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By no means professionaly qualified in any way I have however been supplying dating and relationship services for over six years.
Men and women seem to me to be seperate species at times and I seem to see the same problems coming up generation after generation.
I the same as you have my own outlook on life, everybody is different but human nature seems to be the same no matter what age you are.
I can only comment on problems using my own personal experiences.
If I help you in your problem or give you a new angle of looking at things then well to the good.
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Do we stay together for the kids or should I just pack this in?
Q. I am 39, have 3 children under 10, one from a previous marriage. I live with my partner and he is the most ignorant person I have ever met. I got pregnant 10 months afte meeting him and I didn't think it was fair to freeze him out of our lives, so I ...
A. 10 October 2006: Hello Anon.
Nice pickle eh?
I don't know you, I don't know your partner and I don't know your kids, but I've known many like you.
Seems to me that there has not been any love in your relationship and it's just been "convenient" for you... (read in full...)
How do I give good head?
Q. i have given head b4 (blow job) but how do i know im doing it right? any sugestions on how 2 give a BJ....?...
A. 29 September 2006: Gently, at least initially. Fondling as opposed to holding his balls may be better, during normal intercourse the scrotum is repeatably struck against your inner leg which stimulates sperm production and heightens pleasure, so simulating this can... (read in full...)
How do I act at a wake...will I even be welcome?
Q. i have a (hopefully) simple question to ask. what are you supposed to do at a wake? my boyfriend's grandfather died this morning and he is devastated. i'm doing my best to support him, by comforting him, cheering him up, and lending him a sh...
A. 29 September 2006: Firstly check with his parents that it would be OK for you to attend the wake, as this is a Catholic event emotions will be running high in the religious department. If it is acceptable for you to attend then all other considerations are minor. ... (read in full...)
My gf of 5 years admitted that she slept with her female friend and now is doubting her sexuality! Please help!!
Q. I am 41 and my girlfriend is 30. My girlfriend has admitted to me that she slept with another woman (her close friend) I have been in a good strong relationship with her for 5 years and everything was fantastic. At first I thought she just wanted to ...
A. 9 September 2006: Life ain't simple is it?
Sounds to me like this is both of yours first real committed relationship?
I don't know your personal backgrounds or your upbringing which makes things more difficult for me but, I have to presume that one or both of you d... (read in full...)
Is the age gap to much???
Q. well, recently i made a post about a guy i liked who i met at college. i am seventeen but on my post before this i said i didnt know how old the guy was, well i just found out and he is 26, i am gutted.he has asked me out tomorrow for drink. i...
A. 8 September 2006: AAargh!!
My partner Helen is 60 and I am 53.
We have the most beautiful relationship that any body could ask for!
Age is of no importance, what is important are your feelings for each other, maybe your relationship will last and maybe it won't but... (read in full...)
She is still in contact with the ex, but swears its me she loves despite having feelings for him! What should I do ?
Q. Me and this girl started dating recently (a couple months ago). She was in a relationship for almost 3 years with a guy she swore she wasn't happy with. Well we kept talking and we are dating now. She broke up with him beacause she wasn't happy and ...
A. 8 September 2006: If she has been in a relationship for 3 years there are bound to be ties between her and her ex.
She possibly will retain links with him because he is the devil that she knows as opposed to the one that she doesn't (you). Long distance rela... (read in full...)
My BF just won't open up to me on the phone...
Q. I'm in a distant relationship with my boyfriend. He calls me every night just to talk about what happen at work and such. I like the idea that he'll call me everynight. However, I feel like I'm always the one talking, and he's just listening. He ...
A. 8 September 2006: In my experience a lot of men do not like talking about things that are happening in their lives.
Something built in maybe? Perhaps it makes them feel vunerable?
I know girls discuss everything, oh to be a fly on the wall!
Men discuss very little,... (read in full...)
Should she use a vibrator or not??
Q. I am in my fifties been married and had sexual experience.....I have a girl freind i have known for many years and she has been ill with ME for 8 yrs she is 35 and a virgin. She says until recently she has never had any sex drive but now after so...
A. 7 September 2006: Whatever turns you (her) on. I think though that you should both use it, and why did you say little? A life size model would surely be better? Your partner may possibly have an aversion to semen, but also does she because of this avoid sexual ... (read in full...)
He goes floppy when I get on top!
Q. My boyfriend's penis goes floppy when I get on top it's really getting me down because I love being on top because I orgasm loads. But I feel like I can't satisfy him even when I'm wild on top. Please help. If anyone has any ideas to what is wrong ...
A. 7 September 2006: Must say that domination rules!
Personally I find it wonderful with the woman on top, I know that she is getting the best from the coupling because she has total control of the pleasure wand.
It also takes me a lot longer to climax which in my mi... (read in full...)
I can't find where to put my penis when I try to have sex!
Q. Hi, i'm an 18 year old male and twice I have gone to have sex with a girl. The first time I was very drunk and couldn't find where to put my penis but I put it down to me being drunk. But a few days ago I had a girl over and the scene was perfect ...
A. 7 September 2006: Ha!
Been there, done that, got the T-Shirt!
Rule 1:Relax!
Rule 2: Relax
Rule 3: Explore her body, SLOWLY!!!
There are no prizes for the speed that you enter a woman, in fact the longer that you can control yourself and pleasure your woman ... (read in full...)
How do I give a handjob?
Q. hello there wondering if anyone can help. im 18 and wondering how you give someone a hand job? like how hard do u do it and stuff like that? ...
A. 7 September 2006: Ariel just about got it, don't forget the lube!!
Also depending on your position you might like to think about doing it backwards?
Yes, I know you're confused, so in your minds eye imagine holding your mans tool, ok? Now imagine your hand the othe... (read in full...)
I don't want to stand in the way of his dreams but I don't want to break up either - help!
Q. I am feeling really sad right now :( A few weeks ago I met this guy and we hit it off instantly. We started dating and I grew to like him a lot- he was so nice and sweet, treated me well, was gorgeous...But then he was offered a place to live ove...
A. 7 September 2006: How old are you anon?... (read in full...)
Been having an affair for the past 5 years, he says he loves me but he won't leave his wife!
Q. I am 28 and been involved with a married man for the past 5 years. I love him to bits. He won't leave his wife but he says he loves me! What should i do? ...
A. 7 September 2006: Chances are he will not leave his wife!
There could be several reasons for this, perhaps he wants his cake and to eat it.
How about fear of recrimination from his spouse, financial security, children? The burden of additional financial strain, ... (read in full...)
She confessed how she felt then backed off.. we both love each other but she says it cannot work!!
Q. i'm in a rather odd situation in my life right now, and have no clue how to handle it. it started back about 7 or 8 months ago. this girl had a really big crush on me, yet we had never spoken at the time, so i had no clue. but one day, thinking ...
A. 7 September 2006: How old are you two? Sounds to me like you are two children exploring your sexuality! Decisions have to be made and paths taken, If "she" feels so strongly about you then she should have the courage to tell you, drop her present date and devote ... (read in full...)
Am I gay or a bisexual? If so - calling all potentials!
Q. I am 21 yrs old and for a long while now I have liked females a whole lot longer than males. I've slept with my best friend once and didn't like it and I hate to cuddle with guys and don't mind cuddling with females. I have kissed two girls (2...
A. 7 September 2006: Gay or Bi-sexual? Does it really matter? You are only 21 years old and unless you intend to cement your future in your sexuality, i.e. you have somebody that you REALLY love, I wouldn't worry! Back in the dark ages when I was your age there would... (read in full...)
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