I love my boyfriend very much but I hate that he doesn't work and I pay for everything!
Q. I have been with my boyfiend for just over 3 years now and I love him very much but I hate the fact that he does not work and I have to pay for everything. He says that he is looking for work but all he every does is sit on social networking sites ...
A. 26 August 2009: ok, another point of view, my man was out of work for a while there (18 months), but he's a trained mechanic and done a few homers so always had a bit of cash, while he was out of work i pretty much paid everything, even when the window cleaner came ... (read in full...)
Does this count as rape?
Q. I am a 20 year old male who has been screwing around with my 35 year old married neighbor for 5 years. She is a beautiful woman who has introduced me to many things sexually. She is very kinky and very persuasive. Over the years she has given me ...
A. 25 August 2009: if you did not consent, and in saying that i mean, at no point did you tell them this was ok, then yes. its rape.
they did not ask you if this was ok, and as far as you knew, your involvement was only with the female. they obviously planned it t... (read in full...)
Is my girlfriend a player?
Q. My question is about if I am being played by a woman or not. I am 36 and have been dating a 42 year old for over 13 months. When we met, she said she was divorced, a mother of 3, and just got out of a relationship with a younger man of an unknown ...
A. 25 August 2009: uhm, how fast can you run?!?
i hate to say it but its seems like you're being taken for a ride. too many lies and things that are a bit too vague for you to actually trust her. and as for her friedn slashing your tires, have you seen fatal at... (read in full...)
Cheated just before we got married, and now he wants a threesome to even the score!
Q. I cheated on my husband 2 years ago a few months before we got married. I had sex with another man one time (the biggest mistake of my life). Now he wants to make me feel the same way that I made him feel back then by having a threesome this weekend ...
A. 25 August 2009: OK, i'm confused, when did he find out you cheated? cos if it was before you get married then he should have forgiven and forgotten by now or just called the whole thing off.
Evening up the score as he puts it is not going to work, he's using th... (read in full...)
I have no experience with men! How do I know what he wants?
Q. Ok I need some tips/help, I am a shy 26 year old who has no experience with guy, I always feel awkward around them but a guy I used to work with has asked me out and I really want to go but I am so shy, we had a kiss at the christmas night out and ...
A. 25 August 2009: relax, breathe and go enjoy yourself.
you don't have to do anything with him. in fact, if you wait til you know each other a bit better then you'll probably find that he'll tell you what he likes,a dn you'll be able to tell what he really e... (read in full...)
Is this an STD? Cancer? I'm scared!
Q. I am 16 and about 3 months ago me and my boyfriend started having sex. The first time we didn't use a condom (I know it was stupid, please don't lecture me on it :/ And he withdrew before he was about to finish) We were both virgins and had ...
A. 25 August 2009: hey, get yourself to a doc and stop worrying about it.
its probably just thrush which can cause the itching but its so easy to treat its unreal, girls can get it from all sorts of things and it can go away without much of a do, but if your boy... (read in full...)
I believe the other woman more than I believe my boyfriend!
Q. i found a girl's number in my bf phone. i asked who it was and he lied. couple days later i found out it was this same girl ive saw be4 on his page on the internet couple months ago. so i told him to call her and have a convo with her. ask her why ...
A. 25 August 2009: you've said you believe the girl which means you don't believe the boy. which translates into you know he's been cheating and you know he's lying about it. even if it was a long time ago - why would he lie now and not just admit it? walk awa... (read in full...)
My girldfriend wasn't upfront with me about her past. How do I get over it?
Q. how do i get over the fact that my girlfriend kissed another guy and he felt all over her before we started dating and she told me way after we've been dating for 4 to 5 months? i checked and didnt find the question at all please post thanks....
A. 25 August 2009: she let a guy rub her thigh? well this may sound a bit off the wall, but rubbing someones thigh is hardly consumating, and i'm pretty sure she didn't "let" him, he probably just done it and then she was too embarrassed and/or to frightened to tell ... (read in full...)
Should I be worried about the email I found implying he may have had a casual hook up while he was away?
Q. Hi there, my problem is, well for starters, to me and everyone who knows me, i have a fantastic relationship, i have an brilliant boyfriend who i have been with for apprpx 18 mths, we have lived together the last 9 mths. i have 2 children, one is 6 ...
A. 25 August 2009: you sound like your mad on each other!
to be honest i'd bite the bullet and just tell him what i felt. he sounds like a normal guy, horny and curious, but if it makes you feel down then tell him. dont be too dramatic and tell him he has to stop,... (read in full...)
My partner broke up with me because her daughter doesn't approve! Should I stick around to see if things change or let go?
Q. I've been seeing a wonderful woman for almost 7 years. We are in love. Her teenage daughter has broken us up as a couple, and says she doesn't want her mom seeing me anymore. My girlfriend basically told me that has to make sure that her daughte...
