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I believe the other woman more than I believe my boyfriend!

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Question - (25 August 2009) 6 Answers - (Newest, 7 September 2009)
A female United States age 36-40, *ove301 writes:

i found a girl's number in my bf phone. i asked who it was and he lied. couple days later i found out it was this same girl ive saw be4 on his page on the internet couple months ago. so i told him to call her and have a convo with her. ask her why is she calling and how she got your new number. he kept refusing to do so. finalyl after 30 min. he calls and asks one question. and then hangs up bc the girl is talking.

i keep tellin him to call back he wouldnt tho. the girl sends a text saying i know ur with your girl and f* yall. she can have u etc. after fighting with him i go home. call her myself. she tells me they have been talking months, years ago. they had sex many times be4. but it was a year ago. then they were just talking on the phone. she knew alot of info about me and where he lived and wat his room looks like.

this was over 2months ago now when i found out. we were together for over 3 years. i stop talking to him for a lil over 2months. he still tells me to this day that she is lying and that they were talking but never had sex. i believe her more but idk what to do. i really want to know the truth. i asked him a million times! please help

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A reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2009):

Idk. You'd be surprised how many people love to waste other people's time. You could've been his "back up."

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A female reader, love301 United States +, writes (26 August 2009):

love301 is verified as being by the original poster of the question

thanx you all! i do however have trust problems with men. so he could be telling the truth and i just think he is lying. its just that the girl knew too much information.and the fact that he didnt want to call in front of me. the biggest reason is that a guy will not waste their time talking to a girl for months n years if they arent getting anything out of it.

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A male reader, Ifyoudontmind United States +, writes (25 August 2009):

I am going to give you this one from a guys perspective. I dated a girl once and she was the most insane manipulative vindictive bitch to ever be conjured into existence. That being said, she would intentionally seek out my current girlfriends via myspace, facebook ect.. and try to ruin things like oh he lies.. and whatever.

So, if they did have a past, which they probably did, and she wants to hurt you or try to get him back, she would say ANYTHING to push you away.

Just a thought, its happened to me, six times.

-IYDM

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A female reader, a spades a spade United Kingdom +, writes (25 August 2009):

you've said you believe the girl

which means you don't believe the boy. which translates into you know he's been cheating and you know he's lying about it.

even if it was a long time ago - why would he lie now and not just admit it? walk away. the guys a prat.

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A female reader, linz09 United Kingdom +, writes (25 August 2009):

linz09 agony auntMore than likely they did have sex, why would she lie she has nothing to loose..and why was he acting so funny when you asked him to phone her in front of you,it's up to you, you probably already know in your heart that he has. Its up to you whether now after this incident that you can trust him fully.

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A female reader, thatgothgirl20 United States +, writes (25 August 2009):

thatgothgirl20 agony auntGo with your gut. If you feel that he's lying, let him go.

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