Why did he hone in on me, and keep those feelings even though we haven't talked in a while?
Q. I used to casually date this guy about a year ago, I really didnt take it seriously, because he's one of those guys who is always joking and having fun, and I was also involved with someone else at the time. I learned a few weeks ago from one of ...
A. 5 June 2013: I don't think its unusual for someone to still have feelings a year later. Especially since the relationship never fully materialized.
So long as its not coming from some kind of desperation on his part, then I think its alright. Maybe he has d... (read in full...)
I'm confused about my relationship and haven't told my parents about him yet
Q. So, I am dating a guy for the last 5 months who I think is great. He is funny, insightful, loving, and we have a wonderful time together. But there are two issues that really bother me greatly:1) He has kids (a boy that is 9 and a daughter that ...
A. 31 May 2013: Seems like a case of cold feet. These issues didn't scare you off in the first 5 months of dating, so how serious could they have been for you? Now that you have to decide to quit or face the issues, and its understandably a tough call. Seems to ... (read in full...)
Should I try to get to know better the brother of my ex FWB??
Q. Ok some time ago I wrote in about a really horrible friends with benefits situation I could not seem to get out of. It went on for two years until finally the cloud went from my eyes and I could see the situation for what it really was. We have bot...
A. 31 May 2013: The fact that he is (potentially) interested in the girl his brother was FWB with is a red flag for me. The two of them seem to lack good judgement and maturity in my opinion.
Best not to get entangled with either of the brothers, a lot more har... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend still not over his ex 2 years later?
Q. Hi, My boyfriend checks his ex girlfriends facebook sometimes, he was deeply hurt by how she treated him and was angry with himself about how he let her hurt him so much and it took him time to get over her. I was insecure that he was not quite ov...
A. 31 May 2013: Some people are deeply hurt during a break-up and although they can move on and be happy with someone new, the pain may never completely go away- only lessen with time.
It doesn't sound like he is doing anything wrong. I think everyone will che... (read in full...)
I've never had an opportunity with a girl like this, let alone, any girl interested in me. Should I stay away from this situation?
Q. This is sort of a dilemma. It's been a couple years since college graduation. My former roommate and female friend who have been together broke up not too long ago. I had visited them along with other friends from college. Well, the female frien...
A. 30 May 2013: Since you live a far distance apart it's safe to say nothing physical will develop in the near future. I think it's okay to keep talking with her and developing the friendship.
However, at some point, prior to your visiting of her, you'll have to ... (read in full...)
How do I show her that I won't listen to my friend's advice anymore and convince her to give me a second chance?
Q. hi i'm 16 year old boy and I i've been such an idiot..... I liked this girl and when I eventually asked her out she said that she wasn't sure if she liked me. then her mate says to me that she likes someone else and that she doesn't like me. the ...
A. 30 May 2013: Since you already talked with her and she denied you another chance at dating, I'm not sure what you can do.
Maybe she needs a little time, and sounds like her situation with her father may be causing some stress in her life too. Keep in touch wi... (read in full...)
I don't really have that many good friends, how do I fix this?
Q. I'm 27 and I've just realised today that I don't have any good friends, only acquaintances. I know I must be unintentionally doing something to cause this, so my question is how do I fix it? I always make an effort to be nice and friendly to peop...
A. 30 May 2013: I think the best thing you can do is make a lot of new friends because that is where it starts. That is how you can meet the right person/people that you'll connect with on a deeper level. Plus you'll have a lot more casual friends. I recently liv... (read in full...)
We all had plans to do stuff this summer, and now I'm not going to be invited to any of it. I'm really sad and feel lonely now. What should I do?
Q. Dear cupid, I had a falling out with the main person in my friend group I guess you can say. It was just a little argument over something really silly, something I didn't even do, but I apologized and he still won't speak to me. Well since the...
A. 29 May 2013: I'm not sure what you can do to change their minds. Hopefully they will realize after some time that they were being stupid and you can rekindle a friendship with at least some of them. In the meantime the best thing you can do is go out and ma... (read in full...)
My husband always looks at other women and tells me that's normal. I can't bear it! Help?
Q. whenever i am out with my husband, he always look at other womens which i can't bear. its hurting me always. due to which i don't talk to my husband 2-3 days. but still he does the same. i spoke to him about this. he says it's normal. but i can't ...
A. 29 May 2013: It's normal, but I consider it to be rude when with your wife/girlfriend.
A few glances is one thing, but lingering or staring so much that the object of his attention is creeped out - well give him a tug on the arm and hopefully you can train hi... (read in full...)
