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writes: I want to maintain a strictly sexual relationship with this guy I've been sleeping with on and off for the past few months. But the other day, after a great night of sex, I made a stupid request. I told him next time I just want to talk and go to the movies. I have no idea why I said that. I just want to sleep with him. He started to retreat a little. I'm so scared he won't ever contact me again because he'll think I'm trying to get him into a relationship, which I don't want. He's too different from me but I love the sex. How can I convince him I just want sex? Should I contact him or will he just push me away more if I do that? Help! Reply to this Question
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reader, MilanaNYC21 +, writes (16 January 2006):
 Lets not kid ourselves. You slipped up for a reason, because you are missing something. Perhaps, you do not want a spiritual connection with this guy in particular, but it seems pretty obvious you are craving for that. Perhaps its best you cut off relations with this guy, these kind of no strings attached relationships always lead to someone getting hurt.
As far as the sex part goes. I say get a toy, until a guy better than him comes along.
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reader, satansmate666 +, writes (15 January 2006):
Dont have sex with him any more! If he decides he wants a relationship now he will get all clingy and nasty! Also he will just take offence as men do to stupid things, if u tell him, u basically dont like him, u just wanna ride him!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2006): maybe you just said that because you're craving someone to do that kind of stuff with, and it just came out because you were with him. i think you should just be straight-forward with him; tell him that you dont know why you said that and maybe to make it more convincing, tell him you've met someone else that youre dating casually (even if you havent). i would think as long as the sex is good, he wont be pushed to far away when he realizes you werent trying to pressure him into a relationship.
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reader, Rebecca Batchelor +, writes (15 January 2006):
 Perhaps it was a freudian slip that made you say what you did. Are you being honest with what you really want in this relationship? It takes quite a strong minded woman to maintain a sex only relationship without any emotions. Be sure in your mind of what you really want and do ask yourself whether you could be short changing yourself. He obviously only wants you for sex but be aware that if either of you meet someone, then the situation may change, so consider all implications.
If you do just want sex, the same as him, then do contact him as you don't have much to lose now. Explain to him what you've said here; that you enjoy the sex and don't wish for committment and that if he feels the same, then meeting up would be an extremely good idea!
I hope this helps.
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