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writes:Did I do the right thing? My ex and I seemed to be getting back together, we had sex afew times. but the last time he put on all the romantic moves, dinner, opening up, talking about our times together. We had a wonderful night and I stayed over but then I did not hear from him, so I fel that I was used. 4 days passed no call. He told me to go to something onthe 5th day but he didn't show up. So I went to house, dropped some things off and left. i then called him and toldhim it was my saying goodbye, that I couldn't not give myself to a man and have a very romantic, passionate lovemanking session and then night hear from him. That it hurt me to much, he seemed shocked. I said I would always be his friend but I don't gie myself away cheaply. He seemed shock. i haven't called him but want to, and he hasn't called me. iknow he is busy but that is no excuse. I am having second thoughts about telling him how I felt. but I just can not be used for sex. I am so sad aabout this. Did I do the right thing/ I know if I call him now he will be nice, we would prob get together, but then wouldn;t this just open my heart again and to be hurt again because he does not really want me or else he would have called. I do miss his friendship which was great but when he put on all the romance and didn't call I felt that I was a "booty" call. Perhaps, i did the wrong thing, i don't know. I just know I really miss him.
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reader, QuirkLady +, writes (5 August 2009):
 You absolutely did the right thing. You stood up for yourself and made clear what you won't accept from a dating partner. Good for you! If he can't reach out and make a call he is not the right man for you. You'll get over him in time and your life will be open again for a better man.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2009): the best relationship advice i ever received from someone. was when i said i missed my ex and wanted her back (after so many terrible things she put me through). and my friend told me that in most cases, people don't miss their ex's, they only miss the feeling of being in love.
i dont think you miss him. i think you just miss the feeling of being loved and being needed. you dont deserve for him to put you through all of that again. this might sound really bad but i've done what he has in the past (although i'm changed now), and if you can do it to someone once you can do it again its not hard. you did the right thing by leaving him. it might seem difficult i know, but dont call and dont give him another chance. you can do better.
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reader, Bliz  +, writes (5 August 2009):
You were brave to tell him how you feel, and to say that his behaviour hurt you.
He seems like he is very selfish and manipulative, and I think that you have better things to do in life that wait for him to get his act together and act like a grown up.
You absolutely did the right thing by telling him how you feel, and letting him know that what he did is not o.kay You are still doing the right thing by not calling him.
I know you miss him now, but he isn't good enough for you (and I'm sure he knows it), and soon you won't miss him anymore.
Take care,
~Bliz
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