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I am just a simple 21 year old living in NYC and loving it. Love is just the most painfull yet the beautifull thing that there is, which is why i am here on this page as a devoted listener so that i may be able to help someone from the torment of love. |
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Should I keep trying to make this relationship work?
Q. Should I keep trying to make this relationship work? I have known my partner for 9 years. We are in late 30s ealry 40s. We nearly got together twice before but remained close friends and then finally three years ago we did. She had many partners...
A. 28 May 2009: First i had thought that it was all her fault but i think that you are just too conrolling. I mean she is a woman if she wants to get out of the house for a little you have to not mind it and leaving a note and all of that stuff...well it doesn't ... (read in full...)
Is it true men like the chase?
Q. I met this new guy, we have been dating for 2 weeks, but ive become obsessed, dreaming about him, thinking about him everyday, wanting to speak to him every day (but i dont) as i dont want to scare him off.... im 22 is this normal? im worried im ...
A. 24 May 2009: just don't make it too bovuious because as you have mentioned guys do like the chase and if you come off as you really like him he is going to distant himslelf from you. And so the best thing to do is to give him a little hints of the fact like him ... (read in full...)
Can't have anal sex
Q. i have a problem, embarcing one by the way,,,, i keep trying having anal sex with my boyfriend but i end up crying and shivering , i don't know why,although i want to but the moment i know it's gonna happen i could simply jump off , can any one ...
A. 24 May 2009: Anal sex is like sky diving, if you do it right you'll be in seventh heaven but if you don't it can leave you trumatized. Well anal sex is not that severe since your partner can pull out...lol Ok so here's the thing try and have a lot of stimulati... (read in full...)
When can I start kissing other women?
Q. Hi. My partner/wife is an alcoholic who eats too much chocolate, watches really bad TV and mows the lawn the moment my back is turned. She had a stomach upset earlier this week but is better now. She wants me to go to the tip at some point this ...
A. 24 May 2009: mow the lawn when your back is turned???
and kissing faces??? wow its either a joke or you were on something when you wrote it.
If that's not the case just because your wife is going through a phase does not mean that you have to go around ki... (read in full...)
How can I break things off without damaging our friendship for good?
Q. I am in a bit of a conundrum. A very close male friend and I have been sleeping with each other on and off for that last year. I have deeper feelings for him, and he does not reciprocate them saying that because his job is moving him in July, it ...
A. 24 May 2009: You can't. But what you can do is to ease the effects of it just a little. Try talking to him about your feelings toward him and how you like him and how you would like to have him in your life but its ineveitable that he is going to be moving away ... (read in full...)
Why does he rub it in that he is going out with another?
Q. hello im thirteen,,,i know im young but in love with this boy. we have been hanging out 4 a while now n we are/were ready to start the relationship. ok the reason why were werent in the relationship already is because of my last relationship which i ...
A. 24 May 2009: Bobbles is absolutely right...
He is just having the time of his life knowing that two girls are genuinely in love with him now there are two choices that you can make. One is to ask him to make a choice between the two of you and if he says i don'... (read in full...)
Heart hurts for my teacher
Q. I have the biggest "thing" for my teacher. I'm a male as is he, and it is probable that he may be gay as well. Not only is he my teacher (and will be for 3 years, including next), he is also a very respected and loved coach at our school. He is a ...
A. 24 May 2009: Let's just hypothetically say that he does care for you... and you guys say get romantically involved how soon would it be before someone finds out. Now only your heart hurts but if something was to be found then the entire school would be talking ... (read in full...)
Two boyfriends. If only they were one!
Q. Hey im seventeen and I need help with something. I have two boyfriends and I really didn't feel bad about it before because I only got into this second relationship because my boyfriend of five months lets just call him Tyrese has been busy with ...
A. 24 May 2009: WOW, and the best part is you sound entirely guiltless...
You do have to break up with one of them don't take in the fact that ken is going through emotional turmoil, because you can't base love on mere pitty.But ask yourself who would you rath... (read in full...)
Should I keep trying to make this relationship work?
Q. Should I keep trying to make this relationship work? I have known my partner for 9 years. We are in late 30s ealry 40s. We nearly got together twice before but remained close friends and then finally three years ago we did. She had many partners...
A. 24 May 2009: Hey,
First of all you are not jealous. If you are not jealous having seen all of the things you have i think that you have the right to be jealous. Moreover, having heard about the way she treats in you public it seems very apparent that she is not ... (read in full...)
