My husband hits me and I'm not sure what to do

A female age 36-40, *adeen writes:

I have a huge issue i have been married now for almost 3 years and im 23years old but my husband just turned 28, he is a cop and i am a student i was with him when he had to go to police academy and stuck by him in thick and thin but im starting to think that its time to go. the problem is he hits me not everyday but almost every time we fight he and i get really into it and because hes a cop he knows just how to hurt me with out leaving any marks however when i defend myself against him im leaving teeth marks and bruises on him im scared to call the cops seeing as they would probably just take me away and cover up for him. Im so stuck. and the worst part is i still love him :( i know i should move on but he is my husband and we have gone threw so much to be together. my parents tell me to leave before he kills me or we have children and he beats them too but im so lost and confused its too hard to leave him. and nobody knows he does this except me and my mom and dad who live overseas it would come as a surprise to friends co workers and other family that he beats me, and i hate to say it but im afraid of how i will look or what they will all think of me. Any advice im so lost and don't know what to do i need help!

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