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writes: i really like this girl. she doesn't want a boyfriend. i want to go out with her somewhere as friends but that's hard enough. i see her at school. we're 16. any ideas? thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, agony_emz  +, writes (4 May 2007):
 hi there!
if you want to be friends with her take the plunge and talk to her. dont look at her constantly while in conversation as this will show to her that you are after one thing, listen to her and find things out but also talk about yourself, try and make friends with her friends and do things as a group, group things can always be fun! try do things with her and her friends i know go shopping can sound such a boring thing to a guy but take some of your guy mates with you it can always be fun and a guys opinion is always helpful!!
good luck xx
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reader, kenny +, writes (4 May 2007):
 Just try to make a friend out of her and take if from there. Get chatting, be interested in things she does, or is doing, offer to do a favour for her, even if its just carrying some books or something.
When you feel things are going well ask her if she would like to do something one weekend as friends, some of the best relationships start out as friends.
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2007): This is really hard because I'm in the same situation as you at the moment i really like a girl i see around. I think about her all the time and I look forward to seeing her so much that sometimes words just don't come out of my mouth when I see her and spend all day feeling gutted cuz I wasted that chance. I don't know if this is how you feel? but if it is then i can sympathize!
Well when I do get myself together we usually end up chatting about stuff eg. going out, music etc and why don't you try this with the girl you like, and see where the conversation takes you. You might find it really hard at 1st because your a bag of nerves but just try and find things you have in common like TV programmes or maybe you both like the same band. It helps to have things in common maybe find out a few things you both like and talk about it. It takes courage but if you go for it just keep conversation light hearted and fun!
I read something once and it stuck in my heart for ever 'how to win friends and influence people' (dale carnegie) great book borrow it if you can - give someone what they want and they'll give you what you want.
In other words be genuinely interested in them and they'll like you back. Just try not to go over the top, there is a fine line between interested and obsession. Get it right and you should have a friend in them?
Another way to become friends with them is think about how you are with your group of mates or best mate? I'm sure yourdead relaxed. try and think like that when you chatting to them. If you've got any parties lined up invited them and there mates along, thats another good way to get to meet up with them.
Hope it helps and I wish you luck!
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