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New boyfriend and I want to hug him but don't know when!

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Question - (7 January 2007) 8 Answers - (Newest, 4 November 2009)
A female age 30-35, anonymous writes:

hi. i have got a new b/f and we have been together for about 3 days lol.

well i want to hug him and hold his hand and stuff. he held my hand the other day.

but i really wanna hug him when i say goodbye to him and stuff.

but what do i do, do i just suddenly grab hold of him lol?

or grab hold of his hand and hold it?

im just not sure whether i would be embarrassed to do that?

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A female reader, pollyjuice26 United States +, writes (4 November 2009):

I have been going out with my b/f for 2 weeks now, i was scared to hug him at first but i got better at it. I walk up to him with my arms open and say "hug" it works every time. If I do that, he becomes less scared to hug me, and hold my hand and that kind of stuff. Just be brave and confident. Also maybe tell him you love him or something.

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A female reader, Druggggggy United Kingdom +, writes (24 October 2009):

Druggggggy agony auntYeaaaaaahh! Just Hug Him, Seriously, You'll Never Get Anywhere If Your To Scared. Best Of Luck :)

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A female reader, lil miss blond3 her answerin ur questions United Kingdom +, writes (20 February 2008):

lil miss blond3 her answerin ur questions agony auntjust go ahead and hug him if he loves yooh he wont find it embarrsin and ur no one else will hope i helped

rate me answer plz

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2008):

My friend is having the same problem. Some advice is to just do it...or at least ask one of his friends if they think he'd be ok with it! I mean what's it gonna hurt, just one two three...BAM! Hugging!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2007):

Hi

If you want to hug your b/f just ask him

i ask my boyfriend for a hug!!

If he says no just leave it for a couple of days let him get to know you better then ask him again.

If you want to hold hands walk along the street with him and either grab hold of his hand or do a trick ask him

"Do my hands feel cold to you?"

"I think they feel cold"

Then ask him to hold your hand to keep them wary it works!!

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A female reader, black_diamond329 +, writes (18 January 2007):

black_diamond329 agony auntHey hunni!

I have to say I've never really had that problem usually guys make it quite clear they wanna do something to me or I just turn round and kiss them and have never been denied a response. Try not to think about it so much just let it come naturally. Generally i don't tend to hug a bf unless I'm on my own with him or lying in bed (sex not involved here either) or when you are kissing him this becomes incredibly easy and natural to wrap your arms around him. If you don't wanna make the plunge kissing then keep trying to put him in situations where you are both facing each other on your own where he is more likely to see those sexy lips and throw himself at you. If he doesn't then i think you might have to go in for the kill so just stay calm and perhaps stop talking for a while and look at him (never do it while he is still talking or abruptly cos u dont wanna frighten to poor boy) and then just edge slowly closer towards him. He should close the gap. Good luck and let me know how it goes sweetie!

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A female reader, ebonyrose Ireland +, writes (8 January 2007):

ebonyrose agony auntHi there. god they were the days not knowing when and how. To be honest there is no certain time to do it. Your fella sounds just as shy. The only thing u have to watch is he might get a bit embarrassed if u get a bit touchy touchy around his mates wait until the relationship is more secure. I would give your man a big hug when you first meet him this says without words ive missed u which all of us want to hear from our partners. When ur giving him the hug also just give him a peck on the cheek to encourage him to give u a big snog back. ENJOY hope this helps a bit

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A male reader, Zim United Kingdom +, writes (7 January 2007):

Zim agony auntAw bless. You sound like a sweet girl. You shouldn't need to worry however. Hugging someone is a wonderful thing that makes them feel wanted and liked. In a sense, it makes them feel warm inside. That's what happens to me anyway.

The likelihood is that he might be very shy when it comes to holding hands or hugging. He would want you to make the first move. I'm certainly like that still, and i'm 20!:-)

I can understand you would be embarrassed to hug him because it is the unknown and i'm guessing you haven't done it before? Well, I think that is something that he would love you to do. When you meet up with him, hug him. Perhaps as you walk up to him open up your arms a little. That way when you do hug him, it's more of a smooth movement, rather than jerky.

As to your question about being embarrassed. Why not try it? You obviously want to and you won't know until you do, so go for it! Hope this helps. Good luck! ZIM

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