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writes:i was going along with this girl for a year and she was crazy about me ...we enjoyed each other's company and there was definately something special between us ..we shared whatnot and hanged around a lot ...then i dumped her for some reasons and she was devastated ...she got extremely obsessed and i supported her to move on ...then she went out of town and eventually learnt to live without me and things got faded ...we decided to remain as friends though and i kept contacting her once in a week for sure to know how she is doing...then i reasilsed how foolish i was and that she has hardly called me since she moved out ....maybe she was too busy with her gang to call me but i expectd her to be loyal with our friendship for old times sake ! whenever i taunted her about only me calling her she never admitted her fault from her heart ...but she texted me once in a while and kept in touch with me though...perhaps i was expecting an intimate friendship..also im sure to the core that she also wants it and needs me ...plz dont get me wrong though! perhaps she is watching me and playing some games or whatever im not sure ..one thing is for sure, i have sold myself short by showing the need to have her as my friend and she knows she can have me anytime ..this may be the reason she is taking me for granted and never replies ON TIME unlike before when she used to be opportunist to talk to me! today she landed in my city and texted me that "hey im back, i'l be leaving on monday night" ..and i was like "hey nice to see you back, have fun" and she vanished after that ,,,no replies! perhaps she wants me to text her first and take the lead to meet her ...if i message her, she will think im an emotional fool once again but if i dont, she may misinterpret that i am observing her and taking the revenge...one thing i tell you about this girl is that she isnt like this at all ...she is not at all wicked minded like most of the girls ...she would fall on my feet if she sees a tear in my eyes and ask for forgiveness if she was the reason for it she was that crazy about me ...we meant the world to each other and were soulmates ..what should i do now ? should i wait for her call and bring the ball in my court ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2009): Omg poor girl probably doesn't know what you want from her. Its so hard she probably still loves you but its easier for her to think you don't care just stop playing with her feelings you can't stay friends with someone who you love. she moved away because she couldn't deal with seeing you. What makes you think shes going to want an intimate friendship just leave her alone. I left after an ex of mine dumped me and asked him never to speak to me again and he didn't honor that request and now thanks to him my head's in bits.
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reader, a spades a spade  +, writes (15 August 2009):
this is going to sound really harsh but you are being so selfish!you dumped her, and the second you done that, your claim on her was moot.you cannot expect her to keep in close contact with someone she was so crazy about and is now trying to get over.if you really wanted her to be your frined you'd give her the time and space she needs to get herself together.you sound like a jealous boyfried, or someone who regrets letting her go to begin with. thats your mistake, not hers.
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reader, becca b +, writes (15 August 2009):
wait for her to call it may take hours, weeks or even months, just be patient she'll come round eventually, but every now and then check up on her just to make she's okay and if you've run out of patience then throw the ball in the court and tell her how you feel and she will be genarally sorry she's made you feel this way. if she doesn't just forget about her, she's not worth it. hope this helps you along your way
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reader, L*  +, writes (15 August 2009):
she might still have feelings for you so she's trying to avoid you or limiting contact for her own sake. please be understanding, if she likes you then that's why she's acting this way.
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