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writes:okay, so the last thread totally didn't work because i did it wrong so here I’ll explain everything.i have NEVER had ANY feeling at all down there, ever, like since birth, basically, i don't have a clit. got no gspot, nothing. I’m gonna go to the doctors but it hasn't worried me so far because I’ve been born with it, my boyfriend is experienced and is obviously doing everything right, I’ve masturbated, but gave up bothering as NO FEELING.right, i have no problem with that, I’ve come to grips with the fact that I’ll never know what sex feels like.HERES MY PROBLEM.my boyfriend doesn't know and I’ve been faking it all the time and he thinks i cum all the time, so today we were texting and he asked for me to tell him in detail what cumming feels like for me, so wtf am i supposed to say? i have no idea what it feels like, he has incredibly low confidence so i can't exactly just say "can't feel anything, sorry." so can anyone like sum it up for me?thanks.Xo
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reader, HarryMete  +, writes (23 June 2009):
Have you tried the A spot orgasm? The A spot (anterior fornix) is 3.5-4 inches on the front wall of the vagina. You can make it orgasm by firmly stroking it with your middle finger. Get your boyfriend to bring it to orgasm about 5 times with his middle finger and then have sex. You'll have your first vaginal orgasm from sex.
Harry
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2009): Were you diagnosed by a doctor? Or do you just think you don't have them because you can't feel anything down there?
If the latter, there may be still a chance that you do have them. I went through the same thing... I felt NOTHING down there until I was 19.
I liked allmd's answer.... A sneeze is a good description.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2009): It's highly unlikely that you were born without a clitoris. That would be pretty amazing. More likely is that you just havent discovered it yet. Faking orgasms is the single worst thing you can do for your sex life. Stop immediately and come clean to your boyfriend.
I think it's interesting that you assume it must be you that is damaged, actually MISSING ORGANS rather than admit that maybe your boyfriend doesn't know what he's doing, or rather that you don't know your own body. You are so young.
If you are convinced you are deformed, get a doctors opinion at least. After he tells you that you are normal "down there" (oh dear) then you can proceed down the long road of sexual self discovery. Buy toys, watch/read porn, masturbate, WHATEVER you need. You might have a low sex drive/hormonal imbalance. Ask your doctor about that too.
But please, please don't assume that you are broken or incomplete. Do you have foreplay? Does he go down on you? Are you lubricated when you have sex? It's strange to me that you don't want a solution to your problem, only a way to lie to your boyfriend convincingly. Trust me on this: HE WANTS YOU TO COME
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reader, allmd  +, writes (23 May 2009):
HI,
Just because you don't have a clitorus (I can't spell it either, and don't care) doesn't mean you don't have a g-spot. Have you been diagnosed by a doctor? Oh, I see, you are going to a dr. Why don't you just wait until you see the Dr.
Tell your BF that it is like a sneeze--it builds and builds and then release. best way I can describe it.
Good luck, and I hope you are wrong about your diagnosis.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2009): you've completely ignored my actual question :/ my question was how does it feel, not how can i get feeling, and fyi i didn't make the title it was dearcupid. second time you've answered one of my questions without even reading it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2009): .everyone every women i should say has a clit. look at a vagina diagram were the outside of the vagina shows, is this a joke, maybe you should make sure that there labled to. i bet you wish you paid attention in health class.
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reader, silvershocker123 +, writes (23 May 2009):
Lieing is very very bad it can break someone's moral and at the end its allmost as if the whole thing wasn't even worth it. You can tell your boyfriend about your condition...(sorry about calling it a condition) but you can tell him but its going to make the entire relationship weired from there on because sex is one of the cornerstone of any intimate relationship.
Just as you can fake an orgasm just say what may boost his confidence and all of that. I mean its a 15-30 minutes a day that you are sacrificing for his happiness and so it shouldn't be too much a sacrifice i hope. And go to a doctor and ask them what may increase you sensation down south.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2009): A true orgasm is amazing your vag mussels tense up and kinda twitch it is actually hard to explain. It feels like you have died and gone to a heaven that has chocky and icecream mmm im gettin hungry
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