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writes:if u heard that ur bf says that work has pressured him into going in and watching a freak sex show while being on his company trip, would u believe him that he was pressured and gave in or not?cause i don't, i have never let someone pressure me into something in this case..to all men who read this: is this just some plain excuse to let himself off the hook? Reply to this Question
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (14 June 2007):
 Hi there, sweetness,
No, I'm not a guy but here's my thoughts anyways...
First off, I almost want to believe your boyfriend. It seems like a 'men-on-company-trip' kind of thing to do, go to some sleezy freak sex show. And, there can be a lot of pressure for all the guys to participate. Especially if any higher-up's were there (i.e. his boss), it might feel awkward for him to turn down something that traditionally all men like. Men can be cruel to each other, and perhaps if he turned down his friends they'd call him whipped, or gay, or a pansy, what-have-you.
There is also the possibility that he's lying. Maybe he's into this sort of freaky thing and he's embarrassed, At least he told you, and at least he didn't go to a brothel or a strip club or anything. It's a SHOW, a PERFORMANCE. These things can be pretty hilarious.
I don't think this is anything to be too concerned about. It might be fight worthy, but it's not break-up worthy.
That's just my two cents, sweetness. I hope that we helped you sort things out a little!
xxIndia
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reader, Banoffee  +, writes (14 June 2007):
 Er, what hook?
It sounds like you've heard from someone about something your boyfriend might have said about an event you weren't even party to. So what? Like harshbutfair said, why do you care so much?
My hunch is that he's either unnecessarily afraid of your judgment of him for his wanting to see this show or he genuinely found it necessary to see this show against his will for some reason and you don't know the whole story. Either way, it's got nothing to do with you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2007): He has his own mind, its easy to say no unless he has no balls. But come on he's a bloke, deep down he probably wanted to go.
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reader, Aunty Sarah +, writes (14 June 2007):
 I am not a bloke, but I do not have a problem with men doing this sort of thing. If he was out with his mates from work and they were all having a laugh and they did it for a giggle, then whats the harm in it! I think you need to work on your trust issues and let you man go out and let his hair down. Have you ever been to a sex show? I went to one with my fella in Amsterdam. It was not seedy or gross, it was quite good fun actually! It also gave us loads to talk about. Lighten up a bit! :-)
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reader, spirited +, writes (14 June 2007):
uhh... yea. Unless there was a gun pointed to a vital organ, he didn't need to go.
That is PURE disrespect.
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reader, harshbutfair +, writes (14 June 2007):
 Why do you care so much?
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