How do I let my friend know that her negative remarks are pushing me away?
Q. I have been finding one of my closest friends incredibly difficult to be around lately, and am not sure how to deal with it. In my own life I have just gone through a stressful period, and now everything is looking up. However, this friend of m...
A. 31 January 2011: Hey eveyone,
Yup, thre's no way around it, I just have to tell her she's being a pain in the ass, then find out what's bugging her (again).
PS - On another note, anyone know how questions on Dear Cupid are sorted into "related questions"... (read in full...)
Why did she behave like that? What did I do to deserve that???
Q. A while ago back in college i was friends with this girl. we werent best friends but we hung around in the same social circles. as time went on i developed a crush on her and so i gathered up the courage to let her know how i felt. I got her alone ...
A. 4 January 2010: This sounds like a pretty normal and reasonable reaction on her part.
Basically, she has a boyfriend (you knew that too) and you two have mutual friends. She is giving you some space since she rejected you, doesn't want things to be weird between ... (read in full...)
The thought of what my girlfriend does in her sleep keeps me awake
Q. For some reason this is really bothering me. I woke up the other night sleeping next to my girlfriend and i thought she was masturbating. Now i dont know for certain but the reasons i thought this were because the covers were slightly moving,...
A. 1 December 2009: You are fairly young, so please don't take offense. However your question makes you sound unreasonably controlling of your girlfriend, and perhaps a bit hung up on female sexuality.
In short, don't hassle or interrogate your poor girlfrie... (read in full...)
We have a perfect relationship except he shakes me and pulls my hair...
Q. Im 16 and my boyfriend is 19. we have been together 5 months now but have known eachother for over a year. we have a perfect relationship. sometimes. when we are not fighting and screaming and wanting to strangle eachother. we fight over ...
A. 15 October 2009: You sound like you are a wonderfully intelligent, artistic, and talented person, and I am so sorry that you are in such a tough situation right now. You deserve so much better in your life, and luckily, you can have better than this!
Right... (read in full...)
My boyfriend won't take me to homecoming and will break up with me if I go. Is he bluffing?
Q. my boyfriend is a senior and im a sophomore, hes 18 im 16. homecoming is on friday and he wont take me. he says he doesnt wana go so i said i was jus gona go and he said we will break up if i go without him.. i asked why and he said "because its a ...
A. 15 October 2009: His behavior is unreasonable, and way out of line, whether he is bluffing or not.
I don't want to sound alarmist, but controlling behavior like this is not a good sign, and he has absolutely no right to do this to you or anyone. Since you are youn... (read in full...)
I'm unhappy and he doesn't listen
Q. Should I stay or go?? I'll try and be brief with this, i met my partner 4 years ago, it was great at first we travelled the world together, and used to do a lot of things together. We moved into our own place but a year ago he decided we move bac...
A. 14 October 2009: I'm sorry to say this, but your situation sounds horrible. Your partner is not even being a half-decent roommate, let alone a partner. At the risk of sounding horribly judgmental towards him, I don't think he is even acting like an adequate child.
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She's beautiful , popular and I trust her, how can I stop being jealous?
Q. My girlfriend and I recently started dating, but we have been friends for a long time and we know each other very well so I know what kind of girl she is and I know that she is COMPLETELY trustworthy and I do trust her 100%...however, I have been ...
A. 6 August 2009: I think you've taken the first step of identifying that it is your jealousy, and not anything she is doing. You say that you have 'habitual jealousy' stemming from the past. It might be a good idea to make peace with the events in the past that... (read in full...)
Is he playing games, or does he want to get back with me?
Q. Why does my ex keep calling me twice a month and talking for only about 10 minutes when he has told me he doesn't want to be together anymore? Sometimes he says things to make me feel like there may be a chance for us and then he does the same thing ...
A. 6 August 2009: It is unfair, and it sounds like he is playing games. Whether he is doing this on purpose or not doesn't matter; the fact is that it is disrupting your life, and disrupting you moving on. You don't have to be mean to the guy, but you also do... (read in full...)
We had a nice night together, then he never called me again.
Q. Did I do the right thing? My ex and I seemed to be getting back together, we had sex afew times. but the last time he put on all the romantic moves, dinner, opening up, talking about our times together. We had a wonderful night and I stayed over ...
A. 5 August 2009: You were brave to tell him how you feel, and to say that his behaviour hurt you.
He seems like he is very selfish and manipulative, and I think that you have better things to do in life that wait for him to get his act together and act like a g... (read in full...)
He treats me so well but dosen't want a relationship, should I wait for him?
Q. I had asked a question previously about a situation between my good friend and I. This may be long so bare with me, but I really am confused about this situation and would appreciate any input! Basically the sum of it is, we had been friends sin...
A. 5 August 2009: I say wish him all the best, but don't wait for him.
This situation is very complicated, and you really don't need to be caught up in it.
He is in no position right now to be a good boyfriend to you.
I would pass on the beach. From the sounds o... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is obsessed with sex!
Q. My boyfriend is obbsessed with sex thts all he talks about and i aint ready.........the thing is he lives in cali and i dnt.......i dnt wanna talk about sex let alone do it he is always trying to make me horny what should i do?...
A. 5 August 2009: If you are not ready, then you are not ready and he needs to respect that.
He is not a bad person for being interested in sex, but he should not be pressuring you.
If you don't like his actions, tell him. If he doesn't stop, then you may hav... (read in full...)
