Valentines Day Opinionaire...
Q. Quick Question for Valentines Day... I have been taking a poll on peoples opinion on valentines day and I'd really appreciate any answers I can get. Is Valentines day to you a holiday to be embraced and celebrated, or is it strictly re...
A. 15 February 2009: Thanks a lot for ur input! I agree with every single answer u all gave with regards to valentines day. ... (read in full...)
Am I holding on to a hopeless crush?
Q. 3 years ago I truely fell in love for a senior that was my drill instructor and best friend. He went to boot camp and became a Marine and basically sucludes himself, but this interesting friendly relationship was abusive with his demeaning, hurtful ...
A. 11 February 2009: You are taking in guys, using them for all they've got, and not sticking it out past the boring stage EVERYONE GOES THROUGH. I'm not saying ur a bad person, its just how u phrased it. I think if you are bored with the relationship the fair and just ... (read in full...)
Should I stay with who I'm with? Or make a switch?
Q. Well, where to begin.... i met D almost 3 yrs ago online and we fell in love it was a great relationship everything i could ever dream of in a man, he was. It was a long distance relationship. Then cos of him having to study so much in med school ...
A. 11 February 2009: i think u gave D his chances and u should let N take hold for a while. He is new and exciting and the worst that can happen is it doesn't work out. From the sounds of it D would hurt u again or just become distant, again. I would take the safe route ... (read in full...)
What's up with this guy? He's really weird!
Q. Ok theres this guy that goes to my school. We don't really know eachothr. Everytime we pass eachother in the hallway he looks at me and sometimes smiles really weirdly. The other day I was walking to 7th period and I passed him and he did the weird ...
A. 11 February 2009: i think he has a crush on u but is too nervous to initiate conversation. He was probably in the middle of performing a special talent for u when u started talking to ur friends. I would just stay away from boys entirely at the moment and wait and ... (read in full...)
Would you be the g/f of a guy who "isnt your type?"
Q. Would you be the girlfriend of a guy who is not necessarily your type looks wise.. if he treats you nice (except for one screw up) waits to do things when you are ready isn't cheap is sweet BUT worries about whether you will cheat a lot..hi...
A. 11 February 2009: Sexual and physical attraction are things that everyone says u should never judge a person on. But it is so true! I'm not saying to judge their personality because of how their nose is shaped, i'm talking attraction. What draws u to this other ... (read in full...)
Would you be the g/f of a guy who "isnt your type?"
Q. Would you be the girlfriend of a guy who is not necessarily your type looks wise.. if he treats you nice (except for one screw up) waits to do things when you are ready isn't cheap is sweet BUT worries about whether you will cheat a lot..hi...
A. 11 February 2009: Sexual and physical attraction are things that everyone says u should never judge a person on. But it is so true! I'm not saying to judge their personality because of how their nose is shaped, i'm talking attraction. What draws u to this other ... (read in full...)
They say I am a one burner
Q. Hi have weird question. I have a beautiful girlfriend whom love me and always be there for me.Sometimes i feel like break up because my friend say we are talking too long 4 years. They say i am one burner. What your view on this...
A. 11 February 2009: Stick with what u want and screw this friend of urs! If u are comfortable with the woman u love then tell ur buddy to take his own advise and stick it where the sun don't shine. He probably has an ulterior motive, being that he wants a guy friend ... (read in full...)
I think my boyfriend's fascination with lesbians is stupid!
Q. Am I stupid or wrong if I think my boyfriend's fascination with "lesbians" is juvenile and stupid? I will admit I feel slightly insecure/inadequate, since of course to him these girls (who would have to be bi, he said...) would have to be hot for it ...
A. 11 February 2009: I don't really get the lesbian fantasy either. My girl friends and i ponder the reason behind the madness and a few things we came up with over the course of a couple years was:
a) the men that want it are the ones that can't and never will get... (read in full...)
My friend is extremely depressed after a break up, how can I help him?
Q. Hey guys. So i got this friend and he and his gf broke up about 2 months ago and he seems so depressed coz he says he never felt so with any other girl. I try talking to him but i jus end up saying the wrong things or he jus too sensitive. He does ...
A. 7 February 2009: He is young and obviously very passionate and romantic and when it comes to relationships and feelings. It is normal to become depressed after a breakup but you being his friend needs to say things such as "you have the rest of your life to sit ... (read in full...)
Erection, ejaculation, but not intercourse, help! I'm his first.
Q. My husband can get erections and can ejaculate, but we never had sex. He'd never touch me and I'd always initiate, he would get an erection but no intercourse, he'd ejaculate by other means. He is 42 and I am his first. Please help. ...
A. 7 February 2009: I think there could be something deeply troubling your husband. Have you ever asked him about this slightly peculiar behavior towards u, aka his WIFE!? You need to pretty much tell him that his 'actions' are confusing not only u but the rest of ... (read in full...)