I cry alot and don't know why?
Q. I'm in love with someone 4 years older than me. He's really nice and I used to talk to him online a lot. Recently, he's gotten distant and seems to be ignoring me.(I know him from school) I know some of the songs that he likes through talking ...
A. 23 May 2009: Sadly, the reason why you are feeling so vulnerable is becasuse you don't have a lot of things to fill your day with. The only way that you can forget about him and move on is if you would forget about him completely and do things to fill your day. ... (read in full...)
I want to believe that I believe her, but I'm sure I don't
Q. Girlfriend cheated over 2 months ago,she says shes sorry n she did sleep wt her cheat! i believe her! or atleast dats wat i wnt 2 believe!2 months down the line she has decided 2 b a religious freak and she doesnt want to have sex anymore! she says ...
A. 23 May 2009: ok, in a psychological point of view what seems to be at play is that she has become very aware of her sexuality because you asked her whether if she slept with anyone else and in terms of sex she feels so impure that she is willing to abstinence ... (read in full...)
My girl's ethnic preference has got me down.. Don't wanna be racist, and don't think I am. But it still smarts!
Q. I've been with my girlfriend for over a year now, and everything has been great. She's warm, funny, loving, great in bed, and on and on. I love her. Hell yeah I do! And we are about to move in together. Sounds great, right? It is, BUT.. I've been...
A. 23 May 2009: By making that rephrasing with "I" rather than starting with "and" thus suggesting that you are not implying anything with the demographic of detroit but rather starting a new idea with the phrase....you know what all of this means you are just too ... (read in full...)
1st cousin sex forbidden?
Q. i'm catholic and want to know if having sex with 1st cousin is forbidden to have sex with 1st cousin....
A. 23 May 2009: UM.... FIFTEEN AND A HALF IS YOUNG, you don't realize that because you are too young to realize it and besides sex before marriage is a big no no in the bible.... (read in full...)
My girl's ethnic preference has got me down.. Don't wanna be racist, and don't think I am. But it still smarts!
Q. I've been with my girlfriend for over a year now, and everything has been great. She's warm, funny, loving, great in bed, and on and on. I love her. Hell yeah I do! And we are about to move in together. Sounds great, right? It is, BUT.. I've been...
A. 23 May 2009: First of all you are not a racist...not at all. Its a basic feelign of insecurity and a reasonable, rationalble insecurity that you don't need to be ashamed of. I am a minority myself living in the u.s and i often see whites going head over heels to ... (read in full...)
What does sex feel like? I was born with no clitorus!
Q. okay, so the last thread totally didn't work because i did it wrong so here I’ll explain everything. i have NEVER had ANY feeling at all down there, ever, like since birth, basically, i don't have a clit. got no gspot, nothing. I’m gonna go to...
A. 23 May 2009: Lieing is very very bad it can break someone's moral and at the end its allmost as if the whole thing wasn't even worth it. You can tell your boyfriend about your condition...(sorry about calling it a condition) but you can tell him but its going to ... (read in full...)
Should I be getting my hopes up?
Q. I have started talking to my ex again, and he has started putting "x" at the end of his emails and online chat again. "sweet dreams x" and so forth, we live in different countries so getting back together would be much harder, I hear in the UK "x" ...
A. 23 May 2009: lol the fact of the matter don't get your hopes up untill he gives you a clear sign that he really does have feelings for you and untill he does that just keep up the casual conversation with the x's
ok now bye
XOXOXO
That's hug's and kisses....lo... (read in full...)
How do you learn to love somebody more than the person you wanted to be with for the rest of your life?
Q. I'm 19, I've only ever had one real relationship, and it was long distance. My relationship was the best time of my life, and now that's over I don't feel like I will ever love somebody as much as I loved her. I miss her so much, but we're finished ...
A. 23 May 2009: You can't... you can't ever forget about the memories you have made you can only make the past less significant through new memories... that is if you don't ever move on and think that she is not important to you and do the things that you want to ... (read in full...)
It was wonderful in the beginning but now it's rubbish. What do I do?
Q. I started dating my boyfriend a year ago and in the begining he was lovely he's 18 years older than me and everthing was great and i felt like a princess and that i could finally be with someone who understood me 2 or 3 weeks in i cheated i didnt ...
A. 23 May 2009: He treated you like a princess in the beginning because you were naive and innocent. By "princess" i think that you are trying to say he bought you things and took you places that no guys in your school would have done for you... and that's not ... (read in full...)
