When is the right time to tell someone you love them?
Q. When is the right time to tell someone you love them? I've been with my new bf for 2 months, and I feel I've fallen in love with him. I wasn't expecting too, and wasn't looking for a relationship when I met him, but he is truly lovely. He tells ...
A. 12 October 2010: Darling,
I assume you and your boyfriend are about the same age. If this is the case, you're both old enough to know whether you want to be together or not. As you are a couple, I can also quite confidently assume that you two DO want to be toge... (read in full...)
Boyfriend caught on dating sites and texting other women...
Q. Hi I am new to this. I just did not know where else to turn. I have no one else to discuss this with. My boyfriend and i have been together 3 years. He is considerably older than me but it has never been an issue for either of us. WE get on ...
A. 5 October 2010: Darling...
He's 53. Many people associate an older age with maturity of mind. What I have found in my life (I've always only had relationships with muuuuch older guys... my current partner being 55) is that 9 times out of ten maturity of age equa... (read in full...)
Is it ok to be in love with a married man 13 years my senior?
Q. i opened this account to just ask...that is it ok if iam in love with a married man who is aroung 13...14 yrs older thn me. i love him so much...we talk on phone..he says he loves me and he loves his wife also...its driving me nuts...plz help!!!!11...
A. 5 October 2010: Darling, this is gonna be a bit blunt.
The problem is not how old he is. If he's married and says that he loves his wife it means that he's not gonna leave her for you. If you're ok with being the part-time lover, fine. Go for him.
If you're n... (read in full...)
I only want men for sex, how do I seek out this kind of guy?
Q. I'm a 22 year old bi male. I only have relationships with females, men are just for sex. I'm having trouble however, finding men to be just sex buddies. They want full out relationships, and I'm not at all interested. Any thoughts as to what I ...
A. 4 October 2010: The internet is the answer. Whether you fancy young men, bears, older guys (or whatever else you may have in mind, so long as it is legal), there's lots of dating websites that'll suit your needs. Just google the type of man you like and you'll find ... (read in full...)
Is this just a mind game or more?
Q. Not sure if this is just a mind game for sexual validation or more.Thanks in advance for all advice, I work in a small office w/ about 20 people. To know my past I have been only w/men and have been very picky so I have only been with two and I am...
A. 4 October 2010: Darling. I don't know her so I can't tell you why she's behaving the way she is. She sounds like some very high maintenance person. People like her are seldom aware of their behaviour. Is it really important for you to know why she's acting that ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's family wont accept me because they cannot accept their son is gay, should I leave him alone even though we want to be together?
Q. my boyfriend is having trouble with his parents accpeting the fact that he likes guys.... i know that they dont like me for that reason and might attempt to get me into trouble about this should i leave him alone even thought we really want to be ...
A. 10 September 2010: Honey... whether you stay with him or not, he is and will always be gay. If you love each other, stay together. ... (read in full...)
If this were your partner's past, would you be as upset as I am?
Q. I met my girlfriend on a popular on-line dating website. Her story was this - she had been doing on-line dating for 5 years, but had never been out on more than 2 dates with anyone she met on the internet. She is a divorced mother of one child, and ...
A. 10 September 2010: Sorry, I really don't get it. She wasn't in love with anyone and she had lots of sex with two different guys. Now she's in love with you and she only sleeps with you. What's the problem, here?... (read in full...)
Heart says yes but my head says different...
Q. My "ex" (not sure what to call him since we still talk) and I had a long distance relationship for a little over 8 months. I ended it because I felt that we weren't communicating enough, the one thing that I believe should be utmost importance for ...
A. 10 September 2010: Honey. If your heart says yes, then there's very little you can do. Just give it one more try. I think you should appreciate that different people (even within the same country) have different ways of expressing love. His behaviour really doesn't ... (read in full...)
Bisexual woman reveals her quite possibly most controversial relationship to her parents!
