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writes: i'm in a rather odd situation in my life right now, and have no clue how to handle it. it started back about 7 or 8 months ago. this girl had a really big crush on me, yet we had never spoken at the time, so i had no clue. but one day, thinking nothing of it, i just happened to come and sit next to her during a soccer game. almost instantaneously, i felt drawn to her and developed feelings for her, not knowing that she already had feelings for me. we parted ways and didn't speak again for a couple of months, and just admired each other from afar.eventually, i broke the silence and we began hanging out. one of the first things out of her mouth was how she had liked me so much for such a long time, and i told her i felt the same. but as we got to talking more, she informed me that she'd just began dating someone else 2 weeks prior. i was crushed, but we agreed to work on just being friends. so we built a really great relationship. she became one of my best friends...but you could tell there was more there between us than just that. i knew and so did she. but we tried to ignore it and make those feelings go away because they weren't practical. but eventually, we lost the battle and wound up hooking up, and confessed our feelings for each other. but afterwards, she informed me that it was a mistake, and that she needed to go back to her partner. and she said that she was going to make her feelings for me go away. i was upset, but tried to understand. but ever since then, we've only gotten closer and closer. to the point where she told me recently that she'd fallen for me, and had just pretended all this time that her feelings had faded. said she can't live without me and is crazy about me. but once again, she said that nothing can come of it right now because of her partner, and i'm crushed.i feel like since our feelings have been consistent throughout this whole situation, and have proven to last through us trying to get rid of them, it means that we have something special. i just don't know where to go from here. i know the girl loves me, but i just can't have her. do i wait for her, or move on? what should i do?
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reader, claire_x100 +, writes (18 September 2006):
 Well is there an age differnce? She just may feel scared , she might not of felt this way bout any one before. It can be a scary thing. Ive been in her situation before i was in love with this boy but jus didnt go for it i was soo scared that u felt this way bout him that it wouldnt last or getting hurt from it was jus too much. But in the end i realised that there was no point he was the only one i could think about. If she says to you she loves you and wants to be with ask her why u aint? If she says it wont work ask her why. Dont give up just yet try and speak to her if you cant get through then i suggest you slowly move on you never know she may realise when your with some one she made a mistake. You never know what you miss until you havent got it. Good Luck.
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reader, Robin +, writes (7 September 2006):
How old are you two?Sounds to me like you are two children exploring your sexuality!Decisions have to be made and paths taken, If "she" feels so strongly about you then she should have the courage to tell you, drop her present date and devote some time to your relationship.You need to assure her that you will stand by her, respect her decision and are willing to work toward a relationship.NOW!
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reader, finchy  +, writes (7 September 2006):
 I think you should move on for now, and in the future if you are both single see how it goes.
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