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*atrick72
writes:My question is about if I am being played by a woman or not. I am 36 and have been dating a 42 year old for over 13 months. When we met, she said she was divorced, a mother of 3, and just got out of a relationship with a younger man of an unknown time frame. All she did was talk about the ex boyfriend until today he comes up and we live 2 hours away. At one point she told me a old friend was coming to visit and I found out that it was a old boyfriend from long ago, and because I had looked on her email bad I know she had said some juicy things things. This isn't the half. I recently found out from her supposedly ex husband that they are still married, he had come into town to take care of some business for his youngest. She accepted to take care of her like he had. I just found some strange text's on her phone and she said it was her gay friend but several calls she gets around me she won't answer, claims it's her friend and wants a ride. She disrespects me in front of others, and she allowed her friend to harass me for hours on my birthday via phone and slash my tires, and she still talks to her. Her friend's reason: because I wasn't good enough for her.
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reader, QuirkLady +, writes (26 August 2009):
 Roll out.
Hiding a marriage is a HUGE lie. She's been lying to you for over a year, letting you believe she was single and ready for a relationship with you. Over a year, man! That is some deal breaker ish right there. On top of that she won't stand up for you to her friends and hides things from you. This woman is not long term relationship material, even if she wasn't still married (which, hello, she still is!).
Leave this relationship behind and find someone who will be honest with you.
Good luk.
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reader, Sugarbuns  +, writes (26 August 2009):
 Yes she's a player with multiple playmates! Don't be added to her harem. You will never get a commitment or any kind of faithfulness out of this woman. She is used to juggling many men at the same time. Some people actually get addicted to the attention and cannot stop themselves. She will never be happy with just one guy. I think you're setting yourself up for a serious heart break.
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reader, Ifyoudontmind +, writes (25 August 2009):
Hey friend,I can relate whole heartedly. Being played is something you can just sense. However, do keep in mind that a lot of insecureities do come into play here. Honestly, if you look hard enough to find evidence... it will be there. E.g. Reading e mails, snooping text messages ect. Its bad news all around.You have been together a significant amount of time, and if the only basis for your conclusion is merely suspicions, you should reconsider. There are some half truths to your significants actions, she is being shady. However, unfaithful. I highly doubt she would continue a lengthy relationship if she wasnt satisfied. But as a test, lay it on line. "This changes or I leave" Perhaps not verbatim, but you get the gist. Hopefully this helps.sincerely-IYDM
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reader, a spades a spade  +, writes (25 August 2009):
uhm, how fast can you run?!?
i hate to say it but its seems like you're being taken for a ride. too many lies and things that are a bit too vague for you to actually trust her. and as for her friedn slashing your tires, have you seen fatal attraction? thats just weird.
you're a young guy, get out while you can.
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