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... Send *ockainis a private message | | | *ockainis's profile:What qualifies me to help people is my experience in life. Life was not all smooth, but the rigors and the turmoils have made my journey to being a happy man even sweeter. It is in my nature to offer myself to others.
I have had failed relationships that had opened me up to be liberal about sex and relationships. But what has not failed is the care and the love that I continue to give to my wonderful, well-educated children who are happy adults now.
I think I'm a lucky nut, and I want to share my gifts with others... my dark experiences from below the earth's crust and my enlightening experiences sent down form the heavens.
I could say that if I died today, I would have been contented with what life has dished out and pampered me with. I am no saint but I am a kind person. I take care of the people around me.
My motto: If you cannot love one another, love another one.
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He wants friends with benefits but not a relationship - should I go for it?
Q. so about four months ago i met the absolutely perfect guy. perfect! and two weeks later he dumps me for some other chick that ended up being such an absolute female dog. anyways i flipped out on him and threw a fit cause before we even started ...
A. 28 November 2008: You can use him as much as he can use you. IF YOU CAN HANDLE IT. Thinking otherwise is sexist.... (read in full...)
Will a smaller penis change the way sex feels?
Q. While I was with my ex we had sex quite a bit, but that relationship ended pretty badly. Now I'm with another guy and we've gotten pretty close to having sex a few times. I've done other stuff with him and found that his dick is noticeably smaller ...
A. 28 November 2008: However lucky or unlucky you will be because of size and or performance, remember that there are some things better left unsaid. Don't answer him if he asks the size of your ex. Say you've forgotten or something to that "insignificant" effect. ... (read in full...)
How do you know if you're ready for sex?
Q. Everyone always tells me that you need to be ready before you have sex, i get that. How exactly do you know if you're ready though. I feel comfortable with the idea of having sex with my boyfriend now but I get really embarrassed talking about it ...
A. 28 November 2008: First of all, it would be best to give yourself to someone worthy of you. No regrets.
But before that, know safe sex. Know about pregnancy.
My advise - there should be no other reason for a beautiful first time except LOVE.... (read in full...)
How many men out there prefer pubic hair on a girl?
Q. How many men out there prefer pubic hair on a girl? I'm an Asian and I know by experience that most Asian men love pubic hair on a girl. What about the majority of men in the world? Are most men put off by that?...
A. 28 November 2008: Getting rid of pubic hair needs some responsibility. hahaha. You don't want to get him red all over his face when he gets down on you because of your stubbles.
Waxing does the job better.
But if you want pubic hair, yes, trim it. Long pubic h... (read in full...)
How can I send him subtle signals to let him know I like him?
Q. I'm having lunch with a guy I really, really like. Unfortunately, I'm not sure if he feels the same way. He does seem to flirt a lot...joking around with me and constantly smiling at me, but he's also quite shy. I don't want to come right out and ...
A. 28 November 2008: Once in a while, look at his lips when he talks. Try not doing it often, especially not when you're the one talking. You don't want to make him feel that you do not mean what you say. ... (read in full...)
How to heal a father/daughter relationship after his affair?
Q. My husband had a affair a year ago and it has been a long year.My 13 year old daughter is having a hard time, she started pulling her hair out we put her in counselling . This has helped a bit but every time she pulls her hair her dad gets on her ...
A. 28 November 2008: Thin line between understanding and discipline.
I would say that you have to make your daughter realize that she cannot make her father's weakness be an excuse in life... ever!
This might give her leeway in looking at her father as a pers... (read in full...)
Squirting during clitoral orgasm? Is this possible?
Q. 75% of the time I "squirt" during vaginal orgasms (they don't feel like orgasms to me, but eh), but the other 25% of the time it is during a clitoral orgasm. I'm always afraid that I'm peeing instead of squirting, so I never let the fluid come o...
A. 27 November 2008: Yes, squirting is more common than you think. It is said that squirters are the lucky orgasmers because of the sensation of urethral orgasm. The burst often makes women "cry" while squirting. Some squirts can go on to a glass-full or so. Next time ... (read in full...)
I feel really unappreciated and feel he wants to control me.
Q. I have been with my bf for like 8 months now and it was a long distance relationship at first for a month and a half, he was in isolation and I was always there for him, emotionally since we were far apart and he told me he'll never forget the ...
A. 24 November 2008: There a millions of other men out there. I say this because you have no profound commitment with each other yet.
If and when you find yourself in a profound commitment, then you will have to negate what I said about the millions of men out ther... (read in full...)
Should I be concerned about my wife and friend?
Q. My wife of 6 years and I have been having a little bit of fun over the past 8 months or so but in my opinion it went a little to far the other night.About 8 months ago my brother told my wife and I that my best friend of 16 years who is also a ...
