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writes: My wife and me had our first daughter (she's 6 weeks). I usually like to party after work with some friends so I can wind down (7 times a week) and won't be until 10:00 pm (my wife will be mad at me if I stay any longer). Anyway when I got home one night my wife was going insane on me for leaving her all alone with the baby and not giving her a much needed break. I got annoyed with her and tell her to the shut f*** up and to leave me alone, She started crying and took our daughter and went to a hotel. She even told the front desk not let anyone visit to her or to call her. Is she being immature about this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2009): Your lucky she stuck around as long as she did! Its unbelievable to me that you can be so selfish and not even realise what the problem is. You are not mature enough to be a husband or father, you are acting like a spoilt teenage boy, and unless you change everything pretty soon, you can expect them both to stay out of your life, and to keep you out of theirs. Stop partying every night, man up and be their for your exhausted wife and (as good as) fatherless child.
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reader, SugarCookie  +, writes (29 January 2009):
Your daughter needs to be feed every two hours that doesn't include how long it takes to feed her all the diaper changes baths clothes changes from spit up crying time from discomfort and the many other things a baby does so i would say if you are like this everyday that in 6 weeks your wife has slept maybe 84 hours instead of 336 hours. I would have left you too and I think that she should stay gone until you realize the whole world isn't about you!
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reader, love850 +, writes (29 January 2009):
Uggggh!!! This made me so mad to read this. Are you even serious about this question this has to be a joke and Ashton Kutcher must have wrote it. Hell yeah your wife has a right to be mad. I'm sure she is feeling lonely,unattractive and everything else that runs in the mind of a new mother (I do have a child). I can't believe you go out every night when you get off work just to hang out and party. Not only are you neglecting your child but your wife as well especially emotionally. For one a newborn wakes up constantly to eat so not only is your wife drained and tired but she has to put up with a husband who comes home everynight with no regards to his family. And you had the nerve to yell and curse at her. Have you lost your mind? I'm glad she got the hell from around you because you are acting past immature just plain ignorant.. I hope you man up and be a loving husband and father!!!!
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reader, im_a_dummy +, writes (29 January 2009):
 umm, sorry but thats a lot of hard work to be with a 6 week old 24/7 and not have a break! and you go out and party afterward?!?! seriously?!!?!?!? i would get pissed off too... and even after the baby is born, her hormones are still crazy just going back to normal, and she might be going through post pardom depression, be easy on her
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reader, lildeesbg +, writes (29 January 2009):
 I think she is not being immature at all. She just gave birth, her body and hormones are irratic, she has a new baby, and her husband needs to "wind down" and isnt there supporting her. Of course she is going to be upset.
My question to you is dont you want to support your wife? the mother of your first daughter? There is something to be said about a new father not being home. This is where your wife needs you the most and not only are you not around but you have the audacity to yell at her? I think you need to refocus your priorities. This is your world now, this is your life. You should see "winding down" after work as going home to your family.
This is not the time to be selfish. This is the time to love your wife and new daughter.
~dee
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reader, JJZippy  +, writes (29 January 2009):
 i can safely say that everyone should be on your wifes side!!! and what kind of sick man are you!!!!
You need to spend time with your wife and child!!!
its in the childs early life when it gets to learn you best, so how the hell can it if you are not spending time with your child!!
There is no love with jus a hello in the morning
(if the likes of YOU even have the time to do that :( )
Plus, how about spending time with your wife!! why get married and show no love! she is reaching out for you dude, and to have a child with you, she must really somehow love you, show some love and respect!!!!
So how about, forget about your friends, go out on some weekends, where its more enjoyable and something to look forward to..
Spend time with your wife and child...
and stop being so immature!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2009): In case you didn't get it, yes, you are immature. You need to go home for dinner and spend time learning how to be a family. Your wife is a single mom imprisoned in a bad relationship. Good for her for going to the hotel.
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reader, MommyOfOne +, writes (29 January 2009):
 A newborn is a lot to handle. Poor woman is probably working on very little sleep and needs your help. Why did you have a child with her, and then not take any responsibilities?! Going out EVERY SINGLE NIGHT is absolutely ridiculous. Cut it down to once a week. You have children now. Your wife needs your help.
Your a scum bag.
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reader, The old Man? +, writes (29 January 2009):
 Sorry dude, I'm siding with the chicks on this one!
You go out 7 nights a week to "wind down"? You tell her to shut the fu*k up,
When does she get to wind down?
You're a piece of work pal!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2009): What the hell? I think you'll find youre the one being immature. You need to grow up and realise you have responsibilities! A six week old daughter, you should be wanting to spend time with her, not out getting drunk.I get so mad at people like you, your wife deserves so much better!!
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reader, Emajayne  +, writes (29 January 2009):
 if my husband told me to shut the f*** up id be pretty mad too. I think that when two people decide to get married, have a baby or two, they need to sit down and discuss the sacrifices each needs to make. Ur late night partying is something that needs to be re-addressed. You and your wife are in this together. Yea she carried your daughter for 9 months but u cannot have a child with just one half. It doesn't work that way. Check a biology text book if u want proof. I think on her part she should have not screamed the odds at u. I think she could have handled herself much better by sitting down and saying "look i would appreciate a little more help around the house" or soemthing and you could have said "im sorry can we just talk about this like civilised people?" rather than swear. Swearing does no one any good at all.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (29 January 2009):
You go out EVERY NIGHT when your wife has JUST given birth a few weeks ago. You give her little or NO support and when she finally snaps and tells you to actually LEND A HAND WITH YOUR CHILD you swear at her and tell her to just shut up?
She is right to have left you and I hope she is not stupid enough to come back. She deserves a real man who knows what something called "responsibility" is.
Good Luck!! xx
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