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30-35,
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writes:Hi, well me and my boyfriend have ended our 14 month relationship at the end of November last year. He emotionally ended with me while I was the one who actually said "I think we shouldnt be together any more" and he said "well if it makes you feel any better, the feeling was mutual" so I guess that hurt me and I still did have feelings for him at that time... it's just I couldn't stand him not feeling the same anymore. Then lately we still talk, small talk. its nice sometimes, im pretty much over him now, still little bits lingering but its nothing too much. Yet he's changed so much (or at least he makes it sound like he did) he's spending alot of money on his clothes, watches etc and he's partying hard etc and at the same time he makes me feel uncomfortable when he jokes and says how i still want him back and i'll jump him every chance i get and if he calls me i'll only want phone sex etcI just feel really insulted at those times, and when i tell him hes kind of crossing the line hes just like "cant u take a joke..." etc and so i dont really continue the conversation anymoreAlso when i ask him things directly such as "are you seeing someone?" he'll start typing, then stop.. then after a minute or two come up with "thats for me to know and for you to find out" and he keeps saying how he knows curiosity burns me and i'll do anything to find out...Basically he's telling me he knows how i tick and he knows what buttons to press and im all under his control. this makes me sick and annoyed because thats not the case and it just feels really degrading talking to him sometimes.My friends have all given me different insights, but i just dont understand why he's doing this? because he starts conversations with me so that means he doesnt want me to completely avoid him, he's making me feel like shit but at the same time he's very nice and helpful when im confused about uni enrolments..So yeah, basically can someone tell me what's on his mind?
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reader, rcn  +, writes (31 January 2009):
 He's narcasistic, stuck on himself, I believe you need to stop communicating with him. Or if you do, and he starts, tell him "this conversation is over" and hangup. This allows you to take back control of you, and how people treat you. You need him to know you are not playing this little game he is, so if he wants to talk to you, he needs not be also.
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reader, Emajayne  +, writes (31 January 2009):
 HE DOESNT LIKE THAT U BROKE UP WITH HIM! u hurt his ego and he doesn't like that u are the one who came out ontop. Do not stoop to his level cause then he will feel like he won. He is really not worth ur time and the only reason he is doing it is because he is wounded and doesnt want u to see him running with his tale between his legs. Just tell him that u think hes a tard and not worth any thoughts. He can also take his 'offers' and shove them where the sun don't shine.
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