How much is too much to tolerate?
Q. My boyfriend of a year and a half wants to go visit his family far away. In order to do so, he insists that i do not stay at our apartment on my own - none the less in the CITY on my own and tells me that I have to go to my family's house in ...
A. 5 August 2009: I don't understand:
a) why he would want you to leave the city,
b) why he believes he can control your vacation days, or
c) why he would get so insulting when you ask him about his irrational behaviour.
It sounds like he is getting defensive... (read in full...)
Caught my preteen sister masturbating with a sex toy.. should I inform my parents?
Q. Well.. recently, actually about 2 hours ago I walked in on my younger sister masturbating. And the thing that got me, it was with sex toy. She didn't see me at first, but then I yelled her name and she quickly covered up. She is only 12 years old,...
A. 7 April 2009: I would definitely not tell you parents, but I would add that you NOT tell other people either. She is young, and curious, and exploring safely (no risk of pregnancy or STI from a toy). However, if you tell people, and this rumor gets around she ... (read in full...)
Wrong for 19 year old guy to want a 13 year old girl?
Q. well my question is, is it wrong for a 19 year old boy to want a 13 year old girl (he wants her in the bad way and has done the same to other girls and then dumped them after he got what he wanted) and if so how do i help this girl if she won't ...
A. 3 February 2009: Yes, it is wrong (and downright skeezy) that his guy is preying on 13 year olds. You are definitley right to warn her. I know it sounds lame, but can you let her parents know (After all, she is so young!)? Maybe let his parents know too? Out th... (read in full...)
I'm 13, he's 19--does he just want sex?
Q. well theres a boy i knoww that i chat to often he really likes me but theres one problem im 13 and hes 19 my mates say that he just wants one thing but hes not like that hes very sweet and looks out for me im not sure if i wanna be with him thou...
A. 4 January 2009: Listen to your friends and avoid him like the plague. This is not a good situation for you to be in, and shame on him for setting things up this way. He most certainly knows better, but he is targeting you be cause he assumes that, as a 13 year old ... (read in full...)
Friends hubby has feelings for me!
Q. I was approached by my friends commonlaw husband and he said he has had feelings for me for a long time..He told me exactly when he started feeling this way and I remember the day I didnt even looked or even talked to him but he said that the way I ...
A. 20 December 2008: You are a wonderfully loyal friend, and a noble person. Sorry to hear that someone would risk so much to let you know how they felt, but bravo on your response.... (read in full...)
Girlfriend or the ex?
Q. I need help, I'm stuck between my girlfriend and my ex. Me and my girlfriend have been arguing non stop for months on end and its just getting worse and worse but i still love her a bit, but me and my ex have been talking recently and she said ...
A. 20 December 2008: Hey stuck-in-the-middle, I would suggest a third option of a time out. Things sound like they are getting a bit intense, and you seem like you are unsure which option to take. Take a breather and think about it. After that time, I'd say your op... (read in full...)
Girlfriend or the ex?
Q. I need help, I'm stuck between my girlfriend and my ex. Me and my girlfriend have been arguing non stop for months on end and its just getting worse and worse but i still love her a bit, but me and my ex have been talking recently and she said ...
A. 20 December 2008: Hey stuck-in-the-middle,
I would suggest a third option of a time out. Things sound like they are getting a bit intense, and you seem like you are unsure which option to take.
Take a breather and think about it. After that time, I'd say yo... (read in full...)
I need to boost my self confidence because I feel so ugly - does he really like me?
Q. I've got a serious issue with self-confidence and constantly compare myself to other girls and think they're so much better than me - prettier, etc. Recently, a lad who I've known for a year-ish told me he liked me. This was a shock because lads ...
A. 27 July 2008: Dear x,
Sorry to hear things are getting you down. You seem to be asking two separate (although related) questions here.
“So,do you think this boy actually feels something for me?”
My guess is that he does like you, but since he seems to lo... (read in full...)
Do I tell my date that I may not be ready to date him just yet?
Q. I have a date this weekend with a great guy (an acquaintance, not a friend), but I realize that I may not be quite ready to date anyone after ending a very serious relationship that lasted 5 years (my ex and I were both civilized about it, but there ...
A. 27 July 2008: Hi everyone,
Thank you so much for your advice.
As it turns out, I went on the date, but told him it was a getting to know him type deal. We both had a lot to talk/laugh about, so we are keeping in touch as friends for the time being.
Be... (read in full...)
Selfish, depressed husband! I am beginning to break down.
Q. Hi Everyone, i am recently married (like two months ago). we have had a few hard times since we got married - my partner lost his job and we have been unable to pay our mortgage for two months. We have a baby son and he is not affected by this rea...
A. 24 July 2008: I am so sorry to hear about your situation. I must say that you are a very strong person to be working part time and caring for what appears to be two Dependants.
I was recently in a similar relationship with a man who was also depressed, emotiona... (read in full...)
I'm a virgin and I need some tips! My boyfriend told me he hates it when the girl just lies there!
Q. i have been with my boyfriend for over a month now, we both want to have sex, but im a virgin and i reli want a bit of advice on how to make it good for him. hes quite experienced. he said that he hates it wen a girl just lies there so i want to ...
A. 23 July 2008: Communicating before, during, and after is key, especially since it will be your first time. Before: Make sure he listens to your concerns about this being your first time. His comment that he hates it when a girl just lies there could mean he do... (read in full...)
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