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I am with a girl who loves me very much and I love her but I am not sexually attracted to her (overweight).

Q.   I am with a girl who loves me very much and I love her but I am not sexually attracted to her(overweight). She loves me so much and she will do almost anything to make me happy. She has even offered to let me bring over an escort once a week. I do ...

A.   29 April 2009: One more thing - DO NOT lead her on. Tell her you feel you are just friends. If she wants to lose weight for her, great. But if she loses it for you and then she starts to put it back on- you're going to leave her anyway. And then you won't even ... (read in full...)

I am with a girl who loves me very much and I love her but I am not sexually attracted to her (overweight).

Q.   I am with a girl who loves me very much and I love her but I am not sexually attracted to her(overweight). She loves me so much and she will do almost anything to make me happy. She has even offered to let me bring over an escort once a week. I do ...

A.   29 April 2009: Sounds like you see her as a best friend, and not a lover. That's ok. You can't force chemistry. ... (read in full...)

Did his mental problems affect our relationship?

Q.   okay, my boyfriend just broke up with me over the weekend. he didn't give me a reason though. he told me once before he didn't really love me. but he said he was going to try to make it work. anyways he has a lot of problem, mentally. he is bipolar, ...

A.   29 April 2009: Is he not taking his medication? Perhaps it's best to let him be for awhile. You are only 13 to 15? His parents should be dealing with his mental issues. Just enjoy being single for awhile, and maybe find someone who has a better handle on their... (read in full...)

Why won't this serial cheater marry me?

Q.   hello...im trying to figure out why is it that my boyfriend of 15yrs (he's 40 and im 39) first off will not marry me and make a formal commitment and second of all will not leave this other woman alone? i've forgiven him for having a baby on...

A.   29 April 2009: You have just agreed to a completely open relationship. He knows you will stay with him, and let him date this other woman. He gets the best of both worlds. Two women who know about each other and accept it. Why would he marry you and mess up the ... (read in full...)

I want to go slow but I don't want to scare him off...

Q.   Hi, I contacted a guy on a popular website for friends on the weekend, and he immediately added me. I never do these kind of things but I have been single for too long. I could see he changed his mood status from stressed to adventurous, rig...

A.   29 April 2009: So you contacted him this past weekend? As in saturday? It's only Tuesday. 3 days. I would chat for awhile - at least another week - before meeting up. He's already hinting that he wants to see you by mentioning the restaurant in your town - so chat ... (read in full...)

He admitted to a bi-sexual experience on our anniversary!

Q.   I could be here all day writing...But I'll try to sum it up a little. My husband and I were celebrating our 5th wedding anniversary the other night and we got to talking pretty deeply. We are always very open with eachother(so I thought) and always ...

A.   28 April 2009: Did he only do it once? Or it was a repeat thing with the same man? If it was only one time, that hardly makes him "bi". He was just curious as you said you were. Don't cruicify him for it, or it will ruin your open lines of communic... (read in full...)

Boyfriend posts pictures from your joint vacation and leaves you OUT of the pictures?

Q.   Ok, I'm embarrassed to even have to write this -- because it sounds so juvenille, and I am 31 years old, but I want a sounding board, so please respond honestly. I just got back from a week in Italy with my boyfriend of 2 and 1/2 years. He was se...

A.   27 April 2009: Bobbbles32, I did tell him straight out how much his actions hurt me. That's when he suggested I was over-reacting. Said he did it in response, a drunken response to seeing old pictures of my best friend and I when we were in Rome. (they've been on ... (read in full...)

Boyfriend posts pictures from your joint vacation and leaves you OUT of the pictures?

Q.   Ok, I'm embarrassed to even have to write this -- because it sounds so juvenille, and I am 31 years old, but I want a sounding board, so please respond honestly. I just got back from a week in Italy with my boyfriend of 2 and 1/2 years. He was se...

A.   27 April 2009: He didn't change his profile status during all this. It says "in a relationship" with me. So anyone who is friends on his page knows he's with me.... (read in full...)

Boyfriend posts pictures from your joint vacation and leaves you OUT of the pictures?

Q.   Ok, I'm embarrassed to even have to write this -- because it sounds so juvenille, and I am 31 years old, but I want a sounding board, so please respond honestly. I just got back from a week in Italy with my boyfriend of 2 and 1/2 years. He was se...

A.   27 April 2009: His profile says he's in a relationship with me. He didn't change that, or try to hide that link. ... (read in full...)

Boyfriend posts pictures from your joint vacation and leaves you OUT of the pictures?

Q.   Ok, I'm embarrassed to even have to write this -- because it sounds so juvenille, and I am 31 years old, but I want a sounding board, so please respond honestly. I just got back from a week in Italy with my boyfriend of 2 and 1/2 years. He was se...

A.   27 April 2009: Thanks for saying so, bobbles 32. He told me I'm over-reacting, but I really didn't think so - I think his subconscious, drunk behavior speaks volumes. One more note: After I called him out on it, he posted the rest of the pictures with me, and ... (read in full...)

How much porn is too much porn?

Q.   How much porn is too much porn?!? I ask this question because I found downloaded porn on my boyfriends computer. I had never used his computer before ( mine was broken). I then saw there were folders full of it, as well as bookmarked pages...

A.   12 March 2009: Saucy Shannon. You are right, I don't trust him and have been snooping. But with just cause. He doesn't deserve my trust. Trust needs to be earned, and he's damaged it. Celaif, you are right that main issue is the lying. That is where we come ba... (read in full...)

How much porn is too much porn?