I love him but can't tell him to his face
Q. i love him so much but in just can't tell him face to face. he always ask me how i feel about him but when i attempt to tell him my mind goes blank and my hands start sweating and i start stuttering. i want to tell him im in love with him and i need ...
A. 7 February 2009: well i think ur so nervous because u are scared of rejection. We all are. everyone has gone through this at some point and there are ways of dealing with the pressure. You want him to claim his undying love for u FIRST right? He already has if he ... (read in full...)
How can I move on, or stop feeling so bad?
Q. ive recently found out that this girl i was absolutly crazy about doesnt like me, but we are still mates, i dont think that she knows i like her that way and we still hang out together but wen we do it kills me thinking that we can never be ...
A. 6 February 2009: maybe limit ur time u spend with her...try to see other people and get out of the house! There is nothing worse for sad minds than staying indoors and away from the fun. Why not go out with some mates and hit the town? Leave all ur troubles behind u ... (read in full...)
Pregnant a possibility?
Q. hello everyone, I had sex in november and i had my period 2 weeks afterwards and i had one december but it was late! i didn't have one in january which really concerns me. i've looked up symptoms for pregnacy and i dont really have any. i ...
A. 2 February 2009: If u had ur period after u had sex...and then again...ur not pregnant. If u were u are no longer. U are suffering from irregular periods and if it continues this way see a doctor. But periods can change drastically throughout ur lifetime. Speaking ... (read in full...)
I kiss a lad and now he doesn't talk to me
Q. me n me bf been going out for 5 months now. he hardly tlks to me and when he does tlk to me its usually about sex or me leaving him. I dnt wnt us to split up because I love this guy. He always ust to tell me he loves me but now he dunt he dunt ...
A. 2 February 2009: Have u come out and asked him "hey whats ur beef?" cause from the sounds of it he has a definite problem that needs to be sorted out. When it comes to relationships communication and honesty are probably the most important aspects of it. Without ... (read in full...)
Anyone know what this pain might be?
Q. for about 8 months now, ive been in quite alot of pain, its constant, i am sexually active im 15 i started my periods at 13 i use tampons every period, umm ive been sexually active for about 1 year and a half, ive been with the same partner for 2 ...
A. 2 February 2009: since u are sexually active u should be seeing a doctor regularily for 'tune ups' to make sure nothing like this happens. If there is anyone u should be able to poor ur heart and soul into talking to, let it be ur doctor. they are sworn to secrecy ... (read in full...)
He's distant sometimes, does he like me?
Q. I have been seeing this guy and I hear from him for a few days and then nothing for a few days. Why does he do this? Of course I act as though nothing is wrong. Does that mean he's not that interested in me? But he also has invited me to go on a ...
A. 2 February 2009: hmmmm i wouldnt go as far as to say he isn't interested at all in u. He seems to be acting like he is testing the waters...he wants to try it but he isn't exactly sure how far he wants to go. If he's invited u on vacation i sincerely hope u are ... (read in full...)
I came before penetration - am I a virgin?
Q. Recently, a female friend and I were fooling around. I was wearing a condom and there was some foreplay involved and it got me hard. I was then on the bottom and then I came first then she went in. Right after she went in, I said that I came. This...
A. 2 February 2009: I would think u still are a virgin. But it isn't anything to get worked up about. Just enjoy the experience for what it was and if u had fun do it again and again and again! Seriously...the entire question of virginity is over rated and u should ... (read in full...)
Our first year anniversary and she went back to work! I'm so angry at this.
Q. Hi, my girlfriend and I just had our first year anniversary, before that she was in Japan for three weeks and I had to make the plans for our first year which I did even though I had exams on. 2 days before our first year she got a call to come into ...
A. 31 January 2009: just take some deep breaths and calm down. Sometimes life can't always go as planned. Tell her how u feel calmly using "when u do (insert) i feel (insert)" and stress how important it was for u to celebrate ur first year. u have every right to be ... (read in full...)
How do you make a LDR successful?
Q. How does one make a long distance relationship in the least bit successful? or even slightly functional? The reason i ask is that i'm in one...and to be honest i kind of want to rip his head off with my bare teeth. ...
A. 31 January 2009: thanks for all ur great advise!! :) Much appreciated. ... (read in full...)
Any first kiss advice?
Q. Me and my boyfriend of 9 months are about to have our first kiss, do you have any advice, because i'm really worried?...
A. 31 January 2009: Just relax. It is inevitable that u will giggle so let it happen. Just take deep breaths and go with the flow. I remember my first kiss just happened. No planning. i ran home and screamed into a pillow. Such a movie moment :) . Just keep it nice and ... (read in full...)
Is it completely wrong to think a second-cousin is physically attractive?