A. 25 August 2009: reading your follow up has made me really suspicious of the daughter!
i dont really think therer's going to be any way around her.
however, i would still give it a bit of time, your ex may come round, and in the meantime you should definitel... (read in full...)
We've been going out for 6 months, is it to early to be in love?
Q. Ok well basically I am in love with this girl who is also my age, I have been in love with her for around 3 months going out for 6 months. I was just wondering is it to early to be in love? I personally think i have matured enough to unders...
A. 20 August 2009: of course you're in love! it would go against the laws of nature for a teenager not to be absolutely head over heels with their partner.
its probably not the strongest love you'll ever feel, but its definitely one of the best.
enjoy! i'm s... (read in full...)
My boyfriend always looks deeply into my eyes... does this mean he could be in love with me?
Q. my boyfriend and I can talk for hours...but sometimes it will get silent when he starts to glare into my eyes; for along time I might add, and without saying anything. What does that mean when a man does that? I think he is in love with me. Is that ...
A. 20 August 2009: you glare back?! nice! ha ha
maybe he likes your eyes or he's day dreaming...
either way, if you've been seeing him for a while, you'll know. and if you don't, i'd ut myself out my misery and ask him.
not necessarily if he loves ... (read in full...)
My partner broke up with me because her daughter doesn't approve! Should I stick around to see if things change or let go?
Q. I've been seeing a wonderful woman for almost 7 years. We are in love. Her teenage daughter has broken us up as a couple, and says she doesn't want her mom seeing me anymore. My girlfriend basically told me that has to make sure that her daughte...
A. 20 August 2009: i can understand if she wants to put her daughter first, as a parent its very commendable but i realise you;re dubious. is there maybe something going on in her daughters life that you dont know about?
but, if what you say is right then its the ... (read in full...)
I asked her out and told her to think about it. It's been a day since, shall I phone her or wait?
Q. i left another post saying about a girl well she told me friend that she really likes me and she dont love this other boy. So last night i asked her out and she said i dont know and i said ok can u think about it and she said ok. I havent spoke to ...
A. 20 August 2009: i'm with sincerely yours on this one.
but if she's still with this other boy, even though she doesn't like him, maybe she just wants to do things right?... (read in full...)
Should I be worried about the email I found implying he may have had a casual hook up while he was away?
Q. Hi there, my problem is, well for starters, to me and everyone who knows me, i have a fantastic relationship, i have an brilliant boyfriend who i have been with for apprpx 18 mths, we have lived together the last 9 mths. i have 2 children, one is 6 ...
A. 20 August 2009: go with your gut, its always right.
but if your gut tells you its innocent (and there aren't any other signs) then you have to forget it and move on.
if you keep this in your head you'll just torment yourself to the point you are suspicious o... (read in full...)
What are the chances of being pregnant if he came inside of me 3 times?
Q. what are the chances of me being pregnant if the guy came inside me 3times? ...
A. 20 August 2009: I'd say high enough to be worried... do a test as soon as you can and put your mind at ease
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Feel down, was angry, and I called the other girl. Was I wrong???
Q. My boyfriend had seen two other girls while we were together, i lost trust in him, and i noticed he started calling me less, and i always made all the plans, so we were on and off. just recently a new girl that i knew showed up and i found out they ...
A. 20 August 2009: its sounds like you already know what you should do.
he's not good for you and at the end of the day, you have to look after yourself. he certainly doesnt seem like he's going to and if you don't trust him then there's no point.
its so hard t... (read in full...)
Being friends with an ex. Why is everyone against it?
Q. im friends with my ex ...i am genuine about my friendship and she matters to me a lot as a friend ...but her friends and wellwishers are against this friendship and tell her to break it off because they dont believe in it ...she says she is on my ...
A. 20 August 2009: hey.
its def possible to be friends with an ex, its just not the easiest thing to do.
maybe wanting to be best of friends is a bit optimistic at the moment. i am good friends with some of my exes but its taken time to get there...
just... (read in full...)
When is the best time to take a pregnancy test?
Q. hey i am 14, i had sex on friday night when me and a few others stoped at my lads mates house and we were not drunk we were sober and i was messing around with this lad and then we went upstairs because this lad had a bad sholder and i said i w...
A. 20 August 2009: hey, just another quick thing, i know this will be hard to do as well, but try not to worry about it. stress can make you late as well.
you seem like you've got your head screwed on, and everybody makes mistakes, its learning from them thats th... (read in full...)
My girldfriend wasn't upfront with me about her past. How do I get over it?
Q. how do i get over the fact that my girlfriend kissed another guy and he felt all over her before we started dating and she told me way after we've been dating for 4 to 5 months? i checked and didnt find the question at all please post thanks....
A. 20 August 2009: before you met her? are you seriously going to hold this against her? if so, she's better off out it. i'd hate to think what other trivial, inconsequential things you might take offense to... ... (read in full...)
I can't stand being with him when I don't love him...so how do I break up with him?
