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writes: My boyfriend and me have been dating for almost 4 months. He's my escape from everything! But lately he's changed, he used to call me all the time. Not anymore, he used to say the sweetest things. Nope nothin'. I loved spending every waking moment, almost, together. But late;y his frineds see more of him than I do. Is he sick of me? Are we growing apart? Promise rings mean something, right? Something loved and cherished beween two people. Reply to this Question
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reader, Ginafofina.  +, writes (20 May 2009):
The same thing happened to me a few months ago. My boyfriend and I had an amazing relationship, he meant the world to me. But one day, everything changed. He stopped texting and calling me all the time, he would always be spending time with other girls, he would always get mad at me, so I asked what was up. Promise rings, sometimes mean something, but for most guys, they only use them to "get some." Yeah, I know, it's stupid. So, you should talk to him about it first, and see what happens, and if everything's still the same and your together then do what's right.
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reader, MilanaNYC21 +, writes (16 January 2006):
 I say break it off with him. You want a man who is persistant and has a good track record. If he is amazing one minute and not so amazing the next moment, perhaps you should question if you even need this sort of instability in your life.
There are men out there that will always make you feel important and wont leave you wondering whether you have done something wrong. Also, I would recommend finding some sort of hobby or doing something for yourself that makes you feel good. Relying on someone to bring you joy is never a good thing!
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (16 January 2006):
 You might be relying on him too much. I suspect your boyfriend is feeling suffocated by your constant presence.
There's a great song lyric that goes "How can I miss you when you won't go away?" and this might fit your situation. Give your guy some breathing room. Let him have some nights with his mates. Don't feel like you need to be with him every minute, just because you're dating. Everyone needs some alone time.
Once he's had a few weeks to miss you, I bet you'll see him back around again.
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reader, Dazzerg  +, writes (16 January 2006):
 Maybe this could be a natural cooling off from the first flushes or maybe there is an underlying issue that needs to be addressed. From what you have written there does not seem to be any underlying problems. Everybody needs space outside the relationship and maybe this is just your b/f doing that.
Maybe you could try injecting some romance yourself, a meal or something like that and seeing the reaction that gets. Also cultivate a little of your own space outside the relationship. Hopefully that will bring the zest back to it and you will be chreishing your time together again.
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