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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

Alone and lonely on Halloween. I missed my chance of marriage and kids and now feel that I don't fit!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2970 days ago

31 October 2016 (F)

age 41-50 - This isn't about romance, but it does pertain to relationships. Maybe no one has the answers, but I feel so sad. Today is Halloween and I used to love Halloween, but I'm depressed. I feel left out. If you're an adult who is single, no kids, does that mean missing out on... (250 words)

Like the attention but hate the thought

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2970 days ago

31 October 2016 (F)

age 26-29 - So im 18 years old ive been working in a restaurant for the last 2 years. Recently we got a new chef a married man with 3 kids , he's lovely and very easy to get on with ?however he is very flirtacious and tends to make a lot of sexual comments for eg saying he is lucky to work ... (126 words)

Can't decide over career or homemaker

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2970 days ago

31 October 2016 (F)

age 36-40 - So my boyfriend, successful with his own business thinks being a career oriented woman with goals is good, (adulting) and I think being a stay at home dog mom is good, where is the happy middle? :/ we are so different in this respect but we love each other Background, I hate m... (73 words)

It's a rocky relationship and I just learned he's been sexting other women! I need advice!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2958 days ago

31 October 2016 (F)

age 30-35 - Please I need y'all advice. So my bf and have both live here in the U.K. I came here when I was a teenager and he's only been here for 3yrs now. His mum said I'm a good girl so she set us up. He was not my type so I didn't agree. He pursued me for 2yrs I just wasn't ... (486 words)

Why the personal questions about my body? Does he have feelings for me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2958 days ago

31 October 2016 (F)

age 30-35 - I have this best guy friend, I have feelings for him, everyone swears he has feelings for me. Last night when we were talking (which we do almost every day) he started asking extremely personal questions about my body. I asked him if he had been thinking about this for long, ... (119 words)

Husband took advantage of my drunken state

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 2958 days ago

31 October 2016 (F)

age 36-40 - I'm not really sure what to do. Two nights ago, my husband and I went to a party. I drank, he did not. I drank a little too much and was barely functioning. We came home and had sex. He went soft so I rolled over and passed out. Next thing I know, he rolls me back over, gets ... (118 words)

I may have lost the love of my life and perfect girl to commitment phobia! Now that I want her back, she's completely blanked me out!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2970 days ago

31 October 2016 (M)

age 30-35 - I think Ive ruined things with the love of my life Ive been with my girl 8 years since school she's absolutely stunning that's why I fancied her initially I just wanted to have sex with her but we were 16 she ended up making me wait 8 months and that's when I got to know her... (576 words)

I've never had feelings like this before, but I'm getting whiplash!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2970 days ago

31 October 2016 (F)

age 30-35 - Ok, so here it is: A couple months ago i met this guy, and it was instant attraction from both sides. Physical attraction that i have NEVER felt before, but what was strange is that there was the emotional attraction as well. We are very good together, the playfulness, ... (509 words)

I think he's selfish for taking viagra!

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 2970 days ago

31 October 2016 (F)

age - I just found out my husband has been taking Viagra. He's 63 I'm 57. What makes me upset is that he should have talked to me about it, and I have not wanted sex for years. Been together 32 years and we've been having sex twice a week for last few years. He Says he's going to ... (82 words)

High heels during sex...yay or nay?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2973 days ago

31 October 2016 (M)

age 41-50 - This question is for you women out there. I really want to know if high heels are a sexual turn on for you girls or not? I love them and I want my wife to wear them every time during sex. But she doesn't!! It's the single most sexual turn on for me. I feel frustrated at times! ... (76 words)

Why is he paying child support to his ex if their laszy 17 year old daughter is living with us?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2973 days ago

31 October 2016 (F)

age 41-50 - I'm back again for more advice. A little update on my last situation because this kind of involved it. I am still with my fiance, although the wedding date is no longer may 2017. I felt like we have issues that need worked out before that happens. A lot of things we have worked ... (533 words)

I've always felt like my B/f fancied me but now I feel from his choice in porn that he fancied his ex more!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2947 days ago

31 October 2016 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend has unknowingly dented my self esteem recently, although he's hurt my feelings he hasn't done it on purpose. I'm not sure telling him would be a good idea. I can't stand arguing! I've started watching porn with him, I've never had an issue with a boyfriend watchi... (338 words)

Boyfriend's parents disapprove but mine don't!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2970 days ago

