I think I'm in love, but I'm not sure if this girl is The One...
Q. What to do? I'm 16 year old, young hispanic male who has fallen in love for the first time and I'm willing to do any thing for my girlfriend ,but I'm not sure if she is the one. This isn't the only question I have, if you are interested in he...
A. 18 May 2005: Do you think about your girl all the time? Does you constantly slip in and out of your thoughts? Do you think that you world would fall apart if she was not in it? If you said yes then you are in love and she may be the one for you at this moment ... (read in full...)
How should I respond when my boyfriend kisses me on the cheek?
Q. Ok, I recently got a new boyfriend, and I really like him. The other day he kissed me on the cheek, and I didn't know what to do. I want to show him that I care about him, and I liked it when he kissed me, I just don't know how to respond. So, my ...
A. 18 May 2005: A kiss on the cheek is a good sign. Next time he kisses you on the cheek, kiss his cheek back.... (read in full...)
Although I'm engaged, I want to ask someone from work to hang out. What do I do about my fiance?
Q. I am engaged to be married - I started this new job and I am VERY attracted to someone here that is single and we flirt back and forth often. I want to ask this person to hang out but I don't know what to do about my fiance. Please help! ...
A. 18 May 2005: You are engaged. So that means that you are planning on spending the rest of your life with one person. No more "hanging out ie kissing, making out, sex" with anyone else. Right? You can't be engaged and date. The two don't go together. They ... (read in full...)
I'm engaged to marry the father of my kids, but he doesn't thrill me like I wish he did!
Q. I just got engaged to the father of my two children. Last year he went really strange and broke up with me while I was pregnant then I found out he had started seeing somebody else... It took him a year but he realised his mistakes and regrets them ...
A. 18 May 2005: You can't marry someone when you are having an affair. Well, I guess technically you can, but you shouldn't! So here are your choices, call it off with Peter and marry the father of your children. OR choice number two have the affair with Peter ... (read in full...)
I get irritated when my b/f tells me to "relax", even when I know it's the right thing to do...
Q. I've been having quite a strained relationship with my bf lately. Firstly we don't really see each other very often, only about once a week, so we don't have the luxury of time when it comes to solving our issues. He feels that I need to relax mo...
A. 18 May 2005: Try this. When you are talking about a problem say" I just need you to listen to me. I don't need any advice and I don't need you to try to solve it. I just need to talk and I need you to listen." Maybe by talking out your problem without ... (read in full...)
I just don't trust him any more. Is it time to let him go, or do we try to work it out?
Q. I have been dating this guy for 2 years. He was controlling, and for a while I thought I'd be the one breaking up with him. He came back home from college because he was homesick and then found an apartment, where he moved in, with his cousin. I...
A. 18 May 2005: You can't love someone you can't trust. You will always be wondering where he is and what he is doing, and if he is just stringing you along. Take a break from him. Go out on some other dates with some men. Play the field. Then if you feel that ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend doesn't work and I don't feel loved. Now she says "we get engaged or there's no us"...
Q. Hi, this is my first attempt at something like this so please bear with me, and thanks for anyone who replies. Me and my X would have been together for 3 years in August. We have had are fair share of ups and downs, and we are both to blame. M...
A. 17 May 2005: Don't ask her to marry you. Not yet anyway. She needs help. Professional help. Anyone who can try to take their own life is seriuosly depressed. Tell her you love her, but you want her to get counseling. Tell her you will go with her. Then if ... (read in full...)
It's painful to be without my ex... How do I get this off my mind?
Q. Ok, I really need some advice having to do with my "ex" (god it hurts to say that) girlfriend breaking up with me. We have had a long distance relationship for about 2 years and managed to see each other once every few weeks including summers/...
A. 17 May 2005: The first thing you must realize is that you can not make a person change. No matter how bad you are hurting, no matter how much you want it, no matter how much you miss her, you can not make her change the way she feels about you. And that total... (read in full...)
First he ended it abruptly, now he wants to start up again. My head is spinning...
Q. I'm a 22 year old girl and I very quickly fell in love with someone and then he abruptly finished it. Although it was only a few weeks we had grown very close and spent as much time as we could together. There was no real warning that it was going ...
A. 17 May 2005: You don't mention if sex is involved. Is it? Is he calling you up, and you think that you might work things out and get back together and he thinks that he has someone he can have a quickie with? Love hurts. And it is never easy. But if th... (read in full...)
My still-married boyfriend says he doesn't have the time or money to file for divorce....
Q. I am currently in a relationship with a man that is still married. I have been waiting for 2 and a half years for him to file for a divorce but he keeps telling me that he does not have the money to hire a lawyer and he does not have time to go to ...
A. 17 May 2005: Two years in a relationship is a long time, and your very married guy doesn't deserve another chance, but I have been in your shoes. I know exactly how you will feel if you don't give him one more chance. I don't like saying give him an ultimatum... (read in full...)
