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writes:I'm 27 and the guy I would like to be with is 29 (he also has a 4 year old child) but there's a twist. We work together and I've had a lot of ppl tell me that trying to date someone you work with is not a good idea. Yet we work on different floors and I rarely get to see him. Moving along, a co-worker hooked us up and it was a bit rocky to start. Eventually we hashed some things out and he wanted me to contact him. I'm not use to guys wanting me to contact them or make the first move. Immediately I was a bit concerned. That goes against everything I didn't want. Yet I did contact him but I was so nervous but I did it anyway. Things went well or so I thought. When I would text him he would respond but only when I would text him. I tried to give him ample time to text me on his own yet he didn't. I've heard how much of a sweet, shy guy he is, how quiet and to himself he is yet it's like pulling teeth trying to communicate with him. I immediately started to assume he didn't like me and decided to just give him his space. I didn't want to come across as clingy or needy. Which I am neither. I'd gotten word recently that he's going through some things not only in his personal life but work as well. So I figured I would just back off until some things cool down. It's been a week and pretty much he hasn't contacted me. I've been debating if I should contact him or leave well enough alone. I do like him but I'm definitely not the type to chase after anyone. What should I do and based on the info I gave does he like me. Thanks.
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reader, allthatjazz +, writes (9 April 2016):
 When a guy wants you, he would go after you especially in your case since you already have shown him something he could start with or follow-up on. The next move is his, not yours. I would, however, caution you that it's not the best of ideas not only to hook up with someone from the same office regardless of the proximity of your work station but to hook up with someone from the same office with unresolved issues. it's pretty clear he's not too excited about this as you are.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2016): It takes seconds to text someone and he hasn't contacted you for a week then he's not thinking about you. Also the fact you had to hash things out even before getting into contact? That's not a good start. Then once you texted him he would never respond in kind. Have you been on an actual date yet? I would describe myself as shy and introverted but once I've made contact with someone if I'm keen I'll show it. As he has a 4 year old he isn't inexperienced when it comes to women.I'd say if you have to do all the running then the other person isn't interested. For a relationship to get off the ground it has to be a two way street.It's up to you whether you pursue him or not but baring in mind you work for the same company I wouldn't go too far with it. You could end up working together one day.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (9 April 2016):
 Look at your two options here.
1. He's not that interested in you. Then stop using your energy on him.
2. He likes you, but is lazy with contact. This will not change even if you were to enter a relationship. It would still be you doing all the texting. You having to initiate everything. And Im telling you from experience that this sort of thing grows old very fast, unless you have the patience of a saint.
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