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writes:HelloI 'm here once again for ur guidnessI realy love you all auntyzee who spare time for others.well this time, I 'm goin to show you the other side of my coin. it like this,I having an afair with the married women whos havin one kid too, along with that I 'm going physical with one of her friend who also use to work in my office and apart from this I 've started dating with my ex girl friend whom I broke up 5 years back. n apart from this I have some other friends who live in other parts of world (not in my country) to whom I did sex and we are still in touch n waiting to meet each other again. This all I 'v told you to clear my part. Now the first girl mentioned above who is marries n having kid too is the grl whom I really love, But now she tellin me that she wants to spend her life with her husband and want to make this relationship just as we know each other nothing more than that.I can leave every one but this will be difficult for me to leave her and she came to know from last 2 months as I was very inclined to her and pampered her every time.Now my thought is wether shes doin this as we have no commitment in between and she want to secure her self after her husband will left her or she actully geting board of this affair and want some change in her life (may be another parson in her life other then her husband and me).
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reader, wendie dee +, writes (23 November 2008):
 Hi you are a busy boy, hope you are using safe sex do they all know about each other? Firstly you can't go on using people the way you are, you have to sit and take a good look at your life, were your heading and with whom.All them you said you could leave i would let go, give them a chance to meet someone who really cares, you can't keep them on a string just for sex, or because you don't want to be on your own.I do believe this married lady, i do think she wants to make a go of it with her husband and the baby. If you can stay friends with her, give her space to see if it's going to work, who knows in a few years if you havn't found the right girl,and she decides it's not working you may get back together.Give yourself time to get over her, your not ready for a relationship while you still have feelings for her, and you can't keep leading people on.Take a few months out! hit the town with your mates, then if you meet someone you may decide to give it a try.ooh and please one at a time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2008): When you date a married man or woman, you surely must realize that they have a commitment to their children and their spouse. If she is cheating on her husband, she would cheat on you. Like men who cheat and like you who have admitted you also have other girlfriends, she likely has had other lovers besides you the entire time you have been seeing her. She does not want to leave her marriage and you should wake up to this fact and find a nice woman with some loyalty in her genes that will commit and never stray.
Another reason you may desire her is because you can't have her, since she is married to someone else. Go and find another girlfriend that wants what you want, a serious and monogamous relationship that will lead to your own marriage.
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reader, cockainis  +, writes (23 November 2008):
 You may be under-estimating her husband. You'd be lucky if he will not react violently if he finds out. Besides, are you willing to support her and her kid if you break-up their family?
There are so many single and separated women out there, why pick on married women? If you are getting your self-esteem from being more of a man than their husbands, then perhaps you should redefine the meaning of the word "hapiness" before karma catches up on you.
Poligamy is not bad per se as many cultures accept it. What is bad is the deceit that you are feeding fire on with the husbands.
Preying on women in their unhappy marriages should not add to your self-esteem because they are really very easy to get... and you can actually die a violent death from it.
If I were you man, I'd drop it. She knows best because she's the one in the relationship and it's not you. Perhaps she is trying to protect herself from disaster. Have a heart.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2008): It's karma buddy!!! What goes around comes around. Your messing with all these women and encouraging a married woman to leave her husband. I am sure she can really see that your a cheat, plain and simple so why should she believe that you can offer her any security. She has made her choice and you should back off and leave her alone. You seem to be proud to be having so many sexual relationships all at one. It's bad man and you should quit before you hurt anyone else.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2008): Might be able to help you if you wrote in English?
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