I don't want kids in my future but cannot get sterilization' surgery because of my age.I fear getting into relationships because I don't want a pregnancy. What can I do?
Q. katie Absintence cause problems? Hello- I am a 21 year old with a history of sex abuse. I really want a boyfriend and companionship and I would like to have sex but I absolutely do not ever ever ever ever want a kid, I have done soul searching a...
A. 6 June 2007: Ok hunni well here's the thing. Although many woman have not been sexually abused as a youngster they too, including myself have massive fears of becoming pregnant and seems like the worst ting that could ever happen to you. I have nightmares about ... (read in full...)
How effective is emergency contraception?
Q. How effective is emergency contraception? Last night I had sex for first time and it was going great until my bf realised the condom had come off and had lodged itself right up at my cervix! He didn't come cos he realised before that condom had come ...
A. 27 February 2007: I used levonelle too but it said in the leaflet that it was only 84% effective. Did you get a stronger prescription cos you were on other medication?... (read in full...)
Infatuated with one of my teachers... when I leave school, can I date him?
Q. I know there are already similar questions asked but I would like a personal response to my situation. I am 17 and in my final year of school and really like one of my teachers. I think he is in his mid thirties and I know he is not married and ...
A. 13 February 2007: No it is true in the UK dunno bout US or elsewhere in the world but I read a magazine and a girl was asking about dating a man who was 26 when she was 16 and apparently it isn't allowed.... (read in full...)
Infatuated with one of my teachers... when I leave school, can I date him?
Q. I know there are already similar questions asked but I would like a personal response to my situation. I am 17 and in my final year of school and really like one of my teachers. I think he is in his mid thirties and I know he is not married and ...
A. 12 February 2007: Hey there! If you are under 18 then unfortunately it is not legal to date a man over the age of 24 in UK law but if you turn 18 and have left school then no there is no problem with dating a teacher. I've just started going out with one of my old ... (read in full...)
I may be coming on too strong...how do I keep my cool with this girl and slow it down?
Q. I think I may have messed things up with a potential love. Help me fix it or just give me a good kick in the butt. We have so much in common and have such a great time together. 2 weekends ago i thought was such an amazing time, but i might have ...
A. 12 February 2007: Sounds like she maybe just needs time to get use to the idea. Just give it time and her space. If she is still interested and can see you are willing to wait for her then she will be grateful for that. Then again she could perhaps have been ... (read in full...)
I can't take it any more, I feel sooooooo neglected.
Q. I know ppl are supposed to get stressed and depressed around valentines day but i cant hep thinking that its different this year. Ive recently moved to a new college where ive become quite popular with the guys buts as their friend rather than a ...
A. 12 February 2007: Right hunni I can see you gotta lotta issues here some of which I've had for the majority of my teens so I totally sympathize with you. Just to set the record straight I'm a one of those size 8 5ft5 gals and this is the first year in my life that I ... (read in full...)
What is the average sized penis for a guy?
Q. hi, im 15. my gfs 17. i was talking to her about penis size, and started going thru them and what she though eg(1 inch? 2 inch? 3INch?), well i said my penis size and she laughed at it, im 4 inch 5. she laughed at all other sizes up to 4.5 an sed 5 ...
A. 12 February 2007: Ok! Here's the facts you are still young and still growing. It is likely that your penis is still developing too. Although the average size of a male penis is like 6 or 7 inches that is including those guys who's are far to big to fit comfortably ... (read in full...)
How do I kiss a girl?
Q. i really like dis girl and wana kiss her! but how? first tym! i will meet her quickley on valentines to give her sum suprise flowers! plz help as many ppl as possible asap. fanx oh ye were 16...
A. 12 February 2007: Hey there hunni! Well the thing about kissing is you know when is the right time. Tends to be when there is a break in the conversation and you are looking into each others eyes or if you have been hugging for a while or holding hands and turn to ... (read in full...)
I want to get a girl some flowers, do I get a card too? If so what do I put on the card?