A. 24 November 2008: Next time, if you want to play games, you should have total confidence in yourself and in your partner. My read in this situation is not good at all. Your buddy is too thick in the face to not consider you at all and he is the type to be persistent ... (read in full...)
I keep having vampiric sexual fantasies.. whats going on?
Q. My problem is I've discovered some strange things about myself.I think I'm bisexual and I'm completely in love with my best friend (I'm female and I'm 16), I think about her all day and all night, recently I explained to her my feelings. She told me ...
A. 24 November 2008: Hi. First your being bi-sexual. If you had a friend who told you that he/she was getting married now, you'd probably freak out and say that he/she's too young. Same with sexual preferrences. Give it time before you call yourself bi-sexual. Mostly ... (read in full...)
Do I tell him what I did in the past... or keep it to myself?
Q. Hi all, I am currently in my early 20s and just graduated, so I am looking for a job now. My boyfriend dropped the bomb yesterday. We have been dating for about 8 years odd and he popped the question. This relationship started when I was in my...
A. 24 November 2008: Well, first of all, I don't think you two should get married because the element of trust is missing.
But if you will want to marry him, the best bet is to spit it all out. Just take caution because jealousy is all about possession and so if he is... (read in full...)
How can I try to get my dad to understand me better?
Q. I currently am living with my parents, and things are getting progressively worse. This is the longest period I have had living with them, as I am on a gap year after finishing boarding school which I had been at since 11. We always argue. My dad ...
A. 24 November 2008: There are so many ways to look at your problem from so many sides. But to make things simple, let's try to solve things from your side:
The first thing to consider is that you are not supposed to change other people, so let's not change your dad... (read in full...)
I can leave all other women I am seeing but not this married woman, and she wants to end our affair now!
Q. Hello I 'm here once again for ur guidness I realy love you all auntyzee who spare time for others. well this time, I 'm goin to show you the other side of my coin. it like this, I having an afair with the married women whos havin one kid too, al...
A. 23 November 2008: You may be under-estimating her husband. You'd be lucky if he will not react violently if he finds out. Besides, are you willing to support her and her kid if you break-up their family?
There are so many single and separated women out there, w... (read in full...)
Male/Female Masturbation: Double Standards
Q. This isn't really a question, but a comment that I'm interested in seeing people's thoughts on. This is about male/female masturbation. My girlfriend woke up in the middle of the night and couldn't sleep. She tried to wake me up but apparent...
A. 23 November 2008: Before anything else, study your girfriend. You should know the signals when she is feeling horny. Women want to seduce, and if you ignore her come-ons, she will go get that shower head.
Then study how she masturbates because you will learn ho... (read in full...)
I like my boyfriend but I like someone else too!
Q. i have a boyfriend, and he's really sweet and i love him, but, i also think i might like someone else. i don't wanna do anything about it,cause it's pretty much just hugs and stuff like that, but my boyfriend is a little protective. we've been ...
A. 23 November 2008: My initial answer is go with the second one because you wouldn't have a number two if you were happy with the number one. But since being happy should not depend on your partner, then the problem is with you. You are not ready for a relationship.... (read in full...)
MMF - is this a common fantasy for men?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 6 years and we have always had a very good sex life, we have always been experimental but have never tried a threesome or anything like that, though we have discussed them before. Tonight we were talking about th...
A. 23 November 2008: I, too, have gone through an MMF with the woman I love, and I am straight.
Whatever the sane justifications we can whip up, it is in actuality beyond normal. But after everything, it never bothered me at all. We still have a very healthy sex life... (read in full...)
Playing safe in love or in a relationship?
Q. how will you define the quotation "playing safe in love or in a relationship"?...
A. 23 November 2008: "playing safe in love or in a relationship" is maintaining your identity and giving your welfare importance over the relationship. Men are dreamers and that is not a bad thing. It can only go wrong if you fly with their dreams. Let men form up to ... (read in full...)
Why do I always get my heart broken?
Q. dear cupid, i could really use your help. im 18 years old and in college, im attractive and funny. i have goals in life.i have an all in all good personality and am fun to be around. i get asked out alot. i go out every weekend and there are too ...
A. 23 November 2008: If having a boyfriend to you is "owning" one, then you are up for a long search my dear. A relationship is there for sharing and not for ownership. You are young. Do not be possessive. If it doesn't work out, let him go. After all, a relationship is ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong for a 13 yr old to date a 19 yr old?
Q. Is it wrong for a 13yo girl to be dating a 19yo guy that lives over seas? I love him to death, but i want other peoples point of view. No my parents dont know about him-im not supposed to date. I have been with some one that was 14....it didnt work ...
A. 23 November 2008: 1] One can be anything and anyone in the Internet.
2] You don't want an encounter with a nutcase because it can really be dangerous.
3] At 13, you have the capacity to want to belong.
4] And do not believe that anyone will have the capacity to ... (read in full...)
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