Q. Dear Cupid, I am a bisexual woman in a year-long relationship with another bisexual woman. We are of conflicting faiths. My father passed away a few years ago so the only person living and raising me is my mother. She is extremely oppose...
A. 10 September 2010: Honey, how about some professional counseling? Your mum is clearly missing some vital information about parenting. Does she think she's acting for your best when she gives you an ultimatum? She needs some professionals who make her realize she's ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to date my former teacher?
Q. I am 19 years old, I graduated high school last year. There has always been a very strong attraction between a teacher at my school (30 years old) and me. My friends would always bug me about how he liked me, but I never told them that I was in ...
A. 10 September 2010: I find it funny how some people focus on his letter. Was it unprofessional? It doesn't matter! What matters, here, is that there's mutual feelings and that it's legal to have a relationship with him. Go for it, girl!... (read in full...)
How do I come across as being more gay?
Q. Ok this is going to sound weird. I'm gay. Unfortunately I just learned that i don't come across as such at all. One kid had to finally ask me. So my question is, how do I come across "gayer" I know it sounds insane, but I'd rather not hide i...
A. 8 September 2010: If it is so important to you to come across as gay, just get actively involved in some gay associations. You don't have to change your behaviour to show people that you are what you are... :)... (read in full...)
Separated wife is now dating a woman???
Q. Me and my wife split up recently and now i hear she is dating a women. she has two bi siblings and has always talked down about them and said she could never be with another women. she does suffer from depression. she is 37 years old and has never ...
A. 8 September 2010: Well, why should it matter to you? You're not together anymore. Of course she could have kept it secret. So many people spend their lives trying to hide their sexuality, and I can't really blame them. Homophobia, biphobia and transphobia are still ... (read in full...)
Now I find out he's straight?
Q. ive been dating this young guy for overa year and yesterday i found out from his own mouth that he wasn't gay but straight. How do i make love to him now that he claims he is straight?...
A. 8 September 2010: Oh yes. He makes love to you and he says he's straight. Hello? He isn't straight. He's either gay or bi. And screwed up. You're obviously unhappy about what he told you. Just avoid him.... (read in full...)
Experimenting, how many guys have done it?
Q. Hey I have a question, I have the opportunity to sexually experiment with a friend of mine. We are both males, and in the 9th grade. I basically have already made my choice, I think I'm going to do it. But I want some input from you guys. How many ...
A. 8 September 2010: Well, if you both want to try it, just go for it. Does it really matter if other people did it, and how they felt? People and situations are different. The question is: are you looking forward to it? Are you scared? If so, what are you afraid of?... (read in full...)
Is he playing me? should I trust my gut feeling and avoid him?
Q. Sorry for the long post, I am trying to figure out my friend. I am 29 and my male friend is 23. I had a secret crush on him. We were best friends for a long long time. He became friends with another guy and he started treating me badly. I have gu...
A. 8 September 2010: Darling, just stay away from him. It seems obvious to me that you don't trust him now and that you won't in the future, even if he turned out to be gay or, more likely, bisexual.
... (read in full...)
Help, my man cheated on me.. with a man!
Q. Heres my story. I started dating my best friend of several years just about a year ago. Everything was going fine untill a few months ago when he started agruing with me over everything. He is always canceling plans and ditching me to go do drugs ...
A. 8 September 2010: Ok.
1) He cheated on you (whether he did it with a guy or with a girl, or with an alien, it doesn't matter to me).
2) You say you're pissed off about him ditching you all the time.
3) He argues with you all the time.
Do you think you'll be ... (read in full...)
My friend is turning into a prostitute!
Q. This is a question concerning my best friend from school. She is 27 years old and was very "normal"...good at studies, we spent time together, had crushes...the works. I left my hometown a few yrs back to pursue higher studies, and I dont get to see ...
A. 8 September 2010: Hey, honey. Don't you think you're getting a bit judgemental (albeit unconsciously), here? Prostitute is a very strong word.