What do you think? Is there such a thing as love at first sight?
Q. I have a question for all those people out there, do you believe in love at first site, true love or phony love? I believe in all of them....
A. 23 May 2009: I don't know what phony love is but the rest may be true..
But love at first sight is often the most painfull sort of love because more often than not you tend to make the wrong choices based on first impressions...... (read in full...)
How can I change my parent's minds?
Q. Okay well my bf and i have been dating for a months or so now and he wants to go out to the movies this weekend problem is my parents won't let me. I'm 15 and I'm really responsible. I know the obvious reasons why they don't want me to go out with ...
A. 23 May 2009: Hayley is right you might have to let this saturday go since that might make them feel as though you are forcing them to let you guys go to the movies. Instead try asking your parents to meet him this saturday once they get to know him....well next ... (read in full...)
Should I keep trying to make this relationship work?
Q. Should I keep trying to make this relationship work? I have known my partner for 9 years. We are in late 30s ealry 40s. We nearly got together twice before but remained close friends and then finally three years ago we did. She had many partners...
A. 23 May 2009: No problem at all... Love hurts especially when you know that you have put in 9 years of your life only to find yourself in a state of confusion. But i think its time that you asked her to make a choice, because the fact of the matter is that if it ... (read in full...)
Should I take advantage of the situation?
Q. My husband and I have been together for 6 years but we have been thru a lot together recently we had a talk about the fact that we cant hold a convesation and well after a few hours he told me that he loves me but that he is not happy, I told him ...
A. 23 May 2009: Yeah but you are still young and you got your life ahead of you try and see if this works out since it is a marriage and you have put so many years into it. At the end of the day what matters is whether if you can work out your differences and come ... (read in full...)
Should I take advantage of the situation?
Q. My husband and I have been together for 6 years but we have been thru a lot together recently we had a talk about the fact that we cant hold a convesation and well after a few hours he told me that he loves me but that he is not happy, I told him ...
A. 22 May 2009: He seems like a really great guy to let be this generous with his choices with you. And here's something interesting love isn't exactly a mythical thing that only comes through glitters and rainbows... anyone can fall in love and uncomfrotably ... (read in full...)
1st cousin sex forbidden?
Q. i'm catholic and want to know if having sex with 1st cousin is forbidden to have sex with 1st cousin....
A. 22 May 2009: 13-15... sex with 1st cousin ????
BAD BAD BAD idea medically, mentally, socially, society based, and its gonna screw with your child hood and remember most of your judgements are based when you are young and so its a bad idea. And judging from your... (read in full...)
He loves me but doesn't want to get engaged
Q. hi all.I need some help. I have been with my bf for 2 yrs we always talked about marriage, when i sat him down he told me he wasn't ready to be engaged. So I was ok with it but he got mad cause he wanted me to be devastated. Should I stay with him ...
A. 22 May 2009: You don't sound ready to be married and well judging from you age you are not ready to be married. From the self-appraisal at the beginning of the page it seems so that you seem too focused on just your surroundings rather than it being anything ... (read in full...)
Why can't he be happy just having sex with me?
Q. Okay well i guess this is a really common topic but.. ive been dating my boyfriend for 3 years now and ive always been pretty self concious about myself but after being with him for so long i just feel like dirt. hes been cheating on me a...
A. 22 May 2009: Actually sweet heart men and porn are sort of um.... different. It has nothing to with being loyal, its just sort of a fetish that men have that has nothing to do with you.
BUT....When he says that he wants you to be like a porn star and made an ... (read in full...)
How can I force my girlfriend into dropping some weight?
Q. Ive been dating my girlfriend off and on for two years. We are both in our 40's and she is a couple of years older than me and has two grown up kids. We get on really great and spend a lot of time together, although we don't live together. She is a...
A. 22 May 2009: You are absoulutely right she would lose....not her weight although that might be an after thought. What i meant by loosing is YOU. If you are that shallow then you should go out with one of those insecure woman who would not only throw-up after ... (read in full...)
Should I keep trying to make this relationship work?
Q. Should I keep trying to make this relationship work? I have known my partner for 9 years. We are in late 30s ealry 40s. We nearly got together twice before but remained close friends and then finally three years ago we did. She had many partners...
A. 22 May 2009: HEY
No relationship needs this much work not in this sense... not at all. See the problem is that she is comfortable with you not in love with you physically or emotionally but rather in a state of comfort. And what's worse is the fact that she... (read in full...)
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