31 October 2016 (F)

age 22-25 - I just moved to America a few months ago and soon after met a boy I really really like. We started dating and just recently hit the 6 month mark. The problem is his parents. His parents a originally from Korea and are very traditional. Since he's the only son they disappro... (150 words)

We had planned to go to a party but my behaviour seems to have scared him off!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2958 days ago

30 October 2016 (F)

age 30-35 - i was a fat awkward teenager, and was new to a school where i got bullied by a guy and girl , a lot. But i moved on and let things go.Recently after 10 years the guy got back in touch with me.Initially i did not feel like talking to him, because i did not forget those bad ... (215 words)

I don't want to have anything to do with my family ... ever again!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2958 days ago

30 October 2016 (F)

age 30-35 - I want to go far away from my family without telling them where I am going and never ever wanting any contact with them again. I don't know if anyone here knows how it feels to be manipulated by family members till you become a dry well then they cut ties with you or igno... (417 words)

My boyfriend's wife says he is lying about getting a divorce

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2970 days ago

30 October 2016 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi, I am with a guy who is separated from his wife 5 years ago. He came to America as a refugee 3 years ago and she is overseas with their son. All his family and relatives knows about me and the fact that they are separated and he is waiting for his resident card to go back ... (516 words)

Girlfriend of 4 years cheated, I forgave and she's still cheating! I'm afraid to leave home anymore

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 2973 days ago

30 October 2016 (M)

age 41-50 - Hey guys, Im new to this kind of thing however i don't know where else to turn to for this so figured it's time to ask here. so right to it... Me and my gf have been together for over 4 years now... we've had our ups and downs like anyone else. About a year ago i discove... (394 words)

My boyfriend doesn't want anymore children and wants me to have an abortion

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2947 days ago

30 October 2016 (F)

age 36-40 - Hiya everyone I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years we have a 11 month old daughter I have another daughter from a previous relationship the problem is I've just found out I'm pregnant again but he doesn't want any more children he thinks I should have an abortion which I ... (69 words)

Future mother in law seems to have won and talked my fiance into putting off our wedding. I'm pregnant and not happy!

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 2974 days ago

30 October 2016 (F)

age 41-50 - I posted just over a week ago about bringing my wedding forward as I've not long found out I'm pregnant and didn't want to be a due date bride! But was having issues with my mother in law saying she couldn't get the time off work and generally making things difficult. My new... (274 words)

I think I made a mistake moving away and buying a house with my b/f. I don't know what to do

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2974 days ago

30 October 2016 (F)

age 41-50 - I am 42, and currently in a bad situation with my bf of 6 and 1/2 yrs. I moved 80 miles away from family friends etc to be with him. We bought a house last oct'. However things have got so bad already. He is very strict and sometimes ruthless with my 15 yr old son. It is like ... (342 words)

How to safely store nudes on a computer and iPhone?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2974 days ago

30 October 2016 (F)

age 26-29 - Hey there! Thank you in advance: How to safely store nudes? My boyfriend and I are long distance and have been together for a year and a half. We meet fairly regularly and very rarely send underwear pictures because we're both insecure/self-conscious, but now... (91 words)

I want to dump him but don't want to hurt him

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2974 days ago

30 October 2016 (F)

age 18-21 - I go out with this boy and he loves me so much and I don't want to hurt him, but I don't love him as much. I want to dump him but I'm afraid that he will hate me and possibly regret ever going out with me. Any advice?... (49 words)

I'm on vacation with girlfriend but found out she wants to break up with me. What do I do now?

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 2971 days ago

30 October 2016 (M)

age 41-50 - Ok so I'm on holiday in Tenerife with my girlfriend of 4 months and I have just found out she wants to end it with me either during or after the holiday. I've read messages between her and her mum who is encouraging her to "get shot as I'm not good enough for her daughter even ... (213 words)

Can anyone deceipher what her actions mean?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2973 days ago

30 October 2016 (M)

age 30-35 - i was looking down and doing my work and then when I looked up I saw the girl i liked looking at me and smiling then she looked down at my chest while still smiling then she looked up at my face while still smiling so I just looked away..then when I was talking to one of ... (138 words)

Can't shake feeling that ex will come back

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2974 days ago

30 October 2016 (F)

age 30-35 - My ex and I had a LDR for 1 month shy of 2 years. During the relationship there were many fights, and we'd often break up and reconcile constantly - sometimes multiple times a month. I'm very aware that a bulk of our problems came from me lying to him constantly, mostly wanting ... (190 words)

