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writes:Not sure if this is just a mind game for sexual validation or more.Thanks in advance for all advice, I work in a small office w/ about 20 people. To know my past I have been only w/men and have been very picky so I have only been with two and I am 32. I have dated alot but - took my time.. At work I met this incredible person shes* my age and married. Now this has been going on now for 2yr- she treats me differant than anyone else. Since the 1st time we have met there has been a connection as example - happens all the time -I could be at cubical at work and feel her presance and turn around and shes there. Its like we have a connection or if I see her across the way - we look at each other w/ long gazes- till I look away. I was getting prank calls - I think they were from her. Then I started to date a fellow from work - then she stopped talking to me hanging out-actually didnt talk to me for a winter.. Then I needed additional training I found out she trained me wrong, and trained me to do a 1/3 correct.. Although she kept saying I think if things work out I will bring you back up a week for more training. Now when she comes to train me she gets real close and can feel her heat.. Finally I acouple times I cracked -I told her I wanted to talk to her then she backed off-then all of this starts again if I dont pay attention to her - shes mad- and then trys to hurt me - by talking about me while shes 3 feet away.. Then boom one day the sexual tension is worse than the other times and we are gazing and back to the same ole same ole.. Recently I have stopped trying to be her friend -once in a while I txt and have avoided those eyes of hers.. I really like her -so its hard for me to be that way - I found out her house burnt down and possibly her hubby started it- all they had were in the house. I called and left a voice mesg saying I was so sorry - and if she needed anything to let me know- Just on the off chance I even txt her telling same.. I never heard anything back- but she txt a few peeps at wrk- they all gossiped and gossiped - and here I was there and truely care nothing... When she got back to work poor girl everyone was like did your husband start the fire what happened - blah blah blah - then gosspied - I didnt ask - then she tried to take it out on me by saying I didnt do somthing corrcet at work when I had to prove I did- (taking her shit out on me) I txt her to go check out her folder - I placed 200.00 in cash in an envolople for her and her family saying best wishes- Since I knew she was taking out her stuff on me and I am done playing games- I told her IM DONE,I will not bug you anymore - best wishes.. Now she tries to get my attention and almost cried -so I caved in now everything is back to normal- Is she just playing a game with me?? Why??
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question I wanted to say thank you for all your advice- I am staying away and avoiding her. All The advice helped me so- much thanks everyone... To answer the one question on why am I so selective on men and allowed my self in this back and forth relationship - to be honest - I see somthing better in her- no one has took the time to try to pull it out of her- but maybe I was wrong maybe she is just what she is - who knows - thanks again ...
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reader, Bobito  +, writes (4 October 2010):
 Darling. I don't know her so I can't tell you why she's behaving the way she is. She sounds like some very high maintenance person. People like her are seldom aware of their behaviour. Is it really important for you to know why she's acting that way? You realized that you don't want to deal with the way she behaves, and that's the one important thing. Just stay clear of her. Don't ask yourself questions, just trust your own instinct.
Best of luck,
Rob
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2010): She is playing games and I'm not sure why you would want to be mixed up in all that mess. And, she's married. Why have you been so selective with men but you allow yourself to go through these changes with her? How much can she really care for you if she's trying to jeopardize things for you at work? Be cautious.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2010): I think that first of all, her behavior is very unprofessional. second, if she is back and forth she could be confused, like you. But, you should just back off... let her come to you. If she really likes you like that, she'll make it known. More than just a little, she'll work for it. Don't accept 'eyes' or kind words, she's let you down on just those before. She sounds like she's going through a lot of problems, but don't let her draw you in, and don't give her money. Offer her friendly (professional) support... that's it!!! You've been the giving one, now let her return the favor emotionally before you continue on... otherwise you'll make yourself crazy and she'll take advantage of you like a doormat. It's probably just a game, some release that she's not getting at home and if she really wants more of it, let her make the move!
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