My best freind is starting to get into drugs, alcohole and sex. How can I help him?
Q. My best freind is starting to get into drugs, alcahole, and sex. I;m verry worried about him. I love him like a brother and he used to be a good kid. I want to interfere but I don't know how to without ruining our freindship. Please someone help ...
A. 27 January 2008: Laura is right. All you can do is not judge him and be there for him when he needs you. He might have to learn the hard way but he'll find out who is true friend is in time.
In the meantime you could get to know somemore about drugs and alco... (read in full...)
How does one fake being confident, when in reality s/he is shy?
Q. hey im a quite shy person. expecially with new people, i never know what to talk about. people always say fake it till you make it well i dont know how how can i fake being confident/outgoing? xoxo...
A. 27 January 2008: The 'fake it til you make it' thing really works - I'm walking proof! I'd say think of someone you know that oozes confidence and whenever you're stuck for what to say when making small talk, just think what they would say. Watch how they show ... (read in full...)
Mind games have me nuts
Q. Hello, If you can give me some advice that would be great. Let me briefly summarize my story- it's rather complicated! So to begin with about 2 years ago I started dating/talking to "Bob" although we never labeled it a rel...
A. 27 January 2008: I can't offer much advice, I just thought you'd like to know your not the only person going through something like this, and it does get better with time.
Just try not to focus on it too much, get out and meet new people.
Take care
xxx... (read in full...)
Breaking on through to the other side
Q. i feel like i have/going to miss out on so much in life because of my shyness. i find it hard to bring up conversations, and most of the time in social situations i just stand there, not talking. however, when im with my frends, i can be so t...
A. 27 January 2008: If you fake confidence enough then eventually it will become real. Just think of someone who you know and admire and see how they act in the social situations that you are afraid of. If you don't know what to say then just think what they would ... (read in full...)
Neen advice on how to deal with my 16 year old nephew who is troubled.
Q. My 16yo nephew who is living with his grandparents is being verbally abusive towards them as well as my wife and her sister (his mother). This all started a few months ago when he decided he didn't want to live with his mother and her new husband ...
A. 20 January 2008: The kid needs to be taught some respect. Everything that rcn says makes sense, and I think talking to him and empathising with him would be a good idea. Make sure he knows that someone cares. But thats not the same as letting him get away with ... (read in full...)
What should I get my good friend...for her birthday?
Q. What should i get my friend for her birthday? We are not in a relationship,but i do have feelings for her. She got me something for my birthday so i feel that i need to get her something. Unfortunately i have no idea what to get her. I asked advice ...
A. 19 January 2008: Make her a card! With photos on it, or with a private joke that only you and your friend would understand. Thats an understated way to show you care enough to put effort in. As long as you don't make it smushy then it won't be too lovey-dovey.
A... (read in full...)
I'm afraid to go places, for fear that people will ridicule me or bully me!
Q. sometimes i am afraid to go out, because i'm afraid people are going to make fun of me, laugh at me, and call me names such as ugly, EW, and etc.There was this one situation during summer I was at a store a random women told her friend that I am ...
A. 19 January 2008: I'm sure you're nowhere near as unattractive as you feel. If you're young, healthy and happy then you can't help but be beautiful in your own way. Beauty is definitely relative.
But you don't sound very happy. And I think that's something only... (read in full...)
She's split up with he bf but not said a word...what should I do??
Q. There is someone i like and asked out a few months back. At the time she said that she had a bf but still liked me. She recently broke up with her bf but hasn't said anything to me. I still like her but i don't know what to do! Should i say anyt...
A. 19 January 2008: I agree! Go for it! If she says yes, then thats great, and if she doesn't then at least you can start to move on.
Good luck!!
xxx... (read in full...)
Should I be offended???
Q. i was talking to my friend about this boy who i meet who she knows and she said that he will say i am ugly should i be offended by what she said too me?...
A. 10 January 2008: Yes! Sounds like she is jealous of you, ignore her and go for it anyway!!
Unless she meant that he is the sort of boy who tells girls they are ugly and she is trying to protect you from someone who is not worth your time?
