Her ex bf's made up lies about her and I stupidly believed them-Now we are have broken up! How do I get her back?
Q. Me (21) and my girlfriend (19) loved each other. She has two ex's who make up alot of stuff about her. At first I stupidly accused her of these. But they are all false. I trust her with my life and have never been so happy with someone, she is ...
A. 31 January 2006: YES, there is hope but you must act fast. First off, let her know how stupid you were for listening to her ex's. Then apologize repeatedly and then buy her a huge bouqet of flowers and a box of candy. Let her know you have also thought about ... (read in full...)
Something's missing, my boyfriend tells me. He just doesn't know what!
Q. Hello, My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year and living together for the last six months. He is the most amazing person and I love him to bits. We have a wicked time together and he knows I would do anything for him. Recently ...
A. 31 January 2006: The problem here is that you have obviously spoiled this guy way too much and he no longer appreciates how great you are. Perhaps you should lay off being the sweetie that you currently are and give him a little taste of a ***** rhymes with witch ... (read in full...)
I'm 9 years older than him and he won't tell his parents about us. Is he embarrassed of me?
Q. i have been with my partner for nearly twelve months. at 34, I am 9 years older than him and have two children who love him to bits. the trouble is he will not tell his parents that we are together. when i question this he says they may not ...
A. 27 January 2006: In my opinion, you should not push to meet his parents. It might make your relationship worse. The reality is, you might be a wonderful beautiful woman. However, old fashion parents might not want their son involved with an older woman especially ... (read in full...)
He's slept with 60-70 women in his past. Is he just another player or am I just being paranoid? help
Q. After a long period of avoiding men for fear of getting hurt I have recently started going out with this guy. Things are going amazingly well and he is everything I'd look for in a man. My friends say how much he clearly adores me and how good we ...
A. 27 January 2006: As a female I would have a problem that he does not have much respect for the female body and intimacy. I suggest finding out the true reason why he felt the need to sleep around so much and really determining if he is a changed man. Also have him ... (read in full...)
we love each other but my gf feel the spark is gone. How do we get that back?
Q. I have been with my girlfriend just over a year and we are very much in love. Recently she has said that she is not as attracted to me now as she first was but maintains that she still loves me just as much and that we ought to try to make it work. ...
A. 27 January 2006: My current boyfriend had a very similar situation with his ex. Unfortunately, if she lost "attraction" this early in the relationship, it does not look very good for the future. However, on a good note I know of a situation where the sex was pretty ... (read in full...)
Since living with his new girlfriend, my ex doesn't want to talk to me, even though we used to be friends!
Q. I can't seem to get over my ex...I met him in 2004 when 15 and we fell in love with each other. It was a really good relationship. After we broke up, we stayed friends and often went out together to gigs, parties and I spent time at his and him at ...
A. 20 January 2006: He did the right thing. When a relationship ends, you have to let things go and move on. Perhaps you should do what he did and carry on with your life. It is unfair to his new girlfriend that he has constant relations with his ex.
You should f... (read in full...)
My ultimatum: get your own place or it's over. Am I being unfair?
Q. My partner still lives at home with his mum and dad. He declares that he loves me and treats me well but I find it hard to stay at his house because his mum complains of us talking late. I suggest he gets his own place but he explains that he needs...
A. 20 January 2006: A little harsh I would say. Moving out is a big step that a person must be emotionally and financially ready for. Have you considered moving in with him, instead of just having him move out alone? It is alot easier to share the rent, then having the ... (read in full...)
We got close when she broke up with her boyfriend, but slept with him for "closure". Do I have a chance?
Q. I have very strong feelings for one of my friends and we have recently got very close, and she told me that she had feelings for me. The only problem is that she recently split up with her boyfriend because it wasn't working, although she sai...
A. 19 January 2006: It is common for ex's to have sex being that it is better to be intimate with someone you know and trust rather than a random person. However, if she genuinely wants to move on then she should not be having sex with this guy. I think you have been ... (read in full...)
