants sex, he's a young boy and you want to experiment. Be glad there are people around, they are preventing you from making a mistake.... (read in full...)
When she and I started having sex she always and still does complain about pain but my concern is that her vagina does not seem tight at all.
Q. Hi I have a problem with my girlfriend but she doesn't know of it. She is not a virgin (neither am I); she said she had very infrequent sex with her ex who by the way took her virginity. Furthermore she never bled with him nor with me. They had sex ...
A. 30 August 2007: Take her to a doctor as soon as possible. Having a gynecologist check her out is the best way to know for sure what is going on. Guessing and trying to have sex in spite of her pain will only worsen your worry and whatever problem she might have.
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Mom found a condom wrapper in my bedroom. She now says my bf and I are not allowed to be alone together, here! Is she being unreasonable? or is she right?
Q. Right this is a long one so i need to find a place to start. Well im 15. Have been with my 17 year old boyfriend for 5 months. i was moving my room around with my mum nd she found a condom wrapper. She at first was pretty ok about it, but then she ...
A. 14 June 2007: She is right, but about you... if you are not open to advice or "preaching", then don't ask for it.
She's right, and you know it. And if he cares, he'll come to your house, even if he's scared.
Good luck.... (read in full...)
Whats the deal with whose needs should come first !?
Q. Im not sure why this is bothering me but it is so im going to ask it. Who should be first in a serious relationship? Men and women, asnswers please. If your a man do u put your needs ahead of your womans? If your a woman do u put his needs ahead of ...
A. 14 June 2007: The way it should work should be you are first for him, and he is first for you. That way, bith set of needs are met, and both parties are happy. It's not always gonna be 50/50, sometimes it'll be 60/40, 70/30... but if it's always you giving more, ... (read in full...)
Im always trying to be helpful and romantic, so how do I deal with him cussing and not returning the favour ?
Q. hey hey..this question is to anyone..Im with my bf for 3 yrs and we r living together. When it comes to dinners, well, I do them every single day. I like to experiment when cooking so that gives me fun. And once in a while, I do some "romanti...
A. 14 June 2007: he's getting TOO comfortable with the idea of you catering to him. You have to cut down on the cooking and the romanticizing. I understand perfectly, b/c you treat him as you would like to be treated, well... maybe he's doing the same. Don't cuss at ... (read in full...)
He said that work pressured him to watch the freak sex show, I dont believe him, what do you think ?
Q. if u heard that ur bf says that work has pressured him into going in and watching a freak sex show while being on his company trip, would u believe him that he was pressured and gave in or not? cause i don't, i have never let someone pressure...
A. 14 June 2007: uhh... yea. Unless there was a gun pointed to a vital organ, he didn't need to go.
That is PURE disrespect.... (read in full...)
Is it fair to ask him not to go to bars until I'm 21 aswell!?
Q. My boyfriend and I started dating when we were 17 and he has now just turned 21. I don't mind that he is able to drink and does when he can but I am concerned about him going to the bar. We made a promise to each other that we wouldn't go to bars ...
A. 14 June 2007: He made a promise, and promises shouldn't be broken. And you're not making him wait a year for you, just a few weeks. He's being selfish and unreasonable.
Be firm in your convictions. He is breaking a promise to you, and a guy should not be aroun... (read in full...)
I've not dated in a while, so I'm in need of tips on how to get a guy to notice me!
Q. in basic terms i guess my question is how do you get a guy to notice you? i havent had a date in several years and i am going to be moving soon and i want to kind of start over w/ the whole guy thing. ive been told by friends that im a great ...
A. 14 June 2007: Start out by going out with friends. You'll be more relaxed with familiar people around and they can "wing" for you and let you know who's eyeing you and who you should run from.
And most importantly, BE YOURSELF. Don't worry about what you don'... (read in full...)
Do I ask him to get the tests done or come off the pill and let nature do its thing!?
Q. help i posted a question a while back about my new man not being able to have kids and me wanting another baby, well after speaking about it again he has never had any tests done to prove this he was with his ex for 4 years and for 3 of them they ...
A. 14 June 2007: You should ask him to get tested. There might be many reasons why you can't get pregnant, and anything concerning his health should be addressed. Once you know what the problem is, you can work towards a solution. And what better motivation than ... (read in full...)
Should I get him a fathers day gift even though hes not the biological father ?
Q. hey. well im 15, i was 15 in march just gone and i have the bestest boyfriend in the whole wide world. ever. and i love him lots and lots. we have the sweetest most beautiful baby girl, who is just 6 weeks old named taylor and she is adorable. we ...
A. 14 June 2007: YES, a young guy that can stick around and love you after a situation like this... he deserves an AWARD! But I'm sure what he would appreciate the most is some recognition from you.
A great guy like him deserves it.
You're a lucky girl.
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My inadequacies and insecurties are causing me to kill the relationship... Please please help!!
Q. Hi, I am feeling really insecure about myself, i doubt my ability to do anything and cannot seem to look positive at anything? I have a wonderful girlfreind and I am beginning to affect this relationship because I am jealous and insecure.. I fee...
A. 14 June 2007: First off, if she didn't feel that you were "adequate" for her, she wouldn't be with you. You've had a streak of bad luck... that does not make you a loser. That just says, once you get the job you deserve, you will appreciate it and work for it ... (read in full...)
I dont know what to do, my partner is pregnant and still smoking! I'm healthy and getting sick of the smell!!
Q. My partner is pregnant and has not stopped smoking - she also drinks occasionally a few drinks at a time...i've kind of got my head round it a bit. However I live with her at her place and hate her smoking when i'm at home - nevermind being bad for ...
A. 14 June 2007: You HAVE to take control... not for her or yourself... but for that child. The child has a right to be born healthy and strong. She is not being considerate of that fact, so YOU have to take away her cigarettes, take all of the liquor out of the ... (read in full...)
I often feel disgusted when my fiancee touches me. Was this because of the way my ex bf used me, sexually? How can I get over this?
Q. What can I do to get over this and move on with my life? I was in a relationship for four years. My boyfriend at the time would often sexually abuse me by messing with me in my sleep on a regular basis. I would often wake up with him inside ...
A. 8 June 2007: Go to therapy. This will help you out. You have NOTHING to be ashamed of, and therapy is nothing to be ashamed of either. If anything, attend a few sessions with him so that he can better understand that it has nothing to do with him (although it ... (read in full...)
I feel as if my husband doesn't love me any more...
Q. I have been married for nearly 4 years and in Feb this year i fell and broke my foot and it has took til june for it to repair, All this time my husband and i have been under stress with money etc, as i can go back to my job until it is fixed. ...
A. 8 June 2007: Seems like you have a man similar to mine... whenever there is a problem... it consumes ALL of him. He seems like the kind of person who can't set problems aside, and when he tries... it's by disconnecting from everyone and everything. Accusing him ... (read in full...)
How do I get a really smoooooooth shave in my genital area?
Q. Im 16 When i shave my vagina it leaves red dots and when i run my hand over my vagina it feels like i havent shaved, its all prickly and hurts.. how can i make it feel and look like there's no hairs there. Also do guys get turned off by a little bit ...
A. 8 June 2007: I use hair conditioner and a new razor each time, but for the best result... get a wax. The hair will grow thinner each time and less and less will grow. But if you absolutely HAVE to, use hair conditioner... i have sensitive skin too and I don't ... (read in full...)
We got in an argument, so he slept over his ex's house! He says nothing happened, but I don't kow what to believe!
Q. hi all, question to all males out ter. can u please help me !!! why would my bf of 3yrs tell me he went out for dinner with an ex of his from years back, then went back to her place for more drinks but slept on sofa while she slept in her bed. Sin...
A. 6 June 2007: he has a lot of trust to earn... do you want to go through w/ that?? and a man who even FATHOMS the thought of cheating on you isn't worth a cent.
move on honey, you're better off.... (read in full...)
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