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writes:HiSo I've been going out with this boy for about a month now. He asked me out a few times and he really likes me eventualy I said yes as I thought I liked him but I have found out that I only like him as a friend. To add to this I was already in love with another guy.So how do I break up with him? I can't stand being with him knowing I dont truly love him and would like to break up with him. Though I'm not sure how.I only see him at school and we dont really live near eachother. I don't want to do it at school because he is sensative and it will probably end in a big scene...So how do I break up with him? I still want to be friends though so any ideas?Please help! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2009): Maybe he can stay after school one day? Just for a little while to talk to you, that way time is pressed to cath the bus or however it is you get home so you don't have to stay and make a big scene with him.
But other than that, if you can't do it at school and you don't live close to each other, then you need to do it over the phone. But certainly not on msn. That is far too impersonal and a bit cowardly.
The best way is to be straight forward in the most gentle way, you know.. not to beat around the bush. A bad habbit i used to have was to make him think there was hope for the future, becaue I couldn't stand leaving him injured. That's a really, really bad idea though. DON'T do that.
Prehaps to get your guts off, you need a little honestly to tell you what you've been doing wrongly.
You got into a relationship with someone, when you in love wiht someone else. That is abolutely not a condemable thing to do. It's the highest level lead-on. You need to unhook him before he gets more and more hurt because the longer he's with you, the more it hurts him in the end. Goodluck!
~Sy.
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reader, a spades a spade +, writes (20 August 2009):
totally with damluvaan on this one.
its good that you're concerned about how he'll take it, you obviously do care but its best not to drag it out, thats not fair on him either. and once you've done it this one time, next time will be so much easier! you have so many frogs to kiss before you find the one you want to keep!
I don't think it will end in a scene, he'll probably be too embarassed to do anything like that, but he'll get over it. just don't tell anyone in school before you tell him or he might hear it through the grapevine.
best of luck, but i'm sure you'll be fine.
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reader, hazza123 +, writes (20 August 2009):
do you have his number or msn if so do it over the phone or by text or msn be sure to do it your self though or people will think your pathitic if you get a friend to.
Hope it helps
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reader, Six_Floors_Left  +, writes (20 August 2009):
 You should get his number (if you havnt already) and call him. Just tell him how you feel and explain that you only like him as a friend. Once its done though you may want to wait a couple days before persuing this other guy to avoid a confrontaion as he may assume that you broke up with him just for the other guy. I think that you should only remain friends with him if thats what he wants. Chances are that if you remain friends he is still going to like you which will probably ruin the friendship in time. Hope this helps!
-SFL
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