We've been friends for ages, but he's been acting like a creep and seeing other girls. Do I try to stay friends?
Q. Remind me to take you guys' advice next time. I got myself into another pickle. See, my ex was saying how stupid it was for him to break up with me, and that he was regretting it. Well he failed to mention that he was already going out with another ...
A. 16 May 2005: The question is WHY WOULD YOU WANT TO BE FRIENDS WITH A CREEP? ... (read in full...)
Since he started the new job, my b/f seems to want to break it off. What's happening?
Q. I have to fill you in first... my boyfriend and I have been dating for 7 months and it has been perfect. We never fought or argued. Everything about us was so right. Now he has started a new job in another city about two hours away. This weekend ...
A. 16 May 2005: I don't know if you can help him. I just think that he is busy living his life and that he wants you to live his life. Are you moving to where he is to be with him? I hope not. If you are moving for a job or family or other reasons then tha... (read in full...)
I'm 12 and the girl I like is 16. Are we friends... or something more?
Q. Okay here it is. I like this girl who is 16 and I'm 12. We slowly started being friends when we met at my school and started talking online after school and talk for a long time, for probably about like 4 hours and after a while of that she gave me ...
A. 16 May 2005: You have to remember that she is four years older than you. She is in high school and you are still in grade school. I would say that based on what you have written, you are just friends. But being friends is a good thing. She is going to be b... (read in full...)
When he split from his ex, he also cut me out so he could "deal with it". What's going on?
Q. I have been seeing a lad on and off for the past 3 years. We was both with someone when it started, we both split with our exes but we was still friends. He met someone else and we carried on having an affair. Cut a story short, a month ago he s...
A. 13 May 2005: Having an affair is hard work. Maybe he just couldn't handle it any more. Maybe he got caught. Maybe he realized that seeing two women was not the best thing to do. Maybe he is trying to decide which women he wants to be with. Maybe he met ... (read in full...)
My b/f says he loves me, but we never talk and he doesn't want to spend time with me...
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years,. Things were great at first, but now he hardly talks to me. I was supposed to move in with him about two months ago, but didn't. He says he loves me, but I'm not so sure. He goes out drinking with his frie...
A. 13 May 2005: The problem in this relationship can be any number of things. I doubt seriously that you are the problem. Moving in with someone is a huge and very scary commitment. It is more than just "playing house." It is spending time together, talking, ... (read in full...)
I know I can't have her, because she already has a boyfriend, but we have something special...
Q. What's Up Doc? Look I am a college student who came from the South Pacific to study in the US four years ago. When I finally had the chance to go back to visit my hometown down in the Pacific, I met this old friend of mine. We used to be c...
A. 13 May 2005: I would do what she asks you to do. Be patient. She has her own personal problems to work through. If she cares for you and feels the same way for you, then she will not forget you. Maybe once she works through her own problems she will contact ... (read in full...)
I kicked him out after he cheated. Now I wonder if he'll ever reform his ways...
Q. My live in boyfriend cheated on me last year by getting a happy ending massage. I found a credit card receipt for the massage parlor hanging out of his wallet. (Obviously, he's not that witty when it comes to covering his tracks). It was deva...
A. 12 May 2005: Once a cheater always a cheater. That is the rule. And if your guy is the exception to the rule, that is a good thing. But can you trust him again. You will always be wondering if he is where he says he is, if he is doing what he says he is ... (read in full...)
I don't know what to say to my best friend when she complains about her cheating husband!
Q. My best friend just found out that her husband is cheating on her. Our relationship has become very strained. She gets very defensive when I give her advice or ask her how she knows certain information that she has found out about her husband. This ...
A. 12 May 2005: It sounds like your friend just wants to vent. So let her. Don't offer any advice. Just listen to her. Then if she asks for your advice, be honest, just say, I don't think that I can help you with this problem, but I know of a good therapist who ... (read in full...)
Does my guy really have no time to spend with me, or is he telling me something else?
Q. He say's he needs a break. I have been seeing a wonderful man, who says he loves me, and I know I love him. It seems now he wants a break, he says he has a lot going on in his life right now,(work, kids and family)and does not feel he can give me ...
A. 12 May 2005: Sometimes, men get scared. They have a good thing going and it scares them. They realize that the girl that they are dating might be "the one" and they freak out. Of course, they will never admit it. Often, they need a break to sort out their ... (read in full...)
I've fallen hard for my online boyfriend, but he has one odd and annoying habit...
Q. I have been chatting to this guy on the net for 9 months now. I have fallen so hard for him and he has told me that he feels the same way. We get along so well most of the time, but he has this habit of going offline when we have an argument and ...
A. 12 May 2005: You are the one who is always in the wrong? Relationships (even online relationships) take two people, and very rarely is someone always in the wrong. Sometimes online relatioships can work out, but they take the work of two people, over time, and ... (read in full...)
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