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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWow......well ah thanks...but if anything, we wont meet until im 18.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2008): YES! It is completely illegal & he will go to jail! even if your parents consent- the state can step in and prosecute! It's' called STATUTORY RAPE!
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (24 November 2008):
 As long as he STAYS overseas then "date" all you want. He's probably a potbellied 42 year old pervert anyway.
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reader, aunty_rach  +, writes (24 November 2008):
it's not like you are probably ever going to meet him anyway. you need to realise that he is taking you for a ride and probably just using you to pass his time. sorry to say that, but normally randoms you meet over the net have no intention to be loved up with you. you need to move on and meet guys your own age and not from the internet. you cant have a relationship with some guy over the internet, thats not a relationship..it;s a fantasy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionBelle morte...yes he knows im 13. he turned 19 four months ago.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI met him on dearcupid..... and yes he's willing to wait for me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2008): Yes it is wrong and against the law in this country also if he has any respect for you, he would wait.
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reader, helpjayne +, writes (23 November 2008):
 as it's overseas it's not like terrible because the chances of you meeting this guy are kinda slim as i doubt your parents would allow you too. the thing is your 13 say if you were 16 and he was 19 that would be ok but at 13 he's guna take advantage of you. but don't get yourself too worked up about it if you enjoy talking to him then do so and have a goodtime but please don't meet the guy until your older atleast 16. maybe you could try being a bit more open i mean being open with my mum is great cause she trusts me way more.xage differences aren't wrong it's the fact that your 13 is why some people might not like the idea.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2008): i did that once..... NOT A GOOD IDEA! i bet hes got a girlfriend anyway. Hes 19 fot gods sake,you will end up dumped and probably pregnant.... sorry but dumpp him! and get a boyfriend that's your age and doesnt like sex so much.
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reader, Charlotte? +, writes (23 November 2008):
i think you need to be really careful, especially as you met him over the internet! im only 14 and i went out with a 16 year old and believe me i no how pushy they can be. if i was you, i would stick to your age group you will be a lot happier. :)
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reader, aunty_rach +, writes (23 November 2008):
when you say over the internet do you mean like you met them in a chat room?
if so they could be anyone. you need to be careful about internet dating. especially at your age, there are so many nasty people out there.
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reader, aunty_rach +, writes (23 November 2008):
i'm sorry but why would a 19 year old guy want to hook up with a 13 year old girl, who is still a child in way? you may say you are all grown up, but at 13 believe me you aren't.
seriously hun forget about the older guy and find someone your own age. especially as this guy is over seas, he probably already has a few lady friends. also he is old enough for sex and you certainly are not!!!!!
forget about him!
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reader, hannahlucy +, writes (23 November 2008):
i've been in a similar possition and at the moment he's classed as an adult and (unfortunatly) you're only classed as a child and at the moment both of you are at risk, h's older so h's more likely going to want you to reveal yourself and if he isn't like that then he's likely to be accused of being like that and being a paeophile. so i would strongly advise you to wait untill you're atleast 17, 16 at the youngest
hannah lucyxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2008): Why have you asked then? you say your not going to leave him so why bother asking people what they think when most people will be dead against it. I'm 19 and yes, I find it very strange a guy like age would want to date a 13year old! just wait till your a bit older, you will look back and think, what the heck wrong with him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2008): There is NOTHING WRONG with that. my boyfriend is 20 and i'm 14. it is really up to you. these people on here don't know you do they? only you know what your heart is saying. follow your heart it always works. you may break up but your heart will choose what it feels. you can change your mind but your heart will stay. I wouldn't listen to anyone who says YES THERE IS SOMETHING WRONG straight if they do not know you. IF he's overseas then ypu won't be seeing him so it won't be illegal to just chat till your older.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionEvery one that knows me well tells me im very mature for my age...my dad has said that too. But i dont want to leave my boyfriend because of the age difference.
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reader, sappygirl +, writes (23 November 2008):
 Yes! Even though it's only a 5 years difference, you're at the age where ..maturity wise, it does not match up.
You have to wait until you are of legal age because technically you are still a child and he is an adult.
Once you both reach adult status. You 18, him 23...then it will make more sense to be with him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2008): hi ! please dont think I am a stupid or jerk. I dont trust in love over internet. It is fake. U never know whom you are talking to. So, i would say stop falling in love over internet. In usa it is illegal to have sex with a minor when you are adult. But, relationship over sea....it really doesnt matter. cause it is over internet and the law wont be applied at overseas. so dont worry. nothing will happen.
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reader, katatonik +, writes (23 November 2008):
 It's not "wrong," but not everyone you mention it to will agree with your choice. The main concern with such an age difference is usually that older boys dating young girls are more mature physically and hormonally, and may pressure the young girls to be sexually active before they are emotionally ready to be. Since your relationship is long-distance, it does not seem likely that your boyfriend could take advantage of you in such a way (and I'm not saying that he would, or that all boys do, just that it's a possibility.)
Consider, though, the fact that it would be much more fulfilling to date someone who lives closer to you, and who you could actually spend time with. You are only young once and you may not want to waste that time pining for someone you will rarely if ever see.
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reader, cockainis +, writes (23 November 2008):
 1] One can be anything and anyone in the Internet.
2] You don't want an encounter with a nutcase because it can really be dangerous.
3] At 13, you have the capacity to want to belong.
4] And do not believe that anyone will have the capacity to take care of a 13 year-old when things get real.
5] Men who want younger women show only their mentality.
6] If I were you, I'd find myself a nice hobby and make life more creative and meaningful.
7] Be open to your parents. They can turn out to be really good friends.
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reader, LittleHelper16 +, writes (23 November 2008):
 it sounds a bit fishy to me
I wouldn't trust it
maybe you should ask your parents
I have a boyfriend that also lives over seas. I met him online as well. and thats not the part I dislike. I don't like the major age diffrence. guys his age want more and you arent at that stage yet
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