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writes:i want to ask a girl out. But i fear on her reaction. I want to do it face to face nothing else. But i just don't know how a kind, shy girl will react if they were told i like her?How would you girls/ladies react to a guy who was your friend asked you out?Would you be embarrassed and run a mile? Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks all for the brilliant answers. It really helped me! Bit more details are we're both 17. Friends, go school together. Usually talk everyday with at least a hi when we see each other around. Apart from that not much but we feel comfortable talkin on phone and long conversations etc.
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reader, nflguy  +, writes (8 October 2007):
You need to provide more details. How old are you both? How long have you known her? Is she currently involved with someone? The best thing would be to take her to dinner and during dessert tell her that you have feelings for her and would like to date her. Then quickly say that you just want her to think it over and that you don't expect an answer right away. This way she doesn't feel ambushed. If you have feelings for her then its worth the risk to tell her. Trust me! I chased my wife for 10 yrs before I told her how I felt. I have regretted those 10 yrs ever since. I should have told her right away.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2007): well personally, i myself love all boys so if a guy asks me out i probably would say yes. not be be actually serious just to get to noe him. then if i find out that hes a nice guy i would want ot go further in the relationship. i would go for it and ask her out. i always encourage boys to ask ppl out cuz ppl in my skool are so afraid of being affectionate to other ppl and it really drives me crazy. thats why wen theres the rare ocassion that i say no to a boy i tell him to go and keep on trying with girls because i dont want him to be scared for life, tell his friends that you should never ask a girl out because shell say no, and then everyone is screwed. those are my words of wisdom. : D
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reader, sarasexypants +, writes (8 October 2007):
I'm a pretty shy girl when it comes to this stuff,
but I know for a fact I would want a guy to tell me how he feels about me and ask me out to my face. Trust me, I encourage you to do it. It also shows that you are not a freak as to where you would ask her out online... so I think it will go perfectly fine. Good luck!
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reader, rcn +, writes (7 October 2007):
 She may be shy and nice, but she's still a girl. Just because she has a shy personality, doesn't mean she's not waiting for someone to see through her being shy and ask her out.
Do it as a friend during conversation. "You know your a good friend, I enjoy talking to you and hanging out, is there a change you might consider going out with me sometime?
Use the word consider, that way she doesn't feel as if your pressuring her, and that word alone speaks of handing her the opportunity to make a choice, It also reinforced it's her decision and you won't hold it against her if she's not ready to go out with anyone.
There was a girl I dated when I was younger. She wasn't that popular, and kept to herself, my asking her out I bet made her year. We were together for just about the whole school year. You asking her out might be what she's waiting for.
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reader, violentviolet +, writes (7 October 2007):
 Haha this did happen to me the other day, and i'm sorry to tell you that it was extremely awkward!! But I don't think that should stop YOU going for it, because of course it depends on the two of you, plus you regret the things you don't do more than the things that you do. If you're worried about her reaction then why not try and break it to her more slowly, by dropping lots of hints before you finally go for it?
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reader, Enzian  +, writes (7 October 2007):
 Hi there
I allways feel/felt very honoured when a guy asks me out and I'm sure most of other girls and ladies feel that too (except when I knew he just wanted sex or my money or anything from me, but it is not real interest in my person. Then I would be nasty. But thats not the case for your situation.)
But how would they react? I was always very nervous and don't really know what I sould do and probably confused the asker. But that's very different for every girl/lady and the situation. Everyone is unique and reacts in it's own way.
My advise for you is simply: Give it a try! If you don't try you won't know the answer. And the answer will be alright anyway in the sense that you then know where you stand.
Good luck!
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reader, Ricky +, writes (7 October 2007):
Do you care about her as a friend or just want to go out with her because you will automatically get access to her physically as well if she says yes? You have to figure out your feelings for her before you ask her out. Will you be hurt if she says no or will her refusal end your friendship with her? Once you have put everything in order then approach her by asking her what qualities does she look for in a bf. She's your friend so she will tell you and you can go from there.
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