Q. First of all, I'm definitely not going to pursue a damn thing when it comes to this because there are just so many factors against it. I also personally think it would be wrong to actually pursue it. But I do have a question: Is it completely wrong ...
A. 31 January 2009: I wouldn't say its wrong. U can find whoever u want as attractive as u want. The problem is whether u want to pursue it or not. Because u dont want to and u think its wrong, which is kind of is, there is nothing wrong with u otehr than noticing this ... (read in full...)
My husband won't speak to me and does all he can to completely ignore and avoid me.
Q. My husband won't speak to me and does all he can to completely ignore and avoid me. He does come home from work every night but goes directly into the garage. Tonight he was carrying a bag, he placed it on the steps, picked it up, took it to the ...
A. 31 January 2009: Leave. Just up and leave. if he is going to treat u that badly don't waste ur time on him. He is most likely up to no good as his behavior is that of a 5 year old on crack. Do urself a favour and leave. Stay at a friends house or at ur parents. He ... (read in full...)
I want to help my ex but I'm not sure how?
Q. I was dating my boyfriend for a year before we broke up last week. We have broken up a few times. He has gone through a lot of tough stuff in his life, and he often gets depressed about it and pushes me away when I try to help. I don't know how to ...
A. 31 January 2009: I think its great that u want to help him with his problems but u dont know how deep they go. Maybe just let him handle things and keep an eye on him to make sure he isnt doing something strange such as acting really really depressed and all of a ... (read in full...)
Help me to stop hating my dad
Q. It's gotten to the point that sometimes I wish he'd get terminally ill and just die. If he did, I'd finally feel free. I am so sick of him putting me down all the time, saying I am pathetic, worthless, he even said that he'd never want a daug...
A. 31 January 2009: There are multiple options. You could seek professional help such as family counseling. If you are still living at home i would suggest leaving and helping from a distance. If u are truly unhappy get urself away and try to do what u can...but in an ... (read in full...)
Without A Word
Q. Hi! Okay, my boyfriend felt disappointed and decided to leave for good because I said that I was moving away. I stayed a while before I decided to move away because I thought he would come back and talk to me. I came to find out that he had a new ...
A. 31 January 2009: Doesn't u moving away suggest u and him are over? If u wanted to keep him u should have said something. He isn't gonna stick around with someone who is moving away. ... (read in full...)
My ex is playing mindgames with me!
Q. Hi, well me and my boyfriend have ended our 14 month relationship at the end of November last year. He emotionally ended with me while I was the one who actually said "I think we shouldnt be together any more" and he said "well if it makes you feel ...
A. 31 January 2009: HE DOESNT LIKE THAT U BROKE UP WITH HIM! u hurt his ego and he doesn't like that u are the one who came out ontop. Do not stoop to his level cause then he will feel like he won. He is really not worth ur time and the only reason he is doing it is ... (read in full...)
Advise me please. Should I just get over him?
Q. I asked this question before in the past about this guy that i've liked but here's a little detail i forgot to add in, okay well just in case some of you don't know my situation, there's this guy who i liked since last year May and before i liked ...
A. 31 January 2009: Maybe try asking him about it. If race is an issue it is HIS problem and not yours so don't waste ur time. Its a hard question as race very well could be a factor and it is a shame if it is. Don't get worked up over it after all he is a guy and u ... (read in full...)
I cream my pants randomly!
Q. Okay, so I cream my pants randomly for no reason and often. The thing is I'm getting sick of it having to wear long shirts and I'm terribly worried and too embarrassed to ask my mom. So is it normal?...
A. 31 January 2009: Normal is not defined by what happens to others but by what is normal for u. if this has been happening for a long long time chances are its normal for u. if u are really concerned do some research. google is a great tool and u can always delete ur ... (read in full...)
My crush on my friend's boyfriend.
Q. I like my friends boyfriend but I liked him before her and she hurt me by going out with him and me and him flirt a lot and she wants me to stop but I don't know when I'm doing it, I'm just being myself. What should I do? She really hurt me and ...
A. 31 January 2009: You should stop. U arent supposed to flirt with ur friends boyfriend, however you cannot help how u feel. It is one of those uncontrolable things. HE though isnt helping things by flirting back. U should ask him what hes up to and to make a choice ... (read in full...)
What do I do? I badly need advice.
Q. I have known a kurdish man for 6 months, I love him very much, he said for me to live in diyarbakir but I want him to come to England. Please help me, what should I do? I have 4 children in England. I'm 23 he's 24 no children, his family are very ...
A. 31 January 2009: He needs to be willing to take that extra step that u are. You should both be competing to move to eachothers places of origin rather than him expecting u to uproot 4 childrens most likely sturdy lives and live somewhere else, and u not wanting to ... (read in full...)
Best friend & I like the same boy!