There is nothing you can do, here. Just be there for her when and if she asks for help. ... (read in full...)
How do I handle my boyfriend and this new guy?
Q. Hi!!! I really need your help! I ma in a relationship. i am gay. I've been in this relationship for almost a year, the guy lives with me. we have a 6 year difference in age, he is younger than me, so i feel he is still a bit immature. I r...
A. 8 September 2010: Darling. If you love your bf, then you don't want to lie to him, do you? Give him a chance and tell him what's going on. If he's mature enough he'll try and make things work out. Then you will know whether you want to stay with him or with the other ... (read in full...)
Do I need to just bite the bullet and do this to make her happy?
Q. hey everyone, this is an issue thats been bothering me a lot recently. basically, i'm gay and have been in my first proper gay relationship for about 6 months now. our relationship is long distance and sometimes its hard not seeing eachother...
A. 8 September 2010: Hello, honey.
Don't you think you're just making up an excuse when you say 'one of her best friends is somebody she used to be in love with'?
What is it that you're so insecure about? Is it that you're afraid your gf's mates won't like you? Or ... (read in full...)
How can I stop this infatuation for my Co-Worker
Q. I'm not really sure where to start. I've never been in this situation before and I don't really have anyone I can talk to about it either. I've been working at my current job for about six months now, and I've become increasingly more and more ...
A. 8 September 2010: Darling. Just try and see him as little as possible. No good will come out of nurturing your fantasies. ... (read in full...)
I'm a Pollice Officer, and in Love with my Partner, My Police Officer Partner!
Q. falling in love with my partner. i am a police officer. just recently, since july, i partnered up with a female partner. she is the nicest, most beautiful woman. i have always like her as a person but since we have been partners i have grown to love ...
A. 8 September 2010: Darling. It won't help to try and explain what it really is that you feel about your colleague. The heart and the brain don't work together all the time. Does it really matter if it's lust or love? Whatever it is that you like about your colleague, ... (read in full...)
I'm 43, she's 18 & pregnant and I didn't know she wanted more than sex. I don't want this!
Q. im 43 and slept with an 18 year old and now shes pregnant but thats not the only problem she said that she fort we was going out when we slept together i knew she gets very close to people too fast but i didnt realise she wanted more than sex i fort ...
A. 8 September 2010: Wake up. You're 43. Maybe it's time for you to take responsibility of your own actions. You don't want a relationship with her? Fine. You don't have to love her.
But you're bound to support her and the child. ... (read in full...)
My two-timing boyfriend likes her body but comes back for my stability!
Q. My bf and I have been dating for about 7 months now. We broke up once few months back when he said that he wasn't attracted to me physically anymore. He went on to date this girl for 2 weeks, obviously she does have a great body. After this, he came ...
A. 8 September 2010: Honey. You're too good to him. A relationship should be built upon mutual trust. It is obvious that you can't trust him. Just let him go. It'll hurt for a while but you'll get over him eventually. ... (read in full...)
Why did she break up with me and then say she still loves me?
Q. My gf broke up with me but said she still loves me. She broke up w/ me randomly. I don't know what happened or if I did something. But she's been avoiding me ever since. I thought she loved and she said she did, so breaking up with me and then ...
A. 8 September 2010: Love is a very complex word. It includes a huge variety and shadess of feelings. What is it that your (now ex)gf means when she says that she still loves you? Could it be that she still feels the same as she did before?
The anser is no. If she brok... (read in full...)
I'm wondering if my husband is just waiting to leave me
Q. i need help as i dont know what to do, my husband of 24yrs has been distant and just not the same, he used to say " if i only knew how much he loved me" and be a wonderful loving man, he always wanted sex more than me but i have always enjoyed it, ...
A. 8 September 2010: Hello, darling.
It's difficult for anyone to say what's going on. I don't know your husband but you certainly do. You say there has been a change in his behaviour and this bothers you; furthermore, some woman sent him a text (which bothered you ... (read in full...)
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