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writes:Sorry for the long post, I am trying to figure out my friend.I am 29 and my male friend is 23. I had a secret crush on him. We were best friends for a long long time. He became friends with another guy and he started treating me badly. I have gut feeling they regularly make out because both of them act like a couple in love, my friend even started sleeping on this guy's lap in front of all of us. So I decided to stay away from him. The the other guy got married and moved away. My friend then started calling me on and off and tries his best to impress me with gifts, at the same time he has moved closer to the married guy's home. My friend is very unpredictable, and is into prostitution, and brags about women, but to me he seems very feminine (I have seen him looking at other younger guys, also, I have seen him with another guy around his age, with his head leaning against the other guy's shoulder.). Is he attracted to a certain "type" only??I can't figure out why he is trying to impress me with gifts etc... I tried to approach gay topics but he gets angry. (I still have the gut feeling that he is with the married guy and into other things), but why is he trying to call me now?? Is he thinking that I am spying on him?? (yes, sort of tried it!!) Is he playing me?? should I trust my gut feelings and avoid him??
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reader, Amack_Lioy +, writes (7 May 2011):
Amack_Lioy is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi, Thanks for all who replied to the earlier post. Update - My friend has has now started to come to my place at odd times. One day he had visited my place when I was not there, and told my mom that I don't speak to him anymore. Then one day he turns up in the night and asks me if he can stay a couple of days at my place, because his father got to know about his girlfriend. (I wanted to help him out, but I was not sure about the whole thing, and refused - didn't want to get involved with the authorities). When I meet him in town he wants me to accompany him to shop (we used to do this earlier b4 he met his friend). Now he is posting online that his girlfriend has left him, and says not trust girls.... Why is he trying to contact me now?? Has his other friend left him?? I m (still) wondering whether he is gay/bisexual etc.. and hoping he might be attracted to me. I still have the crush, but I m afraid to ask directly because it might ruin the friendship. Appreciate your answers... thanks.
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reader, Bobito  +, writes (8 September 2010):
 Darling, just stay away from him. It seems obvious to me that you don't trust him now and that you won't in the future, even if he turned out to be gay or, more likely, bisexual.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2010): You should stay far, far, away. There is nothing healthy about this "relationship."
Find someone who actually treats you with the love and respect you long for, and this guy is not going to do that now or ever. good luck, mal
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reader, der_zyniker  +, writes (7 September 2010):
I think he might like you if he is gay. If he does, don't avoid him. You have no idea how much it hurts when someone won't come anywhere near you because you like them or love them. If he gets angry when you bring up gay topics then don't try to talk to him about it. If he does like you in that way then he will talk to you about it in his own time. But don't you think it would be silly to throw away a friendship, especially with someone that you say is your best friend, just because they like you in a gay way. I think that your friend is confused and not sure what to do right now. He might also feel bad for how he treated you and maybe that's why he's been giving you these gifts. I honestly can't tell you what he's thinking.
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