Q. me and my best friend like the same boy. but she is not the type of girl that boys like cuz she is a bit fat and tall. but im good look and he seems like he likes me but i dont want to hurt my best frends feelings by flirting wit him or goin out ...
A. 31 January 2009: I remember having this same problem with my friend when i was your age...so not that long ago but long enough for me to remember way back in the day. This guy was the focus of both our attentions and we kept battling it out saying "no u have him..no ... (read in full...)
My BF's "friend" is too friendly!!
Q. My BF of one year was seeing other people when we first met. I knew he was sleeping with one friend of his and well as with me, but we weren't together back then and our relationship wasn't serious so I didn't worry about it, just used condoms. A...
A. 31 January 2009: Your concern is extremely valid...but until u voice ur opinion it is worth nil. NIL! You need to tell him exactly what uve just told us on dearcupid.org or else he will continue to upset u without knowing it. I would especially stress the bit about ... (read in full...)
I want him to come home after work!
Q. i am egaged to my son father he is 26 and i am to . we broke up he had nother child with some one else . he always goes out after work with his friend that is 21 and never come straight home. im not sayin he cant hang out with his male friends but i ...
A. 31 January 2009: Maybe instead of addressing it directly u could do the same to him. You should just hang out with ur friends one night and 'by accident' tell him where u are. Let him see the worrying u go through. If you have to repeat ur tactics when it comes to ... (read in full...)
Are my breasts normal? Ladies please advise
Q. Hi.. I dont even know if this question is really suitable for this sort of website, but I'm pretty scared, so I need to ask somebody. Im 13 years old, and I have just found a movable lump under my nipple which is quite hard and i think I can move...
A. 31 January 2009: I would go see your doctor or ask someone u feel comfortable asking about. When a doctor says u should see them about an abnormality its something that is abnormal to u. If those lumps have been there all along and for some reason they change on u ... (read in full...)
Please help! I don't know what is happening
Q. This is yet another annoying teacher-student-love question. But really, this is getting out of hand for me. I had this teacher in year 7 (Mr S I'll call him) and by the end of that year obviously I started 'fancying' him. I had him the next year as ...
A. 31 January 2009: Nice ending. i don't think ur a stupid idiot girl. Let me tell u a story. There is this teacher in my school...called Mr. L. Every single girl, no jokes, who has had him has fancied the pants off him at one point or another. This one girl however ... (read in full...)
He's not so quick to say I love you like the others...
Q. I have been going out with my boyfriend for about 3 months now. Usually when I go out with a boy they tend to say "I love you" after like 2 weeks of going out and I usually answer I love you back always thinking that I am in love. Well, with this ...
A. 31 January 2009: hmmm...love is subjective. its personal. i think u are doing the right thing and waiting to say those special words. So many people speed right past all the nessesary getting to know u stuff and say I LOVE U from the start. Why not just take it one ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to get attracted towards really old people? (30's-50s) I'm only 13!
Q. Hey I don't know if it's a normal teenage thing just like my friends say that our hormones are going mad? is this true? I dunnno why but I find old people more attractive.... Like somewhere in their mid 30's-50s I know it sounds wrong and gross (I ...
A. 29 January 2009: It is perfectly normal. Women naturally are attracted to older and wizer characters when it comes to men because females mature faster and lets face it...all the guys ur age right now are a bunch of pervy young boys who dont care whether your skirt ... (read in full...)
Is she being immature about this?
Q. My wife and me had our first daughter (she's 6 weeks). I usually like to party after work with some friends so I can wind down (7 times a week) and won't be until 10:00 pm (my wife will be mad at me if I stay any longer). Anyway when I got home one ...
A. 29 January 2009: if my husband told me to shut the f*** up id be pretty mad too. I think that when two people decide to get married, have a baby or two, they need to sit down and discuss the sacrifices each needs to make. Ur late night partying is something that ... (read in full...)
Do you think he might actually like me?
Q. I'm usually into the more popular guys, and they all turn out to be huge jerks that only care about themselves,but now i like this one boy, hes a smart guy, , he is so cute and i really like him. He is friends with one of my best friends, and ive ...
A. 29 January 2009: he sounds like adorable!! omg. i think he likes u. i think u should wait a while and keep doing the whole "he totaly looked at me fore three seconds!" and then come out with it when u feel more confident about the whole scenario. Good luck and i ... (read in full...)
How can I stop suffering from nerves?
Q. Hi everyone, this might sound stupid, but basically this is a question about nerves. I've always had this problem where if I have to do something, for example speak out in front of people, or have an interview, I become physically nervous. My body ...
A. 29 January 2009: When doing a presentation if i dont treat it like a conversation i get exactly the way u do. The key is to KNOW WHAT YOUR SAYING INSIDE OUT AND BACKWARDS
take confidence from what u know and hold onto that for dear life. Present to a spot in the ... (read in full...)
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