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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:Hi all I've a problem with my boyfriend every month end I must be left behind, he make sure that he goes out an leave me all alone at our to have a good time with his friends and comes back the following morning. I've talked to him about this but it seems I'm just pouring water on the back of a duck. My problem is he has never taken me out for a movie or anything. If something nice happens it will be because of me planning it an making it successfull. With our relationship when we go out its when we are buying grocery. He never thinks of taking me out but make sure that his out there having fun an living me behind to be on my own. Is it fair? Reply to this Question
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reader, playitagain-sam  +, writes (29 May 2013):
Sounds like he is lazy.
This is the kind of stuff where men need to be trained. He probably doesn't realize what it means to you (to have him plan and execute a date). In his mind he is spending lots of time with you at home and that should be enough.
I think you should find a nice way to remind him that you need to be cherished and he needs to put thought into the relationship. If you're happy, then he is happy. It's in his own best interest to take you out!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2013): i detect this maybe a cultural thing but if you have raised the issue with himand he is not listening then start to go out with your friends and im thinking also why can he not come back the same night why come back next morning alarm bells would be ringing for me.
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