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*ovebug9
writes:My boyfriend is obbsessed with sex thts all he talks about and i aint ready.........the thing is he lives in cali and i dnt.......i dnt wanna talk about sex let alone do it he is always trying to make me horny what should i do?
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reader, Lovebug9 +, writes (5 August 2009):
Lovebug9 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionEveryone thanks for the help and advice so much and i talked to him and he didnt understand so i let him go
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reader, Cheerleader4life +, writes (5 August 2009):
 My boyfriend was the same way the only diff. is i did it don't do it. and tell ur boyfriend this "If you really love me then u would respect my dision to wait and to wait until im ready to not just u" cuz if he REALLY loves u then he would respect ur dision not try to pressure u~~~~ GOOD LUCK!!
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reader, busy04 +, writes (5 August 2009):
 Wow, it amazes me that there are still young people around that actually can admit to not being for sexual activity! Big ups to you sweetheart!
To answer your question I believe that you need to tell him what you wrote here. You're not ready yet & he needs to know that, and more than knowing it, he should show respect for it and you shouldn't be pressured into doing anything either. Tell him that you don't want to talk about sex right now & switch the conversation to something else you both can discuss freely. You're young & you have time for that later, you should make him understand that. And if he can't respect your wishes then you need to let him go.
From what you say you seem to be in a long distance relationship. And if that's the case, then you should be even more careful with this situation.
But like I said before...talk to him & tell him you're not ready & don't let him pressure you into doing something you aren't ready for.
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reader, Bliz  +, writes (5 August 2009):
If you are not ready, then you are not ready and he needs to respect that.
He is not a bad person for being interested in sex, but he should not be pressuring you.
If you don't like his actions, tell him. If he doesn't stop, then you may have to let him go.
After all, you are young and should enjoy life at the speed you want!
Hope all goes well,
Bliz
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reader, FountainOfIndifference  +, writes (5 August 2009):
 In reality, sex is one of life's driving biological forces and - at least anthropologically - why we are consumed with sex. We eat, we seek shelter, we procraete. From the most basic metabolic level, that's why we exist, and evolution commands us to do so.
It's quite possible that your boyfriend is a prime example of evolution's work.
Or maybe he's just really, really horny.
One of the most important things in any relationship is communication. That, and loyalty. And love, of course.
People want to have sex for lots of reasons. Because they want to have kids. Because they want to express their love. Because they want to have fun. Because nothing good is on TV.
Talk with your boyfriend about WHY he is so obsessed with sex, and make it apparent that you're just not quite ready for it yet. If he has issues with it, then... that's really his problem. If he forces you to have sex, it's not sex, it's rape. And that's bad.
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