When my girlfriend wants to be alone, she doesn't want to be near ANYONE, not even me!
Q. My girlfriend is my everything but sometimes she acts very unnaturally. Sometimes she is very loving and all over me but when she is in some kind of weird mood, she will want to sit across the room from me. I always think that I've done somethin...
A. 19 January 2006: Yes Barry it is very natural and it is called PMS! And even if she is not pmsing, it is perfectly normal for any WOMAN or even MAN to want to be alone, even if it means being apart from their loved ones. This is not something to be worried about and ... (read in full...)
Worried that my messy habits will have gotten my girlfriend pregnant!
Q. Hey, this is going to sound really dumb and you'll probably thinking that I'm worrying about nothing (I hope) but the other day me and my girlfriend were messing around on my couch. I went to adjust myself and got some precum on my finger, I wiped ...
A. 19 January 2006: NO there is no chance she is pregnant. First off, it is quite difficult for a female to get pregnant. Second of all pre-cum does not impregnate a woman. There was no penetration either. So its pretty safe to say your fingers can get back to work ... (read in full...)
Does my gym instructor have the hots? Or just doing his job... ?
Q. Hi, i have recently started going to the gym and i have sorta got this impresssion that my gym intructor likes me but i am unsure because i know as a part of their job role they have to be nice and encoraging but he has said things to me that seem ...
A. 19 January 2006: Anything is possible. My ex was my trainer at the gym and I actually met him while he was training me. He was very suttle, only once mentioning I have gorgeous blue eyes lol. Definitely made me melt though. I think he probably is interested, just ... (read in full...)
When he was drunk, he said he didn't love me...should I move on?
Q. have been with my boyfriend for just over a year, i think ilove him. he has never been married, no kids, and in his 40s, he says lots of nice things to me, but twice when drunk he has said he does not love me, as love is special, should I move on...
A. 19 January 2006: People usually speak the truth when they are drunk. Their unconscious feelings tend to come out. Therefore, unless he is just an angry and senseless drunk, there might be an actual problem. However actions are more important than words. So you might ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend took me to Italy... I now found he almost gave a "bella" Italian girl his card!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 8 months and he took me away to Italy. When we were away we went to a nightclub. A few days after i found a card near his wallet with his contact details on it and saying on the card that "I am with my girlfriend ...
A. 18 January 2006: In a short answer, you cant trust him. Especially because he has proven to be extremely emotionally unstable. One moment he is putting out money to take you to ITALY and the other minute he is flirting with a female who lives miles away. His ego is ... (read in full...)
He broke off a date with me after "commiting" to someone else. So why is he texting again?
Q. Hi, I went on a couple of dates with a guy and he made plans with me for another date. A few days before the date, he called to tell me he decided to make a commitment to someone else he was seeing. That was the last time we talked. Then a m...
A. 18 January 2006: It sounds to me like this guy has NO GAME. He is pathetic by contacting you to tell you he had met another girl. In reality he should have handled the situation much better in the first place, by not meeting you until he had his other situation ... (read in full...)
No matter how hard I try, I can't forget about him. The problem is, he's dating another one of my friends!
Q. my friend is dating my other friend but i really like him (love). we see eachoda and stuff but i cant stop thinking about him i no that friends are more important but he is my friend to and i really like him. i have tried so hard but i cant forget ...
A. 18 January 2006: Perhaps you should try spending some time apart from this guy. Your lust for him is making you nuts. And I'm sure seeing him with another female in no way makes the situation any better. I do not suggest you intrude into their relationship because ... (read in full...)
I got into my boyfriend's e-mail account and found that he was contacting girls on a personals website just a month after we got together!
Q. i recently got into my boyfriends email account and found his ad on the personals website where it showed he had contacted a few girls to get to know them better about a month after we got together ...i dont know how to approach him on this as he ...
