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writes: Me and my girlfriend (of 4 years) went to a bar last week (it was her birthday). Long story short I had a bit to much drink. (this is what she told me b/c I don't really remember the night very well) I started flirting with a random woman in front of my gf. Then I danced with her. My gf took me home after that and then throw up on her dress. I been in the guest room since and she won't talk to me. Whats the big deal?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2009): Whats the big deal?! What if it was your birthday and your girlfriend gets plastered, spends the night flirting and dancing with a nother guy in front of you, then, as the grand finale, throws up on you. Happy Birthday right? Your pretty lucky she didnt dump you on the spot to be honest. I would have been gone a long time before that.Apologize. Then apologize some more, then some more. Good luck. You'll need it.
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (25 January 2009):
 It was HER Birthday. That means that she should have gotten sloppy drunk, flirted with a hot stranger in front of you, then danced with hi at the bar... Then you should have taken her home safely and had HER throw up on YOU, not the other way around. AND, you still would be in the guest room, BTW...
LOL!
Um, dude, you owe her an apology.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2009): Learn to pace yourself when drinking, moron.
Why get drunk? You cannot enjoy alcohol when you can barely taste it.
Flynn 24
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reader, Eyespy17  +, writes (25 January 2009):
Was she drunk also? You wrote that she threw up on her dress?
I think you need to apologize immediately! She is your girlfriend and is upset because you weren't paying her attention, and to boot, it's like a slap in the face that you were flirting with someone else in front of her. The ultimate insult. And it was her birthday, to boot.
Gravel . NOW. You messed up big time.
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reader, The old Man? +, writes (25 January 2009):
 What's the big deal???
Dude, get a clue! You flirt with some other chick in front of your girlfriend, you dance with some other chick, you blow grits on your girlfriends dress. If you don't know what the big deal is, you deserve every bit of what you're getting!
Let me guess, you're going to be the guy here after a while that posts the your girlfriend has broke up with you, and started dating some older guy, and you have NO IDEA what she could possibly see in him!
Maybe you need to consider quitting drinking.
Start taking responsibility for your actions.
Learn how to show your lady respect!
How about we try it this way. Reverse the situation. Imagine that she did all those things to you. Think you might be a little ticked off???????
Famous Last words:
A whiskey glass and a piece of ass has made a horses ass out of may of men!
Ohhhhh Wilbur. (that's Mr.Ed for you young folk)
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reader, Boonridge McPhalify  +, writes (25 January 2009):
 yeah your behaviour sounds really attractive- i wanna get me some of that!
if you showed me up like that i would n't be long around. you dont mention any form of appology whatsoever, have you said sorry?
this situation requires diplomacy and sucking up to give you any sort of chance. do you regularly relinquish responsibility for your actions under alcohol blaming the drink and thinking that it is a decent excuse? if so it wont work for long.
you need to show her you care for her and respect her. try to do something for her that shows her you love her. if that is too much for you to do then maybe you cant be bothered with a relationship at the moment. yoou need to show a degree of remorse. because you dont remember it you dont see it as that bad but she does so accept it and make your move.
good luck
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reader, steve-tellme  +, writes (25 January 2009):
 hey. sorry to be the one to say this but it is a big deal. i loved going out at the weekends getting drunk. dancing. meeting women. having one night stands. basically as i put it at the time. ENJOYING LIFE. but then i met my girlfriend. i went out with her a few times and every time i got drunk ect.. made a complete fool out of myself.. she gave me chance after chance. one afternoon we wer sitting at home.. we wernt talking. she brought it up. that my drinking makes her feel embaressed to be with me. friends and family question wht shes with me. you have to remember that if you and your girl are going out. ye are going out to enjoy yerselves. not for you to get drunk and make your girlfriend feel ashamed and haveto act as a babysitter. i no longer drink in front of her anymore. ive grown up since my single days and when im out with friends she now trusts me to come home not smelling of pefume and booze. thats what its all about at the end of the day. trust. if your going out getting in that condition in front of her. whats going through her head when your out with the lads. sit your girlfriend down n explain to her that you understand how embaressed she must have felt. tell her you will grow up because at the end of the day thats what you will have to do.. sorry, i hope im not being to blunt. but in my honest opinion thats the way it is..
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2009): It sounds like your girlfriend was drunk too, if she threw up on her dress? So maybe, this was a drunken over-reaction.
But, as a female, in a relationship for two years, it hurts to see your boyfriend flirting with another girl, let alone dancing with one!! Big foul on your part, especially since it was HER birthday.
She (your girlfriend) wants to feel special, and get attention from you. Clearly you weren't making her feel that way on her birthday.
Apologize for being insensitive.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2009): And What do you expect? Hugs, kisses and smiles after making her special day a miserable one? What's wrong with you? Do you know anything about women? Anything at all?
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reader, 2old4this +, writes (25 January 2009):
 the big deal is you got plastered and flirted with another girl right in front of her ON HER BIRTHDAY!!!! Are you slow? Dude, your girlfriend was supposed to be first on your mind that day not getting drunk or flirting and throwing up on her. That probably made her birthday very not fun and lousy. Apologize and mean it or you will be sleeping elsewhere for good.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2009): the fact that you were flirting and dancing with another women! ESPECIALLY IN FRONT OF HER!!!!!!!!!!!!!! and then you threw up on her. well thats gross, but i mean you couldnt help that, but i mean, you shouldnt have been doing that, and if you cant control yourself when you are drunk, then you shouldnt drink, or you should only drink a little bit and then stop. sorry if it sounds harsh, but its true.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2009): Do you really need to ask? You made a complete fool out of her, and from the sounds of things the kind of dance you did with this girl might have been a bit too close if you know what i mean.
Besides you just ruined her trust in you,I mean if you will do all that in front of her, what do you do when she's not around?
You basically gave her a very good reason to think you have or very possibly will cheat on her.
Good luck!
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