I'm sure you can tel... (read in full...)
Should I go to the dance?
Q. Ok so at pretty much all of the dances I've been to, I didn't dance. I don't understand why I didn't but I think the major reason is because the people I hang with don't dance either. The next dance I have, should I hang out with the people I know ...
A. 7 October 2007: I don't really understand the problem. Go, and have fun, whether that means dancing or just hanging out. Just make sure that you enjoy yourself, nothing else matters.... (read in full...)
Shall I ask her out but risk our friendship? What would you do?
Q. i need help deciding. Would you recommend me to ask out a friend i like but risk our relationship or live with it and go crazy everytime she talks to me and makes my day amazin whenever with me. So shall i tell her my feelings or not? Thanks...
A. 7 October 2007: Go for it!! You will regret it if you don't, and its the only way that this situation can be resolved one way or the other. If your friendship is strong enough then it will survive even being knocked back.... (read in full...)
I fear her reaction. Should I ask her out?
Q. i want to ask a girl out. But i fear on her reaction. I want to do it face to face nothing else. But i just don't know how a kind, shy girl will react if they were told i like her? How would you girls/ladies react to a guy who was your friend a...
A. 7 October 2007: Haha this did happen to me the other day, and i'm sorry to tell you that it was extremely awkward!! But I don't think that should stop YOU going for it, because of course it depends on the two of you, plus you regret the things you don't do more ... (read in full...)
I told this guy I liked him then he said he liked me too but... later he told me he was drunk and didn't mean it! What should I do?
Q. Right.. there is this lad that i have liked for a year secretly and one night i got drunk and texted him telling him..He kept it to himself but told me he didn't like me that way. A week later we were on MSN and he told me he liked me too. I ...
A. 24 January 2007: This guy is a prick!! Next time he flirts with you, just smile at him sympathetically like he's some sort of retard, and dignifiedly walk away. Or else, laugh and give him your most withering look, and walk away shaking your head. It may no... (read in full...)
I'm 13 and this guy wants me to give him a blowjob. I agreed to this because I'm in love with him. What shall I do now?
Q. Hey, I really like this boy and he really likes me, He asked me to give him a blowjob next weekend and I said yes, he wants to do more than that and i said maybe. I love him sooo much and he said he really likes me but hes got a girlfriend. What ...
A. 24 January 2007: Hey honey, A guy friend of mine once told me that most guys can easily split girls they meet up into 2 categories... girls who are 'girlfriend material' and girls who 'fun for now'. Guys will never consider 'Fun for now' girls as girlfrie... (read in full...)
I've got this girl's number but I'm scared to call her! I don't know what to say. Please help me!
Q. Well, the other night at a concert i got this girls number and have yet to call her. i mean i like her and all, she is an awesome girl, but i don't know if she likes me back, you know wat i mean. i asked for it and she gave it to me. but i dont know ...
A. 24 January 2007: CALL HER!!
She's probably sitting by her phone waiting for you, and besides you have nothing to lose!
Just ask her if she wants to do something over the weekend. Simple.... (read in full...)
I said I liked him, but I've had a change of heart! He just asked me out - should I give it a try or just say no?
Q. im 16 and this other 16 year old boy fancies me. hes kinda a friend. we talk but we r not like close friends. well he told my boy mate that he fancies me and my boy mate told me. i said to my boy mate i probably would go out wiv him and i did fa...
A. 23 December 2006: I'd say you regret the things that you don't do way more than the things that you do. Let this guy know that you want to give it a try, but you want to take things really slowly so you can work out how you feel. Make sure he knows where he stands. ... (read in full...)
We're meant to be going out but I find it easier to chat with her on IM!
Q. Hi, I'm 15 and have just asked someone out on an Instant, and she has said yes but it is still really akward. I hardly ever talk to her actually at my school and only really get to talk to her properly on an instant messenger. I find this easier, ...
A. 23 December 2006: If you talk to her on IM then you probably know quite a lot about her... what she likes, what she dislikes, her favourite bands and so on. Use this sort of stuff to talk to her in the flesh. Don't expect conversation to flow too easily at first, ... (read in full...)
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