Q. Hi So I've been going out with this boy for about a month now. He asked me out a few times and he really likes me eventualy I said yes as I thought I liked him but I have found out that I only like him as a friend. To add to this I was alre...
A. 20 August 2009: totally with damluvaan on this one.
its good that you're concerned about how he'll take it, you obviously do care but its best not to drag it out, thats not fair on him either. and once you've done it this one time, next time will be so much ... (read in full...)
This guy I've been talking to on msn has told me to choose between him or my boyfriend! What should I do?
Q. i have been talking to this guy for about 4years on msn and a really do like him like actually soo much but he lives soo far away and he wants us to be more than friends but i just cant see it working because of the distance and hes away on holiday ...
A. 20 August 2009: Hiya I think maybe the boy who lives far away is just a little jealous. Reassure him that you still want to be his friend, and because he is so far away thats all you guys can really be just now. I'm sure he'll appreciate that, especially sinc... (read in full...)
Is it normal for the semen to come back down and out?
Q. I have the implant, me and my boyfriend have both been for check-ups and we are both disease free! We have started having sex without a condom, I'm wondering if it's normal for the semen to come back down/out of me? It's abit messy sometimes and ge...
A. 15 August 2009: it is completely normal, and eventually you and you;re fella will actually get a right good giggle over it.
just make sure you dont try and get up and move around too soon cos it has been know to drip! lol... (read in full...)
While we had broken up she slept with someone else....and I can't stop thinking about it. Help!
Q. My girlfriend and I had a bad break up with no intent to get back together. While we were broken up, she thought I did not care about her and I thought the same as she did. we became started talking to each other between our break up, but very ...
A. 15 August 2009: i agree with above, she didnt really do anything wrong so you;re gonna have to just move on.
but i would ask myself if i'd rather not know. there are advantages to both sides. she was right to be honest, if this came out later on and you knoe... (read in full...)
I'm 24, she's 14 but she loves me and I don't want to hurt her
Q. Hi i was looking for advice and found this site, I wrote my whole question out and it got deleted some how. So I have to write again, Basically this girl who is a close family friend came onto me while i was at a Summer BBQ at her house, asked...
A. 15 August 2009: this girl is 14!! seriously?!?!? think back to when you were 14 and tell me if you seriously think she is an adult and capable of making these decisions for herself!
step back, regardless of whether it hurts her. you are inches from breaking... (read in full...)
It's 4 times now - is he using me?
Q. the same guy who i was talkiing about in friends with benefits just asked be back out ...he broke up with me the frist time because people made fun of him cause i was 2 years younger than him second time was because hes to old and third time was b...
A. 15 August 2009: dont do it.
tell him that when hes made his mind up to let you know, and then walk away and dont hold your breath.
i dont think he's using you but i dont think he knows what he wants either. maybe you walking away will help him get thing in... (read in full...)
Tried to stay friends with the ex but I get ignored, should I just forget it?
Q. i was going along with this girl for a year and she was crazy about me ...we enjoyed each other's company and there was definately something special between us ..we shared whatnot and hanged around a lot ...then i dumped her for some reasons and she ...
A. 15 August 2009: this is going to sound really harsh but you are being so selfish! you dumped her, and the second you done that, your claim on her was moot. you cannot expect her to keep in close contact with someone she was so crazy about and is now trying to... (read in full...)
Twice he's said he needs to step back..so what do I do?
Q. Hi, se tisesion earlir didnt get any responses, so I'd really appreciate some help: i was seeing guy for 4 and a half months (not officially lke) 3weeks before he startd seeing me him n his gf of 3 n a halfyears broke up, about 1 month into thi...
A. 15 August 2009: you need to take a step back and decide what you want from him. once you've decided, tell him what you want and ask him if there is any possibility of him being able to give it to you. i dont mean marriage and babies, i just mean, if you're h... (read in full...)
Will my husband think I'm a slut if I say yes to all the things he wants me to do?
Q. I have a question: My husband like porn. And certain things that the women there either do, or have done to them. He has mentioned to me stuff that "might be intersting" to do. (That he obviously got from watching this stuff.) Mild bonda...
A. 15 August 2009: honestly? only say yes to the things you're curious about too.
if he didn't seem to cut up then he probably wasn't. Its kinda natural just to try things out and he's probaby just going with, the dont - ask dont get motto.
but as i was saying,... (read in full...)
How can I get over my ex boyfriend? Cut off all contact?
Q. Hi there, im finding it very hard to get over my ex-boyfriend. We split up about a month ago. I was very much inlove with him so i was devastated when he broke up with me. he didnt really give me any valid reasons so it was very hard to accept it. ...
A. 15 August 2009: ok, firstly, i really feel for you, i know personally that it makes you feel like crap.
however, when he text you and you went and met him, you didn't know how he felt about you, when you slept with him again, you didn't know how he felt about yo... (read in full...)
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