Q. i wana give a girl i like some flowers. is a card essential? wot can i write? i reli like her but have noooo clue if she likes me! so shall i write card as a friend or lover? wot do i write? if she dont like me wont it be embarrassing if she doesnt ...
A. 12 February 2007: Hey there anon! I'm guessing you are quite young and perhaps not to sure about gals so I'll try giving my advice based on that assumption. Either go for the single rose thing or a bunch of flowers with the little card that comes with them. You can ... (read in full...)
I may be coming on too strong...how do I keep my cool with this girl and slow it down?
Q. I think I may have messed things up with a potential love. Help me fix it or just give me a good kick in the butt. We have so much in common and have such a great time together. 2 weekends ago i thought was such an amazing time, but i might have ...
A. 29 January 2007: Did the two of you have sex 2weekends ago? If so was perhaps just too soon for her and she feels things aren't moving slowly enough for her liking. She does probably really like you it's just that she doesn't wanna get ahead of herself. Try to to ... (read in full...)
My dad was sent to prison for indecent assault on a minor. How do we all cope as a family?
Q. My father was accused and found guilty of indecent assualt on a child. the story is really long so i will cut it short as possible. The girl was my brother ex gfs daughter. My brother and his ex gf would argue constantly My father would be cal...
A. 23 January 2007: Good luck to you on your retrial. I do hope that this round is more successful and your dad gets the outcome that he deserves. Perhaps you could try changing legal teams cos this lots sound like a waste of space! They are only concerned about trying ... (read in full...)
Another guy walked in on us having sex and joined in. I told him to leave and he wouldn't! Is this rape?
Q. Ok. i have been thinking. I went to a bar a while ago and eneded up going home with a guy i knew of from high school. well we were having sex and another guy popped in and began messing with me as well. I didnt want this other guy there at all. but ...
A. 23 January 2007: There doesn't actually need to be a fight between you and him btw or him holding you down against your will with you putting up a fight. Also doesn't require you to have got up and left becuase if you can prove that you were intoxicated enough then ... (read in full...)
Another guy walked in on us having sex and joined in. I told him to leave and he wouldn't! Is this rape?
Q. Ok. i have been thinking. I went to a bar a while ago and eneded up going home with a guy i knew of from high school. well we were having sex and another guy popped in and began messing with me as well. I didnt want this other guy there at all. but ...
A. 22 January 2007: Hey there
I don't know what the law is exactly in USA but here in the UK rape is made up of 2parts the act of vaginal penetration and the intention to have non consensual intercourse with a woman or, reckless as to whether she is consenting. So if y... (read in full...)
My dad was sent to prison for indecent assault on a minor. How do we all cope as a family?
Q. My father was accused and found guilty of indecent assualt on a child. the story is really long so i will cut it short as possible. The girl was my brother ex gfs daughter. My brother and his ex gf would argue constantly My father would be cal...
A. 22 January 2007: Hey there I'm sorry to read your story there. Sounds like you got it really bad. Few things I'd like to clear up for you cos I'm a law student 1 - DNA is not required 2 - As you said rape is really difficult to prove without DNA evidence so usually ... (read in full...)
I have fallen for my friend, should I take the risk and tell her?
Q. I'm a teenage male who has a lot of mates who just use me. I finally found someone who actually cares about me and I feel strongly about her as well. I have feelings for her and we always joke about things (sexual or otherwise) so i dont know if she ...
A. 21 January 2007: I would say tell her. If you are really good friends then she won't let this come between you even if she doesn't feel the same way. You could even tell her that you had mistaken your feelings to be ones of attraction but it was really just your ... (read in full...)
I have vaginal odor and my friend has big 'lips'! Are we unusual and why are we like this?
Q. hi i am just a young teenager and i really think that my discharge smells (not nice) it's not an unusual colour or anything but i am so worried about it. i have not told anyone except one friend who would also like your advice she thinks she has ...
A. 20 January 2007: If there is a reasonable amount of discharge it is likely to be thrush or a baterial infection which is easily cleared up my some creams/pills the doctor give you. Usually it is caused cos you are too clean down there with soaps etc check it out ... (read in full...)