Is it a red flag if a guy online refuses to give out his contact information before meeting in person?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2974 days ago

29 October 2016 (F)

age 41-50 - Is it a red flag if a guy online refuses to give out his contact information before meeting in person? I found this one guy online who seems to be exactly my type. We exchanged a few messages (he started the conversation) and then he asked me out for a drink. I couldn't go that ... (200 words)

I gave him my number, he hasn't called and I can't call him!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2974 days ago

29 October 2016 (F)

age 18-21 - I met a boy when we were both on holiday and I gave him my number. We were in a place with no mobile signal and no wifi so he promised to text/call me when he got home. I know that he got home 5 days ago and he still hasn't got in contact with me. I can't contact him as I did ... (73 words)

What rights do I have as a grandparent?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 2970 days ago

29 October 2016 (F)

age 51-59 - Dear Cupid, I am a grandparent of a now 2 year old grandson.My grandson is constantly in and out of CPS because my daughter is involved with the child's father and he is the one abusing him.Now I am trying to get visitation rights and she told the caseworker that she doesn't ... (138 words)

How do I become dominant for this guy?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2975 days ago

29 October 2016 (M)

age 30-35 - I am mid twenties and I have always shied away from topping due to problems with premature ejaculation. I have also never really felt truly comfortable with sex because I used to be very overweight and have never felt sexy. So mostly I bottom and don't really enjoy it much. I... (231 words)

I've never dated and have started wondering what's the point?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2975 days ago

29 October 2016 (M)

age 30-35 - A bit of background info. I'm a 25 year old guy whose never been on a date or with a girl at all. For as long as long as I can remember i've severely lacked the confidence in myself to approach a girl i like let alone ask her out and the few times I actually have, it's ended up ... (391 words)

What's up with this man? Why does he try to look good when I'm around?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2975 days ago

29 October 2016 (F) age 26-29 - Hello there! 3 years ago, a male in his early twenties was hired in my school as an teacher. I met him because he became an assistant moderator for the club I went to. During the first year, we treated each other as friends... but in the second year (when I wasn't part of the ... (180 words)

I'm dating my friend's ex wife and don't know how to tell him but if I don't she will!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2975 days ago

29 October 2016 (M)

age 30-35 - Greg [age:40] was my [age:27] roommate for 5 months and we have been friends ever since. He would tell me about how he was madly in love with his wife Crystal [Age:30], but they fought too much, that's why they were trying separation for a couple months (that's why I was his ... (678 words)

I'm a bit apprehensive about reuniting with my long distance boyfriend

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2975 days ago

28 October 2016 (F)

age 26-29 - I'm in a long distance relationship at the moment. We hadn't been together a great amount of time before going long distance (4/5 months) anyway we've been apart for 2 months now and have less than a month til we see each other again. We havent been able to keep in as much con... (193 words)

How do I inform my family that I'm dating my second cousin?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2960 days ago

28 October 2016 (M)

age 36-40 - About two years ago, I moved to the same city that my second cousin, Brooke, lives in. The rest of her family (parents and sister) and my family (parents and brother) lives back in the same town we grew up in. She is 30 years old and I am 31 years old. About a year a... (177 words)

My mother is draining the life out of me

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2973 days ago

28 October 2016 (F)

age 30-35 - I can not handle my mother anymore. I don't know what to do. I don't even know where to start to explain the situation. I'll start with what happened most recently. I was supposed to come down this weekend to help her pack and clean her apartment (She's moving due to fi... (696 words)

I've fallen in love with this guy, but after our complicated past together I don't know where we stand. How do I handle seeing him again ?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2975 days ago

28 October 2016 (F)

age 26-29 - Hi guys... I'll start from the beginning. I have met someone at university two yeas ago who I have a very long history with ever since then. We met in our second year after he just enrolled.We officially met at a party I was throwing in my house. We hit it off immediately and ... (992 words)

Girls seem to show interest in me, but why don't they want to date me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2974 days ago

28 October 2016 (M)

age 30-35 - So I meet this girl at work and we started talking and I was surprised at how easy and effortless it was to talk to her. We seemed to share many same hobbies and stuff. She seemed to like me and was single at the time, anyways while we were talking one day she says she likes to ... (570 words)

Why am I afraid of loving him? He's serious about me and the chemistry is intense

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2945 days ago

28 October 2016 (F)

age 30-35 - Why am I afraid of loving him? I met him a year and 5 months ago at a salon were he did my hair I remember we had such a great conversion as he was busy with my hair, after that he asked to call me and he took my number from the register, ever since than he has been calling me ... (224 words)