A. 18 January 2006: Yes you obviously did not act in the most mature way. However, its better you found out sooner what a dog he is before waiting to let him hurt you. Simply put, he is JUST NOT that into you, men who are very into their women do not spend time on the ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with my girlfriend's best friend. What should I do?
Q. ive got a huge problem please if you can help then do so. ive not long been dating my girlfriend but before, herself and a friend were just mates of mine and ive been trying to get with her friend for quite some time now and i think i have fallen in ...
A. 18 January 2006: Simply put, if you do not want to ruin your life completely. I suggest you either leave your girlfriend and pursue females that are not connected to her in anyway. Or, you can stay with your girlfriend and realize how WRONG it is to even feel like ... (read in full...)
I want my girlfriend to want me back. If she calls, do I come running, or act busy?
Q. I read something online recently that made a lot of sense to me. I feel my ex girlfriend had lost her attraction to me because I had become a "wuss". I had recently quit my job and pretty much wasn't doing anything. I want to get her back but we a...
A. 18 January 2006: First off if you acknowledge blame as to why your girlfriend decided to leave you, perhaps instead of waiting for her to come, you should COME TO HER. Playing hard to get might not be the right answer in this case. I recommend taking her out to a ... (read in full...)
We've bought a house together and everything. He says we're in this relationship for life, but he won't marry me!
Q. Paul makes statements about our relationship that contradict themselves. He said in the beginning that he wanted openness because we were in this relationship for life. Bought a house, gives me everything a woman could want, said we are growing ...
A. 18 January 2006: Well there might be various reasons as to why he is afraid to marry you. Perhaps, his parents had a failed marriage or he has witnessed other people's pain of divorce. However, in a caring relationship compromise is crucial and if he is not taking ... (read in full...)
I feel like his sneaking looks at porn was cheating!
Q. I have been married for 2 1/2 years and we have been together for 10 1/2 yrs. Recently I found out my hubby has been looking at porn and I have found this very difficult to deal with. I confronted him and he denied it. He hasn't appologi...
A. 16 January 2006: I think you are both right and wrong on the subject. In a recent show on Ophrah, a series of men reported that it is absolutely normal for married men to look at porn. Perhaps, he is looking for new ways to please you by looking at how other women ... (read in full...)
He is all I want in a man, and I know he's looking for a girlfriend, but he doesn't seem to like me!
Q. I met this guy about a week ago and now I want to see him and here from him more often. He made it clear to everyone around that he wanted a girlfriend and I know i want a boyfriend but he does not seem to like me. when I met him he seemed like the ...
A. 16 January 2006: You are in a very sensitive position. There is this great book out, "He's just NOt that into you", and I think this title might be applicable to your situation. In reality when a man is interested in a woman, he will more than go out of his way to ... (read in full...)
Seems like he's drifting away... Is he sick of me?
Q. My boyfriend and me have been dating for almost 4 months. He's my escape from everything! But lately he's changed, he used to call me all the time. Not anymore, he used to say the sweetest things. Nope nothin'. I loved spending every waking moment, ...
A. 16 January 2006: I say break it off with him. You want a man who is persistant and has a good track record. If he is amazing one minute and not so amazing the next moment, perhaps you should question if you even need this sort of instability in your life.
There... (read in full...)
I just want to sleep with him but now I've said something silly and I don't know how to convince him that I only want sex!
Q. I want to maintain a strictly sexual relationship with this guy I've been sleeping with on and off for the past few months. But the other day, after a great night of sex, I made a stupid request. I told him next time I just want to talk and go to ...
A. 16 January 2006: Lets not kid ourselves. You slipped up for a reason, because you are missing something. Perhaps, you do not want a spiritual connection with this guy in particular, but it seems pretty obvious you are craving for that. Perhaps its best you cut off ... (read in full...)
How much sex is normal in a relationship??
Q. I have been married for four months, living with my partner for 18 months and together for 3 1/2 years. He thinks we are not having enough sex, I'm satisfied, and it is starting to become an issue. How much sex is normal in a long term relationship? ...