Why am I always the one to arrange for us to meet?
Q. rightt iv been realy close with this lad for 2 years now! i like him more than any lad iv ever met and he feels the same! i know hes not just playing me, cause i havnt slept with him yet lol! all his mates know how close we are and that and hes a re...
A. 19 January 2007: What lildeesbg says is a good point but that can also work against you as I've found out in the past. Say your guy is quite unsure of himself etc he might think you are loosing interest in him and back off instead of see it as a challenge. The best ... (read in full...)
New boyfriend and I want to hug him but don't know when!
Q. hi. i have got a new b/f and we have been together for about 3 days lol. well i want to hug him and hold his hand and stuff. he held my hand the other day. but i really wanna hug him when i say goodbye to him and stuff. but what do i do, do i ju...
A. 18 January 2007: Hey hunni!
I have to say I've never really had that problem usually guys make it quite clear they wanna do something to me or I just turn round and kiss them and have never been denied a response. Try not to think about it so much just let it come... (read in full...)
We split and he said never to contact him again. I want to apologize, but also feel he over-reacted - what should I do?
Q. I split with my boyfriend just before Christmas. I did love him, but didn't feel that 'butterflies' thing that I have had with previous boyfriends. He was a recovering alcoholic (though he had not drunk for two and a half years) and he had declared ...
A. 18 January 2007: Well hunni you gotta think about how you would feel in his shoes. To start with keeping in touch with old boyfriends is always dodgy and if he had done the same to you are you honestly gonna admit that you wouldn't have been a tad jealous? Secondly ... (read in full...)
My guy on the side makes me feel special even though he only wants to have sex with me in the car. What should I do?
Q. I am having a affiar with a 26 year old man. He has a girlfriend and two kids. I have a bf of 3 years i luv him to bits, but he doesnt make me feel special any more and the 26 year old does. Even tho he is just wantin sex i still enjoy being with...
A. 18 January 2007: You wanna know what the right thing to do is? Although I think you already do. Just becuase your relationship with your bf isn't doing it for you anymore is no excuse to have an affair with a married man! The fact he has kids with this other woman ... (read in full...)
Would this stop you from marrying her?
Q. Open question would you date a young lady who does oral sex once in her past,would you make her be your wife or girlfrend. Would you date her...
A. 16 January 2007: That's like saying is it still ok to marry or date a man even though he wanks off several times a week! Come on don't be a bloody prude! Woman have needs too you know... (read in full...)
I'm 14 and not confident about my size 34A breasts! What can I do about this?
Q. hi im 13 , 14 in February and i really want to wear tops but im not confident about my breasts. there 34a and i just want to go out with a top and not a jumper to cover up . I would find myself more attractive by not covering up as much. What ...
A. 7 January 2007: Well from all the stuff I read when I was your age there is no need to worry about the size your breasts are just now. They keep growing until your late teens. I have a friend who was completely flat chested and is really skinny and then suddenly ... (read in full...)
I'm 16 and want to get married. Is there any way to bypass parent permission?
Q. me and my boyfriend live in kansas. im 16 and i want to get married to him. the only way to do that though is if i have parent permission. i know my parents wouldnt like the fact that i want to get married at this young of age. is there anyway to ...
A. 6 January 2007: I know years ago it was quite the norm for people to get married so young and they stayed together for their entire lives (not that they really had a choice in the matter) but now it's almost as you are setting yourself up for a fall. One of my best ... (read in full...)
My husband and stepson have physically abused me. I want to leave, but fear hurting the children we have together. And where would I stand financially?
Q. I have been married for 17rs and have suffered some physical abuse from my husband and from my stepson, whom my husband stuck up for. We no longer have any common interests and i need the courage to leave but am frightened to lose everything. We ...
A. 6 January 2007: Hey there. I really feel for you on this one because my mum has been mentally abused by my dad for the past 20years that they have been married but she has always felt that she didn't have the money to leave him and with three kids she could never ... (read in full...)
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