What do I do if she comes on to me? I don't want to be on her "list of resentments"!
Q. Hey all, I need some help! For some backstory, understand that my ex, lets call her Sue (names changed obviously) and I were a great couple back in high school and at the beginning of college despite going to schools that were 500 miles apart. Whe...
A. 29 May 2013: She's going through a trauma right now, so you don't want to rush anything with her, even if she pushes you. You're right to worry about having sex and then being on her list of resentments.
Try to approach it like a new relationship vs. a rekind... (read in full...)
Is it reasonable for your fiance to demand that you never speak to any exes?
Q. My fiance and I recently got engaged, mostly due to the fact that I got pregnant. We were having some problems but when we found out, we decided to work on it. It hasn't been easy but things are slowly improving and we're both excited about the ...
A. 29 May 2013: It is NOT reasonable for your fiance to tell you who you can and cannot be friends with. Your intentions with your ex are perfectly innocent and normal. Your fiance obviously has jealousy and trust issues, which are not good things going int... (read in full...)
Feels like my Gf does not trust me. How can I cheer her up?
Q. "Dear Cupid", I just got a girlfriend about 2 weeks ago. We get along really well and we love being around each other because we can almost predict what the other one is thnkng, which I think is a massive improvement on how we acted around each ote...
A. 29 May 2013: I think it's normal that she wouldn't want to share that type of problem with her new boyfriend so soon into the relationship. Maybe she doesn't want you to be jealous and start acting weird. She doesn't know how you'd react at all.
I don't th... (read in full...)
I'm single again. Now I think I've fallen in love with my best friend, What do I do?
Q. I've been extremely close to my friend for a little over 3 years now. Our friendship started out with us liking each other, then we kind of got over it and I got a boyfriend and was with him for 3 years. But my friend and I talk for hours on end on ...
A. 29 May 2013: First of all, make sure enough time has lapsed since your last relationship. If this is truly your best friend you don't want it to end up being a rebound relationship.
Just one thought... it sounds like he is your go-to friend for all kinds of... (read in full...)
Huge row and now he isn't talking
Q. HELP me and my bf are 15 and been together for nearly 11 months, its now the half term and me and my bf had a huge row Friday night because I saw him hug one of his female mates, I texted him asking why this happened he told me she hugged him b...
A. 29 May 2013: A lot of guys like to have a little space during/after an argument. It's pretty normal for us, so don't force the communication. Not to be harsh, but it can make you seem either needy (a turn-off) or annoying.
Seems like your turning nothing ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend never takes me out but goes out with his friends. Is this fair?
Q. Hi all I've a problem with my boyfriend every month end I must be left behind, he make sure that he goes out an leave me all alone at our to have a good time with his friends and comes back the following morning. I've talked to him about this but it ...
A. 29 May 2013: Sounds like he is lazy.
This is the kind of stuff where men need to be trained. He probably doesn't realize what it means to you (to have him plan and execute a date). In his mind he is spending lots of time with you at home and that should b... (read in full...)
Fiance had feelings for old school friend, how should I have handled this
Q. I am a 23 year old woman, and am about to get married to my fiance, but I have an issue. He has some feelings for a girl he used to go to school with, and I let my insecurity get the better of me and caused this girl a situation where I humiliated ...
A. 29 May 2013: The girl was right, you should have taken up your trust issues with the fiance and not her. Even if she was a threat (which it turned out she was not), it is your fiance that concerns you. Is the issues really about trusting him, or your own (unp... (read in full...)
Does he really like me? How come the gf is never mentioned?
Q. I have been seeing a physio since January, and I felt an instant attraction to him and I have been flirting with him since and he has been returning the flirting based on is body language. For example: - Asking frequently if I'm single - Changi...
A. 29 May 2013: I agree with the previous answerer, from what your description sounds like he could be a friendly therapist.
That said, if you are attracted to him what is the harm in making it known at the end of your last session, or by email afterwar... (read in full...)
She has a boyfriend should I tell her how I feel?
Q. I have feelings for a woman who has a boyfriend, and I'm contemplating telling her how I feel. Here are the details: About a year ago I made the decision to move to Japan. I have some Japanese friends on facebook, and I was chatting with them t...
A. 29 May 2013: I don't really see the downside of just putting it out there. Chances are nothing will happen because she has her boyfriend and because of distance. But you'll feel better having put it out there.
Since you're not in Japan at the moment such a s... (read in full...)
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