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writes:I'm in love with someone 4 years older than me. He's really nice and I used to talk to him online a lot. Recently, he's gotten distant and seems to be ignoring me.(I know him from school)I know some of the songs that he likes through talking to him, and stuff like that. But I don't know why everytime I hear the song on the radio/tv, what not, I will just be reduced to tears. Okay, in general, I will start to cry whenever I'm reminded of him.Can someone please explain to me what's going on and what should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you, I suppose you're right. This is not the first time this has happened but it has never been so painful. Thanks again for answering((:
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2009): You no longer feel as close to him, because its like he's been ignoring you. Anytime you love someone and you're not recieving that love back it hurts. I know exactly how you feel. I lost the love of my life. I now hardly listen to music because I'm still in the healing process. If you love him a lot you will have these moments, but you have to try to think about something good and snap out of it. It will get better, but it takes time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you to all the replies.
And I think both of you are right.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2009): You sense the end is coming. You know in your gut, that things are not the same.
After a breakup, we need to focus on the good things in our life...what we do have, not what we don't have!
You cry because it is a loss. As with any loss it's sad and you need to allow those emotions inorder to heal! It's a grieving process...it sucks...but it is necessary!
I divorced my ex over two years ago, we were together for 16 years. Last August he died. There are still some songs that I can't listen to without crying.
It wasn't a good marriage, but he was a part of me...good or bad.
Let yourself feel! Feel it and let it go.
Good Luck!
Britt
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reader, silvershocker123  +, writes (23 May 2009):
Sadly, the reason why you are feeling so vulnerable is becasuse you don't have a lot of things to fill your day with. The only way that you can forget about him and move on is if you would forget about him completely and do things to fill your day.
But if you would like to have the relatiship work with him may be try talking to him and try to figure out what happened that made him become very distant.
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