Q.   How much porn is too much porn?!? I ask this question because I found downloaded porn on my boyfriends computer. I had never used his computer before ( mine was broken). I then saw there were folders full of it, as well as bookmarked pages...

A.   11 March 2009: Has anyone been to a sex therapist for this sort of thing? We've been together 2 years - and love each other. I'd like to see if we can come to some sort of agreement. I mean, 98 percent of men look at porn, so if I leave, it's likely my n... (read in full...)

My BF is acting weird around me.

Q.   I have been dating my boyfriend for about a year and 1/2. Everything had been going great and we even moved in together for about 9 months. Due to financial reasons I was forced to move back in with my mother and this really hurt his feel...

A.   11 March 2009: yikes. All signs point to him just being not that into you anymore. It sounds like he is trying to " downgrade" you from girlfriend you casual hookup. My 1st serious boyfriend did the same exact stuff to me when I was 22. We had dated 2 years, w... (read in full...)

My husband hits me and I'm not sure what to do

Q.   I have a huge issue i have been married now for almost 3 years and im 23years old but my husband just turned 28, he is a cop and i am a student i was with him when he had to go to police academy and stuck by him in thick and thin but im starting to ...

A.   11 March 2009: Please get out as soon as you can. In the meantime, Do not fight back. Come up with an immediate escape plan. Meaning - have a friends house where you can stay and hide. Do NOT indicate you are thinking of this. Make it sudden, when he's not ho... (read in full...)

Incestuous thoughts - I know it is wrong, please help me

Q.   Hi, last post was rejected, too explicit :( I just need peoples opinions. I have always hated my sister (I am 34 she is 30) I am divorced 2 kids, she is single 1 kid and I have been turned on by incest for the past month or so. anyways, to ...

A.   11 March 2009: Do you think she thinks you raped her? Or was she a willing participant?... (read in full...)

She wants to elope!!!

Q.   I have been with with my girlfreind for four months, we planned a trip to Jamaica and she has been talking about eloping after we get there, she went online and even looked up everything we have to do and how long we have to be on the island before ...

A.   6 March 2009: It's a very romantic idea, very impuslive, and as a fellow wild child, I see the appeal. But I'd go and just enjoy a wildly romantic vacation, for now. If you're between 30 and 35, I'm sure you know how much can change. Just tell her you don... (read in full...)

Help needed to stop arguing...

Q.   My boyfriend is brilliant, he would do anything for me and I could go on forever saying nice things about him... We have a problem though! I have paranoia towards girls he works with or any girls he comes into contact with (for no good reason a...

A.   6 March 2009: Not sure if this will help , but my boyfriend of two years had some serious trust issues about a year into our relationship. I'm very social, and he's more introverted. Plus, my job requires me to be outgoing.. Anyway, I realized the best way to ... (read in full...)

Are there any nice guys who are good looking?

Q.   I have been with a good looking guy who treated me like crap and I have been with a nice guy who I felt absolutely nothing for. Are there any guys that have both qualities? I dont mean to sound shallow but the physical attraction always has to be ...

A.   29 January 2009: Yes they are out there, but hard to find Avoid dating the ones that are good looking and know it. You will always worry. There are good looking nice ones, but you need to look at the quiet ones . ... (read in full...)

Is she lying to me about her virginity?

Q.   My girlfriend is 23 and claims to be a virgin. The first time we had sex, she neither felt pain nor bled as I expected. How can I know if she was telling the truth?...

A.   29 January 2009: Would you like her any less if she wasnt a virgin? Maybe shes afraid of your reaction. I was 21 and had no pain or bleeding , it's definitely possible... (read in full...)

Wnats the big deaL?

Q.   Me and my girlfriend (of 4 years) went to a bar last week (it was her birthday). Long story short I had a bit to much drink. (this is what she told me b/c I don't really remember the night very well) I started flirting with a random woman in front ...

A.   25 January 2009: Was she drunk also? You wrote that she threw up on her dress? I think you need to apologize immediately! She is your girlfriend and is upset because you weren't paying her attention, and to boot, it's like a slap in the face that you were flirting... (read in full...)

Should I be worried about the "nasty", hardcore, pissing porn?

Q.   Do you think it's a serious problem if my boyfriend of two years looks at " nasty" porn , like with women drinking piss while getting f@cked? I don't have a problem with him looking at "regular" porn, but what scares me about this is that it seems ...

A.   25 January 2009: Thank you for all the responses. It has made me feel better, knowing it's more common. I'm going to have a calm, rational conversation and see how much he lies, and decide where to go from there.... (read in full...)

How do you terminate a toxic friendship?

Q.   Hoping someone can help here. I have a friend who I am trying to end the friendship with as I have had enough. There are plenty of articles on how to end a relationship but not much on terminating a friendship. This girl tends to be really rude to ...

A.   23 January 2009: Yes, I agree. If u have expressed how you feel and she hasn't changed, then time to go. Dodge the calls, or just be too busy if she does get u on the phone. If she doesn't fade away, and stop calling, then that's a much more seious issue.... (read in full...)

Should I be worried about the "nasty", hardcore, pissing porn?

Q.   Do you think it's a serious problem if my boyfriend of two years looks at " nasty" porn , like with women drinking piss while getting f@cked? I don't have a problem with him looking at "regular" porn, but what scares me about this is that it seems ...

A.   23 January 2009: Thanks for making that point, punkypippi, maybe he is just curious. But there was an awful lot of it "bookmarked". I guess I'd really have to see how often he's watching these pissing videos, but that's such an invasion of privacy and then I become ... (read in full...)

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