First time sex wasn't good for my g/f and I want to help next time be better

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2975 days ago

28 October 2016 (M)

age 26-29 - My gf and I attempted sex for the first time… and it was a little rockier a process than we had initially anticipated! When i tried to go in, it wouldn’t go in past the tip. In addition my gf was not getting to feel it that much. I felt really embarrassed about this and I ... (165 words)

Guy in my class possibly likes me or no?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2976 days ago

28 October 2016 (F)

age 30-35 - So this guy sits next to me in my class. He's playful with me when we text and talk in class and everything, but the only times he will INITIATE contact is when it's something to do with our class/an assignment. We have met up before to work on assignments together, however I ... (130 words)

I broke up with my ex, like a new girl but don't know if I should date her because it would ruin any future my ex and I might have

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2976 days ago

28 October 2016 (M)

age 26-29 - I'm 18 and in my first year at uni. Me and my long term (1 year and 3 months) girlfriend moved to different areas of the country for uni (about 1hour 30mins by car apart) and due to a number of reasons (including distance, lack of time for each other, worrying if they were ... (471 words)

Guy wants me to swing with him

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 2976 days ago

27 October 2016 (F)

age 30-35 - Me and this guy have been, not dating, but exclusive FWB. He been wanting a threesome. I ask what his other fantasy is. Sex in public. Lesser of two evils, I agreed to try. So he's been dragging me to sex shops. 6 months into the "relationship", he keeps bringing up ... (87 words)

I don't feel comfortable with my boyfriend's parenting

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2973 days ago

27 October 2016 (F)

age 41-50 - I have been dating a man with a 13 year old daughter for 5 months and feel ready to meet her. I thought I was anyway. He is still drying her after a shower on her back and her legs. She is going through puberty and has all the maturing parts of a teenager. I am struggling with ... (191 words)

My cheating partner found out I got my girlfriend married, up and left her husband. I can't believe how she has changed!

This question has 20 answers - newest was posted 2974 days ago

27 October 2016 (M)

age 41-50 - Ive got a problem story that I have bought on myself and im not looking for sympathy as I know ive done wrong.7.5 years ago my friend and his new girlfriend came to my house and for some silly reason me and her hit it off from the start.aA few months later after alcohol the ... (228 words)

Does anyone know the signs of a porn addict?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2976 days ago

27 October 2016 (F)

age 41-50 - Does anyone know the signs (no matter how subtle) of a porn addict as im trying to end a relationship as my mans totally given up having sex with me been saying he has no sex drive..the signs so far i have seen..a password has popped up on his laptop suddenly,he checks out ... (103 words)

Should I try dating her again? She's a good friend but she's played me in the past

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 2974 days ago

27 October 2016 (M)

age 36-40 - I am unsure what to choose. I have know a girl for over 4 years. In the first year I met her, I knew she was seeing guys (mostly footballers), and basically having fun. I bided my time to wait until she stopped seeing guys and wanted something serious. Towards the end ... (526 words)

Trust ring--what should I have engraved on it?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 2965 days ago

27 October 2016 (F)

age 18-21 - I lied to my boyfriend, and I made many mistakes. I'm getting him a promise ring and I want it to make up for all of that, to show him he can trust me and I won't ever make the same mistakes again. What should be engraved on the ring? ... (50 words)

Is my brother in law attracted to me?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2977 days ago

27 October 2016 (F)

age 30-35 - I've known "BIL" (long term bfs brother) through a friend for a long time but we've never got to properly know each other as I'm quite shy but I have became more outgoing through the years. I also think this is to do with his wife as she is very possessive but with good reason ... (610 words)

Does anyone have any experience of feeling "numb" after a relationship?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2976 days ago

27 October 2016 (F)

age 41-50 - About 2 weeks ago my boyfriend dumped me. We had been together one year and friends for 3. Everything was great in our relationship, we had lots in common and planned to spend the rest of our lives with each other. 2 weeks before we broke up we started arguing about me trusting... (365 words)

Can you ruin chances with Mr. Right due to dating inexperience?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2977 days ago

27 October 2016 (F)

age 30-35 - I guess you can say that I am not a dating expert at all, so I've had my fair share of unsuccessful dates. I'm in my early 20s and started dating around 19. I recently picked up a few books on dating and read all the tips and do's/don't of dating. As I was reading, I realized ... (219 words)