A. 16 January 2006: Its not the quantity of sex you are having, its the quality. When you are intimate, make sure that you are very into it and enjoy every second of it. This will fulfill a man alot more than having sex with him many times. Perhaps, role play, new form ... (read in full...)
One minute we're friends, and the next we're having an affair! I'm so confused... Does he like me or not?
Q. Hi, I'm extremly confused I meet a guy and he has a girlfriend, we have started seeing each other as friends although we have slept together a few times but are not anymore, just hanging out... Don't understand what is going through his head one...
A. 16 January 2006: The problem with this guy is that he found a vulnerable female who he can take advantage of. Now the problem with you is, that you allow it to happen. Life is far too precious for you to waste your time and BODY on someone who does not even want an ... (read in full...)
I love her, but she doesn't want to be more than friends, and she likes a guy who doesn't like her back. What should I do?
Q. i love this girl, we're not going out and i think she likes this other guy but he told me he doesn't like her, so what should i do? we have alot in common but i asked her out once and she turned me down, but i think if we went out it could work, we ...
A. 16 January 2006: There are a number of issues I should address here. First off, women tend to like those men who do not like them back. Second, you seem rather positive that a relationship would be great between you two, but unfortunately you cannot fortell ... (read in full...)
The thought of my boyfriend with someone else makes me ill, but the thought of being with one of my guy friends makes me happy! Please help!
Q. So I have been with my B/f for 7 months, but i started Just Talking to one of my guy friends and have become attracted to him, my B/F went out of town for the weekend, and the new guy that im attracted to and i stayed on the phone all night, i am ...
A. 16 January 2006: My dear, you have a symptom of something easily indentified as GREED. You would like to have your cake and eat it too! Unfortunatley, greed never ends up in anything positive, and only creates dampened spirits. I would suggest either being in an ... (read in full...)
My love for my man has faded. He could give me everything and I still don't think I'd feel the same...
Q. I am 21 years old, and have been dating a wonderful, considerate man for 1.5 years. He still opens car doors, remembers my brothers’ birthday and tolerates “chick flicks.” For the last 8 months, I have lost most of the “loving” feelings for him. I ...
A. 16 January 2006: Wow, this sounds all too familiar to me. I had been involved in a long term relationship, with this really sweet and kind hearted guy. One problem, I loved him but was not really IN LOVE. I would often fight with him, anger him and treat him awfully ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wrote down fantasies and picked out girls that he likes on his "Friend Finder" account. He says the whole thing is just a joke, but it hurts!
Q. Me and my bf have been having probs for a while arguin and that, but i love him and wanted to make it work. Today i had a look on the computer at the sites that have been recently viewed and he has a account with a "friend finder" and had wrote down ...
A. 16 January 2006: Women should adhere to a no-nonsense policy if they ever wish to be fully respected by males. If you allow him to randomly search the internet for females, he will. In my opinion, I think you should leave the pitiful boy to carry out his high school ... (read in full...)
Nervous about losing my virginity...will he fit in me?
Q. Dear Cupid, never done this before so here goes... I am a 19 yr old virgin and am beginning a relationship. I am really nervous about losing my virginity as I don't know what to expect. I get worked up about if he will fit in me as when I ...
A. 12 January 2006: First off, you should relay to your boyfriend that you are a virgin. He will go slow and make sure you are excited enough to enjoy the experience. First times are never pleasent and sex may actually be uncomfortable the first few times. However, ... (read in full...)
How do I get over my gf breaking up with me for my ex best friend?
Q. How do I get over My girl friend breaking up with me for My Xbest friend? we got back together but Its hard to deal with my Xbest friend of 20 years now out of my life forever... Tell me what to Do?? ...
A. 12 January 2006: In reality, both your ex and your former best friend have deeply betrayed you. You might want to reconsider having either one in your life again, being that trust is a major factor in any relationship, let alone a romantic one. Betrayal is hard to ... (read in full...)
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