A
male
age
41-50,
*LUECHEVY
writes:Hi I have a problem with my girlfriend but she doesn't know of it. She is not a virgin (neither am I); she said she had very infrequent sex with her ex who by the way took her virginity. Furthermore she never bled with him nor with me. They had sex maybe 5-6 time over a one year period and it never lasted long enough for him to have an orgasm.. she was always in pain. When she and I started having sex she always and still does complain about pain but my concern is that her vagina does not seem tight at all. In my experience with my ex partners my foreskin normally rolls back upon penetration but it has never happened with her. During sex I don't feel her around me at all. My size is average 6-7". Could someone please help. I love her very much and I don't want this to enter our marriage.
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female
reader, penta  +, writes (30 August 2007):
 I think every woman is different. I don't have any other answer for you.
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reader, BLUECHEVY +, writes (30 August 2007):
BLUECHEVY is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the link penta I read it and I'll have to do some enquiring and investigating with her. But what do you all think about the looseness of her vagina?
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reader, BLUECHEVY +, writes (30 August 2007):
BLUECHEVY is verified as being by the original poster of the questionBut what about the looseness of her vagina..any comments..advice..suggestions?
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reader, penta +, writes (30 August 2007):
I don't think it matters when the pain is, as far as whether she's going to want it goes. All people are pain-averse -- we try to avoid it. I don't think you (or she) want to put her into a position where she tries to avoid penetration.
I found this site that might help:
http://home.cfl.rr.com/dahmd/dyspare.htm
Good luck.
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reader, BLUECHEVY +, writes (30 August 2007):
BLUECHEVY is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI understand you guys. But just to clarify; only upon penetration she is in pain afterwards she's ok. Furthermore when I perform oral sex on her she's ok upon penetration.. once i move quickly. If i don't she dries up instantly..worse yet if she has an orgasm during oral sex then she dries up and cannot get wet again. Also I'm concerned with how loose her vagina is...shouldn't she be tight? My ex girls had much more sex than she and yet their vaginas made my foreskin roll back upon penetration..help?
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reader, penta +, writes (30 August 2007):
spirited has the right idea. Get outside help immediately. Asking her to have sex when it's painful is a way to get her to stop wanting sex at all.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2007): I think the problem is same to a friend of mine....She complain same but i think she confess not enjoyin sex...so it make the vigina wall so dried that if the guy is penetrating she feels pains...mayb you ask her if she enjoy sex...then if yes ...u have to do more of oral sex and she is could reach orgasm if she do make love to her and see if she could still feel the pains ...
if that doesnt then consult a specialist
remain blixx
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reader, spirited +, writes (30 August 2007):
Take her to a doctor as soon as possible. Having a gynecologist check her out is the best way to know for sure what is going on. Guessing and trying to have sex in spite of her pain will only worsen your worry and whatever problem she might have.
Keep loving her and take her to a professional.
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