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writes:My husband and I have been together for 6 years but we have been thru a lot together recently we had a talk about the fact that we cant hold a convesation and well after a few hours he told me that he loves me but that he is not happy, I told him that he is free to leave we dont have kids together I have one daughter from a previos marriage,so there is really nothing that should be holding him back. A few months ago I started nursing school and he told me that the best thing was for me to stop working, and I did. Now he says that thats the reason that he doesnt leave me because he needs to make sure that I atleast finish school first so that I could take care of my daughter and I, I know that its a great thing that he is doing cause he is paying for everything but what I don't understand is that even though he feels like this he still acts like we are fine and its tearing me up inside. I know that you can't make someone love you but what should I do, I perfer to just let it go now because everyday is a struggle to look at him knowing that he is not happy. Also yesterday he came out of work early I told me that he knew that my care isn't working right so he wanted to get me another one so that I won't struggle. I love him so much but I don't know what to do. Reply to this Question
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reader, silvershocker123 +, writes (23 May 2009):
Yeah but you are still young and you got your life ahead of you try and see if this works out since it is a marriage and you have put so many years into it. At the end of the day what matters is whether if you can work out your differences and come into some sort of agreement. If he married you that means that there must have been something that made him choose you over all of the other woman out there. Just try to find that flame in your life again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI know that he is a great guy I was married before and that one actually took everything I had so I do know how lucky I am, but everytime that I trying to be loving and caring I remember that it might not do any good and it make me mad. I don't know, it just hurts because I love him so much and I have changed all my ways to fit his. I'm also scared that he will start looking elsewhere since he isn't happy, c'mon when your not satified anything else looks good!
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reader, silvershocker123 +, writes (22 May 2009):
He seems like a really great guy to let be this generous with his choices with you. And here's something interesting love isn't exactly a mythical thing that only comes through glitters and rainbows... anyone can fall in love and uncomfrotably through any means. He seems like such a nice catch that i don't think that you should just let him go... what you should do is to do romantic things together and let him know how you feel.
Guys usuall like being in controle... so you can do a few little tricks to get him to feel dominat thus having him feel as though he is needed. And by dominace i simply feel little romantic things like when he is watching tv say that you are cold and really get in on him and say that he feels so warm and let a little warm moan... don't make the moan too unnatural....Do a few little